The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

If your husband never does anything romantic, it's just sad. You know he's capable of being sweeter. I bet he turned on the charm to get that ring on you. But now that you've put in all the hard work to build a life together, it's like he values you less, not more. If you want to revive the romance and make it last, you're in the right place. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about when your husband never does anything special for you. I'll share four concrete steps you can take today to start feeling desired, taken care of and special–pronto.

My guest Jessica's marriage was so lonely that she cried herself to sleep every night. They had big fights full of verbal onslaughts and criticism, especially about parenting, and she felt like her husband hated her. Her self-confidence and her marriage were at an all-time low when she Googled "how to stay married to a narcissist." She discovered something that changed the entire trajectory of their lives, and today she has a peaceful home filled with love and laughter. She's going to describe the steps she took to get there so you can get there too.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week if your marriage looks dark has me booing in horror.

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• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

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One of the things I was not very good at back in the bad old days was knowing how I felt. Even if I did know how I was feeling, I didn't know what to do about it. So I mostly complained! That was all I knew to do. But it wasn't good for my marriage and it wasn't good for my happiness. Fortunately, the breakdown in my marriage taught me to focus on myself and pay attention to myself more. That was key for helping me become a happier wife and therefore have a happier marriage, since only happy people have happy marriages. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about how to know what you're feeling and what to do about it.

My guest Susan felt so disconnected and unloved because her husband would often stay up until 3 a.m. relaxing but never with her. Nor did he help out with anything, so she felt like the only parent to their four children, which made her feel like she had a fifth child. But today she says her marriage is wonderful, with her husband always wanting to make her happy and giving her gifts, like a honeymoon. She's going to tell us what she did so you can do it too!

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week Award winner is from a doctor who advises that you sit down together with your man, each with pen and paper to answer these 26 questions. Sounds so helpful, right? Wrong! Brace yourself for some harmful hogwash!

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

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Sometimes when I'm talking to a woman who's struggling in her relationship and I mention feeling desired, cherished and adored, she looks disbelieving. Sure, she wants him to stop playing video games all the time, take out the trash before it's overflowing and pay more attention to her. Or if her relationship is in a crisis, she wants him to stop sleeping in the spare bedroom, texting another woman, or to move back home. But she can't imagine her man being tender, looking for ways to make her life easier and coming up behind her while she's cooking to kiss her neck. That seems completely unrealistic to her. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about how to use your feminine gifts in marriage so it's not pie in the sky.

My guest Tiana and her husband argued all the time: about finances, parenting, home decor, in-laws, and even things that they agreed on! But today she says "big deals" aren't such big deals anymore. Instead of arguing all the time, they are relaxed, with lighthearted teasing and laughing. She's going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.

The Worst Advice of the Week Award winner is from a student who sought support for her relationship and got a shocking response from the counselor. I'll let her explain in her own words.

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Listen and subscribe to the Empowered Wife podcast with New York Times bestselling author Laura Doyle, the world's most trusted relationship expert, so you can stop feeling lonely, exhausted and unloved and start feeling desired, taken care of and special again.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

When it's clear your husband doesn't like you, it feels really bad. Maybe he doesn't say it with words, but if he's always avoiding you, doesn't want to talk, won't come in for spontaneous kisses or cuddles, and just stares at his phone when you try to engage with him, that's a painful kind of rejection. It kinda makes you not like him either! And then you think what is the point of being married if we don't even like each other? It's annoying. And sad.

If you're anything like me though, even if you don't like your husband at the moment, you still want him to like you. I like being liked. Or maybe you do still like him but you're also hurting from knowing he doesn't like you, which feels very personal. People even say, "I love this person, but I don't like them right now." Meaning, I'm committed, but I'm not finding much enjoyment from my relationship with them right now. So the underlying message of feeling unliked by your husband is: "I don't enjoy your company." Ouch! On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about 4 solutions when your husband doesn't like you.

My guest Victoria cried to her mother a lot about not being her husband's number one priority. She was obsessed with him, but he was indifferent to her. On the rare occasions he wasn't working, he would find other things to keep him busy, which really hurt. Plus, he was missing out on the wonder years with their two little boys, and they were missing him. Not any more though. Today Victoria says she has her dream relationship being married to her best friend. All they do is play and joke and spend every waking moment together and with their boys. Dancing in the kitchen is a weekly occurrence, and their sex life is better than it has ever been! She's going to share the things she did so you can do them too!

The worst advice of the week award winner was sent to me by a student who found a syndicated advice columnist's answers appalling. And so did I! It's good advice if what you want is to break up your family.

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Listen and subscribe to the Empowered Wife podcast with New York Times bestselling author Laura Doyle, the world's most trusted relationship expert, so you can stop feeling lonely, exhausted and unloved and start feeling desired, taken care of and special again.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

When your husband is miserable and grumping around the house or hiding in his man cave, naturally you want to help pull him out of it somehow. But what if he's really committed to his suffering and your efforts don't seem to do any good? What if you get exhausted trying to cheer him up? It's lonely and irritating to be married to Mr. Misery, especially if it's been a while and it doesn't look like he'll be feeling sunny any time soon. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about 3 solutions when your husband is miserable.

My guest Jenna felt a recurring lack of attraction to her partner, who seemed weak and incompetent in many areas. Every time she attempted to express the hurt he was causing her, he would put up a wall. She felt so unheard and misunderstood. Then on New Year's Day he told her she was controlling. That sparked her to take action where she ended up relaxing more, and to her amazement, her man stepped up to help more. Ten months later, he proposed and now they are planning two weddings! What did she do to turn things around? She's going to explain so you can do it too.

The worst advice of the week is from a major online publication about habits that are sabotaging your relationship. Wait until you hear the dopey advice a couples therapist seems to think would help with communicating your needs. I can't EVEN keep my eyes from rolling out of my head!

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

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How do you keep a marriage alive after 20 years or more but also keep it sizzling? This is the secret sauce. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about what keeps a marriage together. I'll share 3 simple methods I use every day for lasting peace, playfulness and passion.

My guest Leann was lonely because her husband always had a hobby he was more interested in than spending time with her or the family. She was devastated when he stopped wearing his wedding ring, moved out, threatened divorce and spent his time with multiple other women. It seemed completely hopeless to make her marriage last. But when she changed up the script they had been following and took a totally different approach, her husband responded in a totally different way. He moved back in, bought new wedding rings and has become so affectionate and attentive.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week if you want your husband to get a better paying job is from a columnist in a major newspaper who gives some advice that sounds really wise and spiritual but is actually so cynical and sad!

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

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When your kids are getting yelled at, insulted or called terrible names by their own father, it's very hard to handle without interfering. It's hard to watch any kid treated harshly but almost unbearable when they're your babies. It's heart-wrenching to see their little faces fall and the tears start when clearly none of the treatment they're getting is warranted or fair. How in the world can you stay respectful when that's happening? I have no idea. I don't have kids, so I'm still the perfect mother (just like I was the perfect wife, right up until I got married). But I have these amazing students who share how they've transformed the dynamic in their homes and brought out the best in their husbands' interactions with their kids. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about how to make your husband a better dad.

My guest Danielle's husband was always angry because the house wasn't clean and the kids were being, well, kids. Their oldest child would hide from him, which broke Danielle's heart. She suspected that her husband had low self-esteem and an undiagnosed mental illness, but when she learned how to bring respect and speak positively she saw his confidence rise, and their marriage got so much better. It's not perfect, but today she says her marriage is happy and loving, and her kids are excited to see their dad. How did she do it? She's going to tell us.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week about how to avoid nagging is a classic from a major national publication and OMG does it stink!

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap