The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

Wouldn't it be a wonderful world if saying "We need to talk" made him gaze into your eyes and describe all the ways he's so in love with you? Or if telling him he needs to be more affectionate and attentive made him turn off the TV and gallantly sweep you off to the bedroom? Unfortunately, calling him out doesn't work. But if he's not taking initiative to be romantic and you can't tell him to do something about it, won't you have to suffer forever and just get your romance needs met by watching Hallmark movies? Fortunately, there is plenty you can do to inspire him to be more romantic without saying a word about what he's NOT doing. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about 4 ways to get the romance back.

My guest Maggie's marriage was full of verbal abuse, which was affecting their children and had her looking for nearby apartments. Her husband was so angry, resentful, critical and controlling. But today she says they have an indescribably deep connection and that he wants to take care of her heart. They're having so much fun together and, when they do fight, it doesn't last long and they can get back to their sweet spot fast. Her blended family feels healthy and strong.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week about how to know if you're better off ending your relationship is likely to lead to exactly that if you follow it.

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• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

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Does your husband always have friends over? Or talk to his best friend more than you? Whether he's a social butterfly or a barfly, not being his number one is downright disappointing. It can feel hopeless, lonely, and make you angry too! Going it alone surely isn't what you had in mind when you said "I do." On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about 3 moves for becoming his #1 priority. I'll share what to do when your husband puts his friends first so that you can become irresistible and get the attention you deserve.

My guest Melissa and her husband were discussing separation instead of celebrating their 10-year anniversary. They had stopped communicating about important stuff, which seemed like a good solution since most of their conversations turned into arguments, including discussions about parenting and his drinking. But when she cleaned up her side of the street, his reaction was beyond her wildest dreams! He started working to be a better person, quit drinking and wanted to be with her and the kids more. Today, she says they have so much more fun together and are so much more relaxed. She's going to describe the steps she took so you can copy them.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week is from an article in a major women's magazine about the signs that tell you your relationship is over, and wow is it ever far out and appalling!

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

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My guest, Matthew, is not a student on our campus but rather the husband of a new coach. He generously agreed to be part of our Man Panel series, and today I'll get his perspective on the changes in his family as a result of his wife using the Connection Framework and the 6 Intimacy Skills™. He's also going to answer anonymous questions from students on the husband's perspective. Get ready to hear what makes a man feel attracted to his wife and want to be her hero.

Matthew has had an extraordinary transformation in the last couple of years. He'll describe what it was like at his house before his wife started studying the Intimacy Skills along with the Connection Framework and what it's like now. He's going to explain why he gives his wife credit for his 18 months of sobriety and his 80-pound weight loss and how she motivated him to make those changes.

Matthew melted me right from the start of the interview, when he described how he feels about his wife. It was humbling to hear his incredible side of the story and his reactions to the changes as his wife was working to become a certified relationship coach. I learned so much from Matthew, who is one brave, open, and accountable guy!Now, imagine being his wife, who invited him on the show on my behalf to be a guest and talk openly about their marriage on a podcast that's downloaded by tens of thousands of listeners! Can you imagine the courage that must take? So I want to give a big shout-out to Matthew's wife for the gift of her husband sharing with us on this podcast! I'm incredibly grateful for your generosity and determination!

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

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My guest, Dr. Ben, is not a student on our campus but rather the husband of a student--and the father of two of our coaches! He agreed to be part of our Man Panel series, and today I'll get his perspective on the changes in his family as a result of his wife and two daughters having the Connection Framework and the 6 Intimacy Skills™. He's also going to answer anonymous questions from students on the husband's perspective.

Dr. Ben, who has been married for decades, will describe the challenges they faced at his house and what's different there today. He shares how he responded to his wife's changes and what he appreciates most about her now.

Dr. Ben was so honest, wise and willing to share deeply and personally about his many years of marriage, and once again I learned a lot!

Now, imagine being his wife, who invited him on the show on my behalf to be a guest and talk openly about their marriage on a podcast downloaded by tens of thousands of listeners! Can you imagine the courage that must take?

So I want to give a big shout-out to Dr. Ben's wife for the gift of her husband sharing with us here! I'm so grateful.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

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On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about insights from the husband of a ridiculously happy wife (part 2).

My guest Antonio is not a student or a book reader but rather the husband of a coach trainee. He generously agreed to be part of our Man Panel series! He'll share his perspective on the changes in his marriage as a result of his wife using the Connection Framework and the 6 Intimacy Skills™. You'll hear what makes a man feel attracted to his wife and want to be her hero.

Antonio is very forthright in admitting that he was inappropriate with another woman, which I so appreciate. He's going to describe what happened, what was going through his mind, and what his wife did to turn it all around and get him back. He shares how he responded and what he thought of the whole approach his wife took. Antonio was very open and willing to share deeply and personally about his marriage, and once again, I learned a lot! I especially loved hearing his accountability and what he loves about his wife.

Now, imagine being his wife, who invited him on the show on my behalf to be a guest and talk openly about their marriage on a podcast that's downloaded by tens of thousands of listeners! Can you imagine the courage that must take? So I want to give a big shout-out to Antonio's wife for fearlessly sharing her husband with us on this podcast. Thank you!

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I'm sharing insights from the husband of a Ridiculously Happy Wife. My guest, Len, is not a student or a book reader but rather the husband of a recently certified coach. He generously agreed to be part of our Man Panel series, and today I'm going to get his perspective on the changes in his family as a result of his wife using the Connection Framework and the 6 Intimacy Skills™. Prepare to hear the male perspective on what attracts men to their wives and makes them want to be our heroes.

Imagine that you're a husband who can't seem to make your wife happy, even though you've tried and tried. Then, out of nowhere, your wife starts saying things that she never has before, even though you've been married a long time. What goes through your head? How do you react? Len is going to describe his side of the journey when that happened at his house. I was nervous to meet Len because I knew I'd want to ask him some deeply personal questions, and I'm pretty sure you're not supposed to do that when you first meet someone. But Len was very open, generous and willing to share deeply about his marriage, and I have to admit, I learned a lot! I especially loved hearing his reaction when his wife started showing up differently, his thoughts about making her happy, and the transformation that he sees in his family. Now imagine being his wife, who invited him on the show on my behalf to be a guest and talk openly about their marriage on a podcast that's downloaded by tens of thousands of listeners! Can you imagine the courage that must take? So I want to give a big shout-out to Len's wife, Catherine, for fearlessly sharing her husband with us on this podcast! What a great gift.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

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It's lonely to be married to a workaholic. If he's not at work, he's sleeping or working from home. Or he's too tired from working so much to be much fun. He neglects not just you but also the kids. You feel like a single mom going to get-togethers without him, always for the same old reason: he has to work. If only you could get him to spend more time with the family. Well, you can. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about how to get more couple time with a workaholic. I'll share 4 ways to inspire him to linger and lounge with you.

My guest Sandy was so miserable and lonely in her marriage that she would sit in her closet and cry every day. Finally she got her husband to agree to go to marriage counseling! But she was mortified when he blew up at the counselor, saying it wasn't helping them at all. She felt hopeless and worried that he would always be resistant and harsh to her. But today her husband takes her on trips where he treats her like his girlfriend, and he helps around the house like never before. She describes their relationship as life-giving and says it's even more fun than when they were dating. She's going to explain how she did it.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week is about how boundaries are supposed to work but really don't. At all!

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

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On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about whether you should fake it. When I say "fake it," of course I'm talking about pretending you respect your husband even if you're not feeling it because he doesn't seem to deserve your respect. Wait, what did you think we were going to talk about? Oh, faking it in the bedroom! Funny you would bring that up while we're talking about respect because respect and passion are so thoroughly intertwined, in my experience. But what if you're struggling to muster respect when your husband has made so many bad choices or is so hostile or is always disappointing you or has hurt you so much? Then what? I'll share how to bring back the capable, considerate guy you married and get to relax more while you're at it.

My guest Amber's husband was so full of anger and rage that she and her son lived with a lot of verbal and emotional abuse. Affection and physical intimacy were scarce, but there was plenty of name-calling, yelling and disrespect. She was overwhelmed at the prospect of fixing her marriage. But she took action, which she's going to tell us all about, and today they are happy and constantly telling each other "I love you" and sharing gratitudes. Even the relationship between her husband and son is fun and kind. She's going to describe exactly how she transformed her marriage into something beautiful.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week is about what to do if you're married to a narcissist, according to one misinformed clinical psychologist. Wait until you hear this uninspiring and unoriginal bit of unwisdom.

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Can you think of someone you have a difficult time with? Whether it's a family member, colleague, or someone in your circle of friends, who in your life is driving you buggy? If you have someone in mind, good! Because today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast is about using the Six Intimacy Skills™ with everybody.

You get to be a fly on the wall in our monthly storytelling meeting, which is normally for coaches' ears only. But my coaches were vulnerable enough to let me share this private meeting because it's so empowering we couldn't keep it to ourselves.

That's because we're talking about how we use the Intimacy Skills not just with our husbands but with others in our lives too. And how this not only helps us create connection, ease and love everywhere we go but makes us feel more dignified and confident. I'll share true stories of how Certified Laura Doyle Relationship Coaches have used the Intimacy Skills with everyone they want to feel connection and love with (or at least not animosity and tension), including in-laws, parents, children and friends.

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

When you have unpleasant things happening at your house, things that seem embarrassing or shameful, you tend to keep them a secret. At least that was my strategy early on and that of many of my students. We didn't want anyone to know that our marriages were dysfunctional, distant, and falling apart. There aren't many places you can go to share about the painful, scary parts of your marriage without either losing status or feeling judged, both of which feel terrible. Especially if everybody else appears to have a happy family pictured right there on social media--everybody but you. Keeping your marriage shame a secret seems like a smart strategy, but it's also a heavy burden. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about the magic of telling your marriage story.

During our free Adored Wife Challenge twice a year, where we all experiment with the 6 Intimacy Skills™ together for five days, I interviewed Master Coach Kathy Murray, who has been practicing the Intimacy Skills and Connection Framework for nearly 20 years. She shares so much wisdom in such an engaging way that I knew I wanted you to hear this interview. Her story was a powerful catalyst for transformation during that Challenge, with so many women hearing themselves as she revealed her own experience. See if you too hear yourself in Master Coach Kathy's story.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week goes to the third largest newspaper in the U.S. for what I wish were satirical notions of self-love.

Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: lauradoyle.org/roadmap

Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap