The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

If you're longing for intimacy with your man like I used to and not getting it, you may not feel like there's a key to creating it. If it's just been so long since you felt emotionally, physically and spiritually intimate, you may have steeled yourself so you don't even feel the longing anymore. That's a logical thing to do if you keep hoping and keep getting let down. I felt the same way in the bad old days of my marriage. But staying guarded and giving up on intimacy wasn't a real solution. The pain was still there, and hardening my heart like that was pretty much guaranteeing that I would NEVER have the soft, mushy connection I had long dreamed of having. That's because there is a formula for creating intimacy. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about the key to creating mind-blowing intimacy.

My guest Danielle's husband traveled a lot but couldn't even make the time to call her. She felt so unloved. They were speaking past each other and the more unheard she felt, the more she nagged. It was ugly! But when Danielle changed it up, her husband chatted and chatted with her and is now always checking in on her. She says she realizes she has a great man who loves her and does want to help!

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week is from a Facebook meme that sounds just like conventional wisdom.

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• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

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When everything in your marriage feels like it's on your shoulders, it's pretty exhausting and stressful. If your to-do list is a mile long but never gets you any closer to feeling relaxed, supported, and taken care of, then I'm excited to share a connection and intimacy superpower that will. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about how to accomplish more by doing less. I'll share three ways to get a lot more done without having to do it all yourself.

My guest Hindy was so disappointed she'd missed the signs that her husband had Asperger's, no social skills and was lazy, and now she was stuck married to him. She felt so unloved, hopeless and stupid for choosing him! But today she says her marriage is full of passion and romantic dates. He even started working more and got a raise. Things are so exciting and good between them that they are planning to grow their family. What did she do that changed everything? She's going to tell us so you can do it too.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week is a tweet from an organizational psychologist and author about being honest in a relationship. To quote the student who sent it to me, it's pretty messed up!

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• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

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Getting what you want in your marriage is important. The whole world depends on strong families, which means strong marriages, which means it's important to feel that your desires are being met. Because life gets tedious when day after day you go without feeling like you're getting what you want. It makes everything feel gray, and your husband can seem like a giant disappointment for not caring what you want. It's sad and lonely. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about how to ask for what you want in marriage.

My guest Frances and her husband each had their own divorce attorneys. After all the anger and hurt in their marriage, they were both "done." But then Frances started a practice that not only stopped all the fighting, it also caused her husband to stop the divorce proceedings altogether. Now she says her marriage is so good she wouldn't trade it for anything, and her husband says she makes him want to be his best self. They are both ridiculously happy! She's going to tell us the steps she took to get her miracle.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week is from a trending news story about how to decide if you can trust your partner. I think you'll see why this conventional wisdom made me hopping mad!

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

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It's so lonely and exhausting to feel like the only one responsible for everything at your house. I remember how stressful it was when I was the sole breadwinner at our house and felt like I was doing all the housework and bill paying too. Talk about overwhelmed! And resentful. Not anymore though. Now I marvel at how my husband does so much and I do so little! It feels like he does 90% and I do 10%. And you know what's so strange? We're both happy about it. So much happier than we were in the bad old days. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about how to get more help from your husband.

My guest Kelly had no help from her husband with their home or their children, along with no appreciation or empathy, no communication, and worst of all, no connection. She struggled with PTSD and her husband had a narcissistic parent, so they both had challenges from day one of the relationship. Then Kelly had an insight about how she was contributing to the nightmare she was living, and she changed it up. Today, she says her marriage is a dream–better than it was in the beginning, which she didn't think possible. She's going to describe exactly what she did so you can do it too.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week is to criticize your spouse then make him put a quarter in a jar. I'll tell you all about this cockamamy concept so we can make fun of it behind its back together.

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

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If there really are sure-fire secrets to a long and happy romance, wouldn't you think somebody would write them down and teach them in every high school all over the world? Is there anything more important to learn in life than how to make your marriage last and thrive? I can't think of it. Couldn't they throw in a few tips about how your husband will react to certain things you do alongside the part about how the elements on the periodic table will react to each other in chemistry class? It's puzzling to me that the crucial "elements" of a lasting romance aren't passed along in schools, which is why most people don't know them and therefore they continue to be secrets! On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about 4 fail-safe secrets to a long and happy romance.

My guest Crystal's marriage was like a fairytale right from the beginning, but ten years in, she realized she was full of resentment and anger and felt only distance from her husband. Nor did she want to be respectful, appreciative or stop controlling her husband--she wanted him to be respectful, appreciative and stop controlling her! But she started to experiment anyway and he mirrored back to her the new way she was showing up. Now that deep resentment has left and they are best friends who laugh together a lot. She feels deeply loved.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week is about how divorce can be healthy! And hopeful! I'll be making fun of THAT advice big time.

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

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When is it too late to stop a divorce?

It's not too late for you.

How do I know? Well, if you're still married and finding this podcast, that tells me you want your marriage to last and also that you still have hope, even if sometimes you forget where you put it or it's so small you can't find it. That's okay. You're so committed to your marriage that you're doing your research on what you can do to make it last. And, as Abraham Lincoln said, "The best way to predict the future is to create it."

But what exactly should you do? If your husband wants a divorce, how do you change his mind? On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about what to do when he wants a divorce and you don't–and how to revive his love for you.

My guest Rosa had no intimacy in her marriage and was so tired of dealing with her husband's drinking and mental health issues. She was shocked and horrified when he brought up divorce, with his family encouraging him to leave her and their three young kids. But today she says she feels like a princess because he is so loving and tender. He's flirty, adoring and devoted to her and the kids. How did she turn things around? That's what she's going to share with us.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week about growing apart is as cliché as it is ridiculous!

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

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Imagine you could wave a magic wand to make your marriage the way you want it to be. How would it be different? Maybe your husband would do a lot more chores or be more attentive and affectionate, seeking your company and kissing you whenever he got the chance. He wants to be all of that for you so he can make you happy. All men want to succeed–especially with their wives. So what's stopping him? It could be, and often is, that he's misunderstood. Maybe he's trying to express his love, but you're hearing a complaint. Maybe he's trying to protect you, but you hear control or criticism. Maybe he wants to make you happy, but he's afraid he's not succeeding. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about two two ways to hear his heart message.

My guest Hannah's husband broke her heart when he said he wasn't in love with her or attracted to her anymore and wanted to sleep with someone else. They had huge blow-ups daily. But Hannah took action that has changed everything. Today her husband is affectionate, and she says their sex life is amazing. He even said he was in love with her again and that he was so happy with her. She's going to describe exactly what she did so you can do it too.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week, which you've heard many times before, is guaranteed to make you seem needy and resistible.

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

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When you live with someone who loses his cool, it's very scary and draining. It seems logical to try to minimize those blow-ups however you can. You try to keep the kids quiet or keep quiet yourself or just agree with him or remove yourself when you feel the tension rise. It's exhausting to always be thinking about how to keep the drama from happening. Even worse, it doesn't always work, which makes the whole thing even more terrifying and tiring. When your best efforts to keep him calm by sucking it up don't stop him from blowing up, it's the worst! On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about how to stop walking on eggshells when he yells.

Then, Master Coach Kathy Murray interviews a student who was lonely and sad that her husband didn't love her or want to spend time with her, but she didn't know why. Then she made some changes, and now he seeks out her company, conversation, and her hand for holding. He told her, "This is the best thing you could have done for us." What exactly did she do? She's going to share the specific steps she took so you can take them too, including joining the FREE Adored Wife Challenge, which starts on January 10, 2022.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week, about how a wife should handle her husband's low self-esteem, is only two words, which could devastate this young family if she follows them.

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

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Do you wish your husband would help out around the house but, no matter how nicely you ask, he's too busy binge watching Breaking Bad? Have you begged him to spend time with the kids, but he's still more interested in his phone than his own children? Or asked him to have sex–or just spend time with you, period–but he'd rather work all hours than be with you? If you're going through any of this, it's natural to wonder if you'd be better off without him. But then you remember that you'd really rather keep your family together. Or maybe simply that you still love him and don't want to be another divorce statistic. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about 3 ways to deal with a miserable husband.

My guest Jamie and her fiancé got engaged two years ago, but they were constantly fighting, with name-calling and cursing, and it seemed like they couldn't get along long enough to actually get to the marriage. So she moved out and gave back the ring. But today, Jamie and her now husband have a light, fun, peaceful marriage with a blended family. She's going to describe what she did so you can do it too!

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week is about how to get your husband to appreciate your financial contributions to the household when you're a stay-at-home mom, but it makes your marriage a lot harder than it needs to be!

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

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Wouldn't it be a wonderful world if saying "We need to talk" made him gaze into your eyes and describe all the ways he's so in love with you? Or if telling him he needs to be more affectionate and attentive made him turn off the TV and gallantly sweep you off to the bedroom? Unfortunately, calling him out doesn't work. But if he's not taking initiative to be romantic and you can't tell him to do something about it, won't you have to suffer forever and just get your romance needs met by watching Hallmark movies? Fortunately, there is plenty you can do to inspire him to be more romantic without saying a word about what he's NOT doing. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about 4 ways to get the romance back.

My guest Maggie's marriage was full of verbal abuse, which was affecting their children and had her looking for nearby apartments. Her husband was so angry, resentful, critical and controlling. But today she says they have an indescribably deep connection and that he wants to take care of her heart. They're having so much fun together and, when they do fight, it doesn't last long and they can get back to their sweet spot fast. Her blended family feels healthy and strong.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week about how to know if you're better off ending your relationship is likely to lead to exactly that if you follow it.

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Here's what you'll get:

• 6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.

• The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).

• A clear, actionable plan to create the joyful, loving marriage you deserve.

Don't wait—your playful, passionate marriage is just one click away.

Get started now: lauradoyle.org/roadmap