What to do in situations that are not outright violent, that fall under the umbrella of plausible deniability, but that leave you feeling uncertain or fearful? Patricia and Rose discuss the four F's: Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn, and how we can learn to say "no" with our whole chest.

"Isolate, Inebriate, Intimidate, Repeat": article link from the Journal of Interpersonal Violence

Thich Nhat Hanh youtube video on helping hungry ghosts

Dating is meant to be fun! What to do when the vibe isn't vibing? How do you keep going when dating is a disappointment? In this episode, Patricia and Rose discuss the merits of strategic time-outs from dating, and ways in which you can enrich your life while protecting your peace. 

This episode offers some re-framed perspective on how to successfully un-date when it's time for a break. Every great performance has an intermission, and every game has a half-time. Consider its merits when you are feeling burned out and disheartened so you can get your head - and heart - back in the game of love! 

Sometimes the best dating strategy is not dating at all. Here are 3 introspection questions you can ask yourself to figure out how that looks for you.

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Scrotes die mad

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FDS OG Podcast Queen Savannah makes an appearance to offer her insights on pretty privilege and challenge the narrative. Is it really a privilege? Savannah and Rose discuss lesser-known facets of what pretty privileges signify for both the pretty and the plain.

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Scrotes be mad and take it out on pretty ladies

Ladies, never date a philosopher - unless you want a masterclass in whataboutism, sealioning, gas lighting, and debates about your needs and boundaries!

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In this episode, Patricia & Rose examine shame as a tool that shapes social norms and etiquette, and its usefulness in particular situations, often those involving men and male entitlement. Do we need to bring back shame as a social consequence? Is a Shame Renaissance on the horizon? Can or should  FDS Queens embrace shame as a necessary behavioral corrective in dating and courtship?

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Join us today as we embark on a journey to men's emotional regulation, or lack thereof.

Scrotes die mad but it's actually tragic

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Picking up on an ongoing conversation the previous FDS queens began - please revisit the classic recording, "We Like Big Dicks and We REFUSE to Lie" (May 5, 2021) - Patricia and Rose delve into the joys of sex and intimacy. They touch on the role of social media, the influence of porn, and the importance of sexual education in advocating for one's own pleasure.

In this episode, the Queens discuss how Rose's commitment to sobriety dovetailed with her discovery of FDS. 

Correction: Rose is coming up on 3 YEARS of sobriety in March/April 2026

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