The Female Dating Strategy

Are we mean? Not mean enough. Rape has become extra legal and we are PISSED and deeply troubled. Join us to talk about the incentive structures that perpetuate systematic, institutionalized violence against women and their bodies.

BTW we are back from a weird post-summer partial hiatus. Happy to be with you queens. Scrotes don't know even 1 rapist.

FDS queens are not chill. Patricia is joined by our listener Reina to bury the idea of being "pathetic", center our desires and hold tight to our standards. Its pretty feel-good. 

Wanna co-host with us? Email us at [email protected]

Love you queens

Guest host Sarah joins Rose in a freewheeling discussion about alllllll the ways women are told to shrink, dismiss, and ignore how patriarchy instructs us to settle and date down. 

Affirmative action for men in real time - Sarah and Rose tick through the boxes they've broken out of and how they orient themselves to successfully value themselves in the dating realm.

Guest host Anne-Sophie joins Rose to discuss the lessons learned from the reality tv show Summerhouse and Ciara Miller: how her charisma elevated her platform on the series, and how FDS queens might learn from her dating strategy to navigate their own. Join in to learn what we can learn about friendships and racial/class differences from reality tv.

Wanna co-host with us? Email us at [email protected]

Scrotes act up and then die mad

How to exist in a world where our worth is always someone else's concern? How to stay true to yourself when seemingly your environment judges and assigns value to every action you take, the way you present in the world, your clothes, your body language? Should we even care?

We delve into self/identity as a woman and human being, and how we fully embody our selves in the face of non-stop criticism and ceaseless attention.

Join us on this philosophical discussion to find some coping strategies and perhaps some insights.

Stay zen our queens. XOXO

Rose checks in with an update: summer break is in session! Patricia and Rose will be back in August with new episodes and guest hosts! Stay tuned!

We explore a useful metaphor for an open heart, but only partially open. That is until a visitor earns access to the full treasures of the secret bodega. 

No scrotes allowed.

Why online dating is weird, and why the same strategies apply

What does it mean to be a woman - an FDS queen - in the era of the internet? How do we date and approach online dating as a strategy? What approaches do we take and what are the means by which we vet and protect ourselves? Patricia and Rose host a freewheeling discussion of life, love, and FDS tactics online and on the ground!

Are you interested in participating in a documentary series about being a woman in the world of the internet? Please reach out with an email to us and we will forward it along to the documentary crew! 

[email protected]

Also email if you want a PDF of the FDS Handbook! 

What to do in situations that are not outright violent, that fall under the umbrella of plausible deniability, but that leave you feeling uncertain or fearful? Patricia and Rose discuss the four F's: Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn, and how we can learn to say "no" with our whole chest.

"Isolate, Inebriate, Intimidate, Repeat": article link from the Journal of Interpersonal Violence

Thich Nhat Hanh youtube video on helping hungry ghosts

Dating is meant to be fun! What to do when the vibe isn't vibing? How do you keep going when dating is a disappointment? In this episode, Patricia and Rose discuss the merits of strategic time-outs from dating, and ways in which you can enrich your life while protecting your peace. 

This episode offers some re-framed perspective on how to successfully un-date when it's time for a break. Every great performance has an intermission, and every game has a half-time. Consider its merits when you are feeling burned out and disheartened so you can get your head - and heart - back in the game of love!