What if loving something (your country, your work, your own self-image) actually requires being brutally honest about its flaws?
In this encore episode of The Game Changing Attorney Podcast, Michael Mogill sits down with Dr. Dolly Chugh, social psychologist, behavioral scientist, and bestselling author, to unpack why our brains are wired for consistency instead of objectivity, and how guilt and shame can become engines for real growth. They get into the "psychology of good people," the trap of the flawless narrative, and what it takes to keep getting better instead of defending a story that no longer fits. It's a conversation about replacing brittle perfection with something far more durable.
Here's what you'll learn:
Why a "good person" is a fragile identity, and what to build insteadHow to give a real apology that actually resets the relationshipWhat the "long time ago illusion" is, and how it distorts your judgmentThe version of yourself you're defending might be the thing holding you back. This one will make you rethink it.
(00:02:48) Becoming a psychologist
(00:05:29) The psychology of good people
(00:07:29) No one is good all the time
(00:09:02) Canceling and growth
(00:14:52) Home team bias
(00:17:09) The gritty patriot
(00:20:40) Guilt vs. shame
(00:29:52) The "long time ago" illusion
(00:35:32) What makes an apology work
(00:36:53) George Takei's story
(00:41:13) Being a game changer
A More Just Future by Dr. Dolly ChughDr. Dolly ChughGrit by Angela DuckworthThe Power of Us by Jay Van Bavel and Dominic PackerMindset by Carol DweckCaste: The Origins of Our Discontents by Isabel WilkersonGeorge TakeiLittle House on the Prairie by Laura Ingalls WilderBuffalo Soldier by Bob MarleyLearn what sustainable growth can look like for your firm at crispcoach.com.
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Past guests on The Game Changing Attorney Podcast include David Goggins, John Morgan, Alex Hormozi, Randi McGinn, Kim Scott, Chris Voss, Kevin O’Leary, Laura Wasser, John Maxwell, Mark Lanier, Robert Greene, and many more.
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