The Imperfects

Settle in and grab your notebooks, you’re in for a good one.

We’re joined by Maria Ruberto, director and founder of Salutegenics Psychology, who just happens to be Ryan and Josh’s (ex) psychologist.

Maria is the co-designer of Resilience First Aid, an internationally recognised two-day certification program, which teaches the neuroscience of resilience (Ryan took sooooo many notes).

We discuss with Maria the relationship between biology and behaviour, and the six domains of resilience. Getting technical, we delve into the negatives of screen time (hello darkness our old friend) and the ridiculously positive benefits of doing stuff with other people.

So join us as we get started on building our resilience toolbox, practice breathing like a baby AND co-regulate like it’s no one’s business.

To sign up to Maria’s Resilience First Aid training, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3WuhOFG

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/3AvhAqp 

🎧Things to listen to:

• Dr Emily - A Guide To Getting Therapy - https://bit.ly/3WSCF7f
• The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe - https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN 
• Gary Barlow - The Pain Behind The Pleasure - https://apple.co/4dzh356
• Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - https://apple.co/3Af9OB6

📖 Things to read:

• Stress Study: https://bit.ly/46A9bOB
• Defining Protective Resilience: https://bit.ly/3SFBQfm
• Resilience First Aid Evaluation: https://bit.ly/4dFRXll

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Jackson Tozer embodies the essence of The Imperfects podcast. Well, that’s what Ryan thinks, and we’re pretty keen to agree.

Hugely successful and outrageously talented, Jackson, from the outside, is living the dream. Behind the professional success of acting alongside Shaun Micallef, John Cena and Zac Efron (and Ryan, can’t forget Ryan), Jackson found himself learning how to be a high-functioning addict (literally high) at rock bottom.

Sharing his experience with grief, the loss of his best friend and marijuana addiction, which contributed to his battle with bulimia, anxiety and depression, we thank Jackson for being so bloody generous with his vulnerability.

This episode with Jackson Tozer includes a discussion about eating disorders, marijuana addiction and suicide . If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're ready.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3YrXrf9

Join Movember and be part of the solution. To advocate for more action around men's health, head to https://bit.ly/3yv9BZX 

🎭Things to check out

• Jackson’s Fringe Show - https://bit.ly/4cYNXwf
• Jackson on Instagram - https://bit.ly/3YoQoDZ
• Community Care Collective - https://bit.ly/3zYbUFb

📺Things to watch

• Ricky Stanicky - https://bit.ly/4bYQXat
• Mr Inbetween - https://bit.ly/4d4YZ31

🎧Things to listen to

• The Killers - Rut - https://bit.ly/4cUn4JM

If you or someone you love is suffering from a marijuana addiction, these are some good places to start:

• Call DirectLine on 1800 888 236 for 24hr support
• Marijuana Anonymous Australia - https://bit.ly/3WG4boj
• Family Drug Support - https://www.fds.org.au/

🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into:

• The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/
• Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.au
• Uncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

Or visit the below support services. 

• Beyond Blue - https://www.beyondblue.org.au
• Suicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467 - https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/
• Reach Out - https://au.reachout.com

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This is not compulsory listening, but then again, it kind of is.

We’re back to have another imperfect conversation about men, violence and consent, because we're still imperfect and we believe reflecting on behaviour is key to changing it. 

We don't have all the answers, but in collaboration with Teach Us Consent and future OAM Chanel Contos, we’ve come up with some new Vulnerabilitea House questions to help anyone get vulnerable and think deeply about these issues. 

In all honesty, we’re pretty nervous about answering them, but reflecting and getting vulnerable with ourselves and others is how we do better and become the people we want to be.

You can find the questions on our instagram: https://bit.ly/4dnfjvO

Vulnerability is the willingness to be seen as our authentic selves, even when we don’t know how others will respond. To be vulnerable is to take an emotional risk and while it does promote connection, it can also cause distress and should never be forced. So take care of yourself and others while answering these questions. Always vulnerable responsibly. 

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4fx8lWP 

🎧Things to listen to

• Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing - https://link.chtbl.com/mhDPOcpH
• An Imperfect Chat About Men - https://link.chtbl.com/BVlSy3Kf

📖Things to read

• Chanel Contos - Consent Laid Bare - https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm 
• Malcolm Gladwell - Blink - https://bit.ly/3WG8Er7

💻 Things to help you learn

• Teach Us Consent Instagram - https://bit.ly/4dlzKJG
• Teach Us Consent Website - https://www.teachusconsent.com
• Our Watch - https://bit.ly/3w0BQhV
• White Ribbon - https://bit.ly/3W6nMhs

If you're a man concerned about your behaviour please contact No To Violence: https://bit.ly/3UlyiA5

If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the nation24-hour national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.

If you need support for your own mental health of the back of this episode please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.

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Dis episode is a little bit different, but if you’re as obsessed with Hugh van Cuylenburg as we are, we think you’ll enjoy it.

The Resilience Project (TRP) is the company that Hugh started building 12 years ago. Today, it delivers evidence-based, wellbeing programs to over 1000 schools in Australia, as well as countless work-places and helps provide people with strategies to build resilience too!

Hugh always knew that TRP would be something special, but god, it took a lot of hard work (and some might say resilience) to get it to where it is now.

From the first spark of inspiration, to the make-or-break scene straight from a movie, Hugh gets pretty vulnerable with Ryan and Josh about all the ways he failed on the road to success.

So grab your glitter pens, rule up your calendar, and pencil in dis super special episode.

📺 Things to watch

• How Hugh Built Dis on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3y8gAId

💻 Things to check out

• The Resilience Project - https://bit.ly/3zT8RhJ
• The Resilience Project Journals - https://bit.ly/3K8Z9cK

🎧 Things to listen to

• Martin ‘Rac’ Heppell - The other F word… Failure - https://bit.ly/4fUkDIk 
• The Vulnerabilitea House - Martin Heppell - https://apple.co/3ZerqqN 
• How I Built This with Yvon Chouinard (Patagonia) - https://apple.co/4bXMbdk

🦋 If you or someone you know is experiencing an eating disorder, these are some great resources to look into: 

• The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/
• Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.au
• Uncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO

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Your values are perfect - according to our resident psychologist Dr. Emily Musgrove.

Although this sounds counter intuitive to what we usually say…it’s actually a beautiful place to start.

Figuring out what your values are, and where they come from can be a pretty intense experience. Lucky we have Dr Em to help, breaking down why they are important and how they can add purpose to your life. As she explains, our values work like a compass, and when used responsibly, can point us in the direction of the person we want to be.

Links mentioned in the episode:

🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects
Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - https://apple.co/4eHc4zJ 

The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe - https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN 

James Clear - Down The Habit Hole - https://bit.ly/3XZhQGr 

Chrissie Swan - Honesty - https://bit.ly/3qL7WeO 

📺 Things to watch

Life of Brian “Individual” - https://bit.ly/4bLR74U

📖Steven Hayes books to read 

A Liberated Mind -  https://amzn.to/4bRIHJz 

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - https://amzn.to/3Wp95ou 

🛠️ Tools to use

The Resilience Project 6 month journal -  https://bit.ly/3RUBke7

Steve Hayes’ research into values - https://bit.ly/4fhrsnU

📺 To watch the full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/46795xC

Dr Emily is a clinical psychologist and you can find out more about her here - https://bit.ly/4gesuBy

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the ultimate power move, we interview Zan Rowe, ‘one of Australia’s best interviewers’. Talk about pressure. 

Champion of the airwaves, TV presenter, music journalist and podcaster, Zan has soundtracked the lives of many Australians. In this episode of the Vulnerabilitea House,  Zan draws the card; ‘how would your ambitions change if you only had one year to live?’ 

In between getting ‘death ready’ and facing burnout just when her professional dreams were all coming true, Zan and Hugh fan-girl hard for Johann Sebastian Bach.

You can watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/g-ABdHgMKyE 

Links mentioned in this episode:

🎧 Previous episodes of the imperfects

• Linda Marigliano - https://apple.co/4hUsiIl 

📺 Things to watch

• To watch Take 5’s episode with Guy Pearce - https://ab.co/3xRKYGA

🎧 Things to listen to

• Zan's podcast 'Bang On', with Myf Warhurst - https://ab.co/3SbvDHN 
• Night of the Swallow by Kate Bush - https://bit.ly/4cw18o4

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Have you ever made a really bad decision? Made a call that you couldn’t undo? It's a fear for many, and for others, living with the reality of a ‘roll of the dice’ gone wrong, is cause for great sadness, and discomfort. 

But, there is wisdom in mistakes. And for Poh Ling Yeow, learning to own her bad decisions, meant she could move forward with empathy and acceptance. 

A skill she's honed through a life of ‘magooing’ to her way onto our screens through Master Chef, into our kitchens through cookbooks, and very much into our hearts. (Ref. Mr. Magoo). 

In fact, the level of maturity Poh is able to bring to so much of her life, is unlike anyone we’ve ever met before.

Links mentioned in this episode.

📺 Things to watch

• Masterchef on Tenplay - https://bit.ly/4cwzbg8
• South Park - Morman fellowshipping of Kyle - https://bit.ly/4cniH9x

🍽️ Things to cook

• Poh’s latest cookbook - https://bit.ly/4cA1dXo

🎨 Art to see

• Poh’s paintings - The Girl - https://bit.ly/45u0rZI

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How does food affect our mood? Does diet actually impact our mental health? What is a gut micro-biome, and can we still eat a few chips without ruining it?

In this Academy of Imperfection episode, we are joined one of the worlds leading experts on the relationship between what we eat, and how it effects our mental health, Professor Felice Jacka.

And if can we trust anyone to get to the bottom of the vagus nerve ‘highway’; our hippocampus shrinking; our mitochondrial reaction to ultra-processed foods (don’t worry we didn’t know these words before either) - it’s her. 

There was a lot to 'digest' in this chat (so to speak), but thankfully, there is so much we can do, by making informed choices about what we put in our bodies, to improve our mental health. 

See below for links & research mentioned in this episode, information on Felice and her work and extra resources:

📖 Things to read

• The Food and Mood centre - https://bit.ly/3xdmkjw.
• Felice’s published research - https://deakin.au/3VWggpb,
• Felice’s shorter articles - https://bit.ly/3RvfeO2.
• Felice’s recent research in Molecular Psychiatry Review -https://go.nature.com/3xozlqq.
• SMILEs trial - https://bit.ly/3KLjGEL.
• Kevin Hall’s study on Ultra-Processed food - https://bit.ly/3z7akjY.
• Brain Changer, Felice Jacka, https://bit.ly/3xpYGjJ,
• There’s a Zoo in my Poo, Felice Jack & Rob Craw https://bit.ly/3RrHxNd.

🎧 previous Imperfects Episodes mentioned in this episode:

• Tim Spector - https://apple.co/3OjRlXR 

This episode with Professor Felice Jacka includes a discussion about disordered eating. If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're feeling ready.

If you or someone you love is experiencing disordered eating, we recommend the following organisations:

• The Butterfly Foundation https://bit.ly/48YCSZe
• Eating Disorders Families Australia https://bit.ly/3TLU7J5
• Uncovery https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Last season we met Chanel Contos from Teach Us Consent and we were completely blown away by her courage and the work she's taking on. So much so, that within minutes of Hugh opening and reading Chanel’s book, “Consent Laid Bare”, he had nominated her for Australian of The Year. 

In this snippet from the full episode, Hugh, Ryan, Josh and Chanel discuss the normalised and systemic nature of sexual violence against women and the pervasive issue of rape culture; including what it is and how we can all take steps to dismantle it. 

To learn more about Chanel, her work and the Teach Us Consent campaign, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3QVhlK0

🎧 Things to listen to

• Chanel Contos - https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm 

📖 Things to read

• Consent Laid Bare - https://bit.ly/40Z0Xgh
• To view a version of the 'rape culture pyramid' - https://bit.ly/49XPFgh

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What would it feel like to have the very thing that mad you great - your body, strength and co-ordination - slowly and painfully taken away from you?

As a swimmer, Michael Klim was on top of the world - he was literally ‘World Swimmer of the Year’. Trips to the Olympics, medals of every colour, 21 world records AND his face on the cover of a Foo Fighters Album, Michael really did have it all.

However, in 2022 Michael was diagnosed with a life changing condition, wherein your body attacks it’s own tissue - chronic inflammatory demyelination polyneuropathy (CIDP).

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about his equally impressive life out of the pool, and how his CIDP diagnosis has taught him a lot about identity, grief and relationships.

In 2023, Michael partnered with Australian Red Cross Lifeblood to help raise awareness for the vital role blood donation plays in not just his life, but the 1 in 3 Australians who will need blood products in their lifetime. To help recipients like Michael and countless others book a blood donation here. https://bit.ly/4c8Z6tN

To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link. https://bit.ly/3RHPUoi

Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:

📺 Things to watch

• Homer Simpson’s journey through the Stages of Grief - https://bit.ly/4epRAMJ.
• The Imperfects x Lifeblood video - https://bit.ly/3z0Suiv

🎧 Previous Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

• Tim Minchin - Lucky To Be Here - https://apple.co/492kgsN 
• Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8 
• Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version of Me - https://apple.co/47PubRU 
• Reece Conca - Tackling Male Infertility - https://apple.co/4fUmEEm 

📖 Things to read

• Kubler-Ross Grief Cycle is here https://bit.ly/45tThVu

⛑️ To support

• Lifeblood - https://bit.ly/4c8Z6tN
• The Klim Foundation - bit.ly/4ejtGTj

🎧  Things to listen to:

• Milkshakes for Marlee - https://bit.ly/4cwRDEW

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.