In episode 22, Kayla discusses a recent visit from a few of her kinky friends and a few realizations she had as to the importance of having friends in the BDSM lifestyle.

In this episode:

* Kinky friends came to visit!

* The ideal visit between you and the online friends you make is one where that online ease continues into real life.

* Always listen to your instinct if you get a bad vibe, but most people are as nervous as you are about meeting other kinksters.

* Making kinky friends is a good thing.

* These friendships remind you that you’re not alone.

* You’ll learn how other people handle their kinky side.

* Kayla and John took their kinky friends on a few fieldtrips – first to the munch, then to the club. That’s probably not typical of other times you make new kinky friends or meet them in real life for the first time.

* Kayla experienced a revelation of her own watching her kinky friends interact in her home.

* Not reaching out to your online or in-person kinky community can make you feel isolated.

* You might even forget that other people do BDSM and specifically D/s different than you do.

* Feel free to leave your tales of making and meeting kinky friends in the comments or contact Kayla directly.

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Full Transcript

You’re listening to Loving BDSM podcast: episode 22. Hey, everybody. Kayla Lords here sharing my views on getting to know other kinksters – online or in real life. Welcome to the Loving BDSM podcast. If this is your first time listening, glad to have you! If you’re back for another week, welcome back! Loving BDSM is produced every Friday for your kinky pleasure and education and show notes are found at kaylalords.com. Come back often and feel free to add the podcast to your favorite RSS feed or iTunes. If you love what you hear, we’d love a good review on iTunes to help other kinksters find us! You can follow me on Twitter @KaylaLords or stalk John Brownstone at southernsirsplace.com. All links are in the show notes.

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So, I’ll admit it, it’s another low energy week for me. I have a cold I just can’t shake, and it suuuuuuucks. It’s this Florida weather, one moment we’re in the 70s, the next, it’s 30-something degrees outside. And yes, I know some of you would kill for that kind of weather. Well, come on down to sunny Florida.

John Brownstone and I had friends visit from out of town this past week. Kinky friends. They’re not used to our weather so while Daddy and I were wearing jeans and considering throwing on a jacket, they were loving it and wearing their shorts. They even got to meet our state bird – the mosquito.

Their visit – and no, I’m not saying who, but I think they might be listening, so hey there! Miss you! Ready to visit again soon! Anyway…their visit was a good thing on a lot of levels.

It’s almost always good to meet someone in real life that you’ve known online. It gives you the opportunity to put faces with names and to get to know them. Will they be like their online persona? Will they be completely different? Will you have anything to talk about other than kink?

I consider it a good visit when the friendship you build online translates well when you’re live and in person. Oh, and for the record, while there was plenty of talk about kink, there were also conversations about dogs, kids, travel, and work. And we ate a lot of good food.

I know a lot of people worry about giving up their anonymity and meeting other kinksters in real life.