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Episode 53 - In this episode, I sit down with Shelby Devlin, Somatica-certified sex and relationship coach, BDSM educator, and author of The Pleasure Protocol, to talk about her journey from working at a San Francisco fetish boutique to becoming one of the most respected BDSM coaches in the field. We talk about Barbie bondage beginnings, the psychology of power, and why shame-free exploration is the gateway to pleasure that actually lasts.

If you’ve ever wanted to understand how BDSM can become a path toward self-awareness, healing, and deeper connection, this conversation is for you.

Episode Highlights: 

(00:00) Barbie Bondage and Early Curiosity

(12:00) How Somatica Training Changed Everything

(18:00) Combining Somatic Touch and BDSM Coaching

(23:00) Healing Shame and Building Safety Through Play

(38:00) Communication, Consent, and Aftercare 101

Connect with Shelby

https://www.shelbydevlin.com/bio

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• ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠

• ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

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In this episode, I talk with Kathy Kay, host of the Strictly Anonymous podcast and author of Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. We get into how her hit podcast began with Craigslist ads, how she’s collected over 1,200 real-life sex stories, and what she’s learned about desire, shame, and human nature along the way.

Kathy and I dive into the wildest stories from her new book; from 50 gangbangs to secret throuples, and women discovering their sexuality later in life. We talk about how these confessions reveal the truth about what people really want, how she keeps it all anonymous, and why storytelling is the key to normalizing desire without shame.

If you’ve ever been curious about the fantasies people keep hidden or just love hearing real stories that prove no one is as “normal” as they seem, this episode is going to be your new guilty pleasure.

Episode Highlights: 

(00:00) How Strictly Anonymous Confessions Was Born

(09:00) The Stories Behind the Book

(18:00) Shame, Desire, and Owning Your Pleasure

(23:00) Normalizing Nontraditional Relationships

(35:00) Why People Crave Anonymity and Confession

Get A Copy of the Book: https://tinyurl.com/43jpfsdh

Listen to the Podcast: https://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/

Join My Kinky Book Club: https://www.amandadames.com/bookclub

Connect with Me: 

• ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠

• ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.

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Get your kinky breakthrough in just 20 minutes. Book your call with The Kink Consultant here: https://www.amandadames.com/

Episode 52 - What happens when your relationship is built on trust, power exchange, and pushing limits together?

In this episode, I sit down with Lucas and Hazel of Ripped Digital to talk about what it really takes to live and create on the more extreme side of BDSM. From navigating risk and safety in hardcore play to building a 24/7 power exchange dynamic, Lucas and Hazel share openly about their relationship, their porn production, and why empathy and trust are at the heart of everything they do.

We dive into what it means to eroticize shame, how fantasies differ from reality, why safety tools like negotiation checklists and aftercare rituals matter, and how they’ve turned their personal kinks into a professional life that still feels authentic. If you’ve ever wanted to understand what happens behind the scenes of extreme kink content or how couples can thrive while exploring the edges of BDSM,  this is one you won’t want to miss.

Episode Highlights: 

(00:00) Risk Awareness, Safety, and Harm Reduction

(06:00) Negotiation, Trust, and First-Time Scenes

(12:00) Eroticizing Shame and Exploring Taboo Fantasies

(21:00) Aligning Public and Private Kink Identities

(30:00) Sadism, Empathy, and Keeping Power in Check

(41:00) Why Authentic Headspace Matters More than Scripted Porn

(47:00) Cinematic Fantasies and Bucket List Scenes

(53:00) Creating Content that Feels Real and Experiential

Connect with Hazel and Lucas 

⁠https://ripped.digital/scenes/Home-Movies-Lucas-and-his-little_vids.html⁠

Connect with Me: 

• ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠

• ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠⁠

Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.

⁠https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1⁠

Get your kinky breakthrough in just 20 minutes. Book your call with The Kink Consultant here: https://www.amandadames.com/

Episode 51 - Ever wondered what really goes down on a Temptation Cruise? Think clothing-optional pool decks, wild theme nights, and the kind of freedom you definitely don’t get on a regular vacation.

In this episode, I sit down with Mario Cruz, the Cruise Director who knows all the secrets, to share why these couples-only trips keep selling out. From first-timers finding their confidence to hands-on BDSM workshops and sensual massage classes, Mario gives us a peek behind the curtain at what really makes Temptation Cruises unforgettable.

If you’ve ever thought about lifestyle travel or just want to know why people call this “spring break for adults,” this is the episode that will have you ready to pack your bags.

Episode Highlights: 

(00:00) What Happens Inside The Temptation Cruises

(04:05) Exploring the Lifestyle on Board

(06:56) Cruise Itineraries and Destinations

(11:33) Educational Workshops and Activities

(17:34) Booking Information and Upcoming Cruises

Join the Temptation Cruises

https://temptationcruises.com/

Connect with Me: 

• ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠

• ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.

https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1

Get your kinky breakthrough in just 20 minutes. Book your call with The Kink Consultant here: https://www.amandadames.com/

Episode 50 - Back on The Kink Consultant, Larah Sky shares what really goes down when you’re running chastity challenges like Sexless September and Locktober. From easy-mode orgasm schedules to full denial, she breaks down why men keep signing up for chastity plans and what keeps them coming back for more. We also get into the chaos of OnlyFans rules, the viral TikToks that blew up her business, and why chastity has become one of the most talked-about kinks online.

If you’ve been thinking about trying chastity, or just want to know what makes it so addictive, this episode gives you the inside scoop (and a good laugh along the way).

Episode Highlights: 

(00:00) Sexless September and Chastity Challenges

(09:29) Chastity and Sissy Play

(15:49) Challenges with Content Platforms

(19:56) Challenges and Strategies on OnlyFans

(22:27) Content Restrictions

(32:01) Chastity World and Future Plans

Connect with Larah Sky

Type “Larah Sky is legendary on Google” or check out: 

https://www.larahsky.com

https://www.larahsky.co.uk

https://www.chastity.world

Connect with Me: 

• ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠

• ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.

https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1

Get your kinky breakthrough in just 20 minutes. Book your call with The Kink Consultant here: https://www.amandadames.com/

Episode 49 - What makes something a kink, and what makes it a fetish? And can you find your life partner when you either? 

In this episode, I sit down in person with content creator and professional dom, Miz Darling to explore the deep, messy, and meaningful world of fetish. From spanking and feet, to nylons and cuckolding, we unpack what makes a fetish different from a kink, how these desires form, and how they show up in long-term love and relationships. We also talk about the book we’re co-writing, Complicated Pleasures, and why it was important to tell real stories of fetishists navigating relationships, intimacy, and identity.

This episode isn’t just about what turns people on, it’s about how to stay connected when your desires don’t fit the script. Tune in to learn why fetish is really about power, communication, and finding romance in the most unexpected places.

Episode Highlights:

(0:00) Exploring Common Fetishes

(12:29) Introducing the Book Project: Complicated Pleasures

(14:19) The Stigma Around Fetishes

(15:08) Exploring Relationship Dynamics

(19:51) Personal Experiences with Fetishes

(22:53) Embracing Your Sexuality

(27:00) How to Get Involved

Submit Your Stories:

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdD19PrOEehu7UqLmOo4iISRJe2M7L6VyD0FcTSn0s6A88p0A/viewform

More details about the book: https://complicatedpleasures.ca/

Connect with Me: 

• ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠

• ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.

https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1

Get your kinky breakthrough in just 20 minutes. Book your call with The Kink Consultant here: https://www.amandadames.com/

Episode 48 - If you’ve been on more first dates than you can count and you’re still single, chances are you’re making dating mistakes you didn’t even know about.

In this episode, I sit down with Lana Ricco, host of the Dating Makeover show and podcast, to dig into the biggest dating mistakes that are quietly keeping people single. From chasing the wrong type of partner, to ignoring red and green flags around money, marriage, and family, Lana breaks down how to approach dating with clarity, strategy, and confidence.

We talk about why men and women often marry for very different reasons, how to spot the difference between dominance and toxic “alpha” energy, and why your mindset going into a date matters just as much as your outfit. Lana also shares her own story of getting engaged within days of meeting her husband, and the key questions she asked up front that made the difference.

If you’re ready to stop repeating patterns, avoid the traps that keep you stuck, and finally give your dating life a makeover, this conversation will show you where to begin.

Episode Highlights: 

(00:00) The Concept of Dating Makeover

(02:50) Insights on Men and Marriage

(12:45) Understanding Dominance in Relationships

(17:16) Understanding Submissiveness and Dominance

(19:55) Cultural Differences in Relationships

(23:19) Finding the Right Partner

(30:52) Core Questions for Relationship Success

(31:40) Knowing When You’re Ready to Date

Connect with Lana Ricco

https://www.instagram.com/lana.ricco/

https://www.youtube.com/@LanaRicco

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-makeover-with-lana-ricco/id1819348183

Connect with Me: 

• ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠

• ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.

https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1

This episode was recorded weeks before Koby passed. We’re sharing it with love and gratitude, in memory of him. It’s a chance to hear his voice, his story, and his spirit one more time.

Episode 47 - In this episode, I get to talk to Koby Falks, adult performer, OnlyFans star, and live sex show headliner, to talk about what it’s like building a career that spans continents, from Australia to the UK and beyond.

We get into the realities of performing live on stage, navigating the gay vs. straight OnlyFans markets, and why building a recognizable brand is the key to standing out. Koby also shares his experience on balancing relationships with a public sex work career, how kinks evolve over time, and why sexuality is always more fluid than labels suggest.

If you’ve ever wanted the inside story of global content creation and what it really takes to build a career that lasts in this scene, this episode is for you.

Episode Highlights: 

00:51 Live Sex Shows in Australia

05:00 Marketing and Networking in the Gay Community

11:30 Maintaining a Business Relationship Post-Breakup

22:01 Global Adventures in Filming

24:49 Personal Kinks and Preferences

30:21 The Dynamics of Sexuality

34:18 Balancing Work and Personal Life

Episode 46 - What does your dream girl look like?

In this episode, I get to talk with Pepper Kat about how she went from the newsroom to sex work, and why her background in TV and film now fuels her career in storytelling-driven erotica. We dive into the rise of breeding kink (and how Elon Musk weirdly influenced it), the reality of phone sex and camming, and the wildest requests Pepper’s ever gotten. She shares what it’s like to balance business and pleasure, the double lives that people lead to keep their fantasies hidden, why sex work is more mainstream than most people want to admit.

If you’ve ever been curious about the business of fantasy or wondered just how far people will go to make their desires real, this one’s for you.

Episode Highlights: 

00:50 Design Your Dream Girl: A Customized Fantasy Experience

02:12 Exploring Popular Kinks and Trends

12:39 Phone Sex: Behind the Scenes

20:49 The Universality of Sexual Fantasies

27:26 Odd Requests and Custom Videos

30:46 Double Lives and Relationship Dynamics

32:54 Selling Bath Water and Other Merch

Connect with Pepper Kat: 

Website: https://www.pepperkat.com/designyourdreamgirl

Podcast: https://www.pepperkat.com/heartfelt-perspectives

Connect with Me: 

• ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠

• ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.

https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1

Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠

Episode 45 - Your butt cheeks also need some TLC… 

In this episode, I’m joined by Flora, a fellow spanko and skincare enthusiast, to talk about keeping your most spanked asset healthy. From preventing scars and managing hyperpigmentation to speeding up bruise recovery and avoiding leather butt, Flora shares the routines, products, and doctor-approved tips that every impact bottom should know.

We break down the best ways to protect your skin before a weekend of play, what to do immediately after a scene, and how to keep your cheeks soft, smooth, and ready for the next round. Plus, we get into the realities of party drop, why volunteering matters, and why curiosity is the most underrated thing you can bring to any kink event.

If you want your marks to fade faster, your skin to recover quicker, and your other cheeks to get the same love as your face, this one’s for you.

Episode Highlights: 

04:18 Managing Bruising and Skin Discoloration

07:30 Skincare Routines and Tips

13:46 The Texas Allstate Spanking Party Experience

18:31 Bottoms Up and Community Events

20:55 Daily and Post-Play Skincare Recommendations

24:13 Understanding and Treating Itchy Skin

31:47 Dealing with Leather Butt

33:23 The Role of Hydration and Nutrition

39:09 The Value of Attending Workshops and Classes

Connect with Flora: 

FetLife: _f1ora

https://x.com/_f1ora

https://www.clips4sale.com/studio/163305/miss-kelley-may

Connect with Me: 

• ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠

• ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.

https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1

Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠.