The Man Enough Podcast

Will splitting the share of household chores lead to greater intimacy in the bedroom? Digital creator and TikTok marriage counselor, Caylee Cresta is no stranger to translating sensitive topics between men and women. Today, she shares her findings on splitting household chores, breaking cycles of trauma, disconnected intimacy in relationships and how to foster greater understanding between men and women.

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The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company.

Timecodes: 

01:10 Episode Starts

03:15 Introducing Caylee Cresta

07:43 When Is The Last Time You Didn’t Feel Enough?

14:15 Breaking Cycles Of Trauma 

18:34 Looking For Love (In Wrong Places)

27:13 Doing The Dishes Does Not Equal Better Sex 

29:38 Sexual Disconnect Between Women And Men

43:15 Holding Your Partner Accountable

50:55 Stay At Home Girlfriend

56:22 The Contract of Marriage

01:04:10 Jamey’s Challenge For Male Listeners 

01:06:42 What Does It Mean To Be Man Enough?

Quotes:

“Feminism is about choice.” - Caylee Cresta

“Sometimes the familiar is actually not safe. “ - Caylee Cresta

“My father’s sense of obligation was greater than his sense of self preservation.” - Caylee Cresta

“We fall in love with a man’s potential, not who he is.” - Caylee Cresta

“For women, intimacy doesn’t start when you take your clothes off, it started that morning.” - Caylee Cresta

“Men can recognize that women tend to tie emotions into sex yet you don’t understand why your wife doesn’t want to have sex with you when you aren’t providing her with any emotional support.” - Caylee Cresta

“Femininity is a quality…there’s nothing wrong with a woman embracing her femininity. .. at the same time, a woman should not be looked down upon for having the same ambitions as a man has been able to have.” - Justin Baldoni

About Caylee Cresta

Caylee Cresta is a content creator and tik tok star with over 2M followers famously known for her comeback series where she reacts to toxic opinions and videos from men (usually regarding women) through stern advice and education. Caylee created her channel while working as a public construction project manager where her male employees would share the pains of marriage and at the same time complain about the lack of sex in their relationships. She started to wonder “what do men want from women?” and thus the channel was born. Her aim is to bridge the communication gap between men and women by explaining viewpoints that many women are hesitant to express themselves. 

Guest Social Links: 

TIKTOK: @cayleecresta

IG: @cayleecresta

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Justin shares his journey with therapy and mental health. Liz is shifting her focus and letting go of control. Jamey talks about his need for accountability in his professional and personal life. Join us as Justin, Jamey and Liz reflect on where they are now and reflect on their personal growth since the podcast began in 2021.  

New episodes every Monday 🎙️ The video version of every episode will always be available on the @wearemanenough YouTube channel: https://youtube.com/WeAreManEnough 

The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company.

Show Notes: 

01:07 Episode Starts

05:22 Who Is Man Enough For?

06:27 Liz Reflects 

09:55 Healing Is Not Easy

15:11 Becoming A Better Man

24:54 Jamey’s Rules for Life 

29:16 No Victims, Only Volunteers 

31:53 Audience Reflection

Quotes:

“In the best relationships you’ll feel both comforted and challenged.” - Liz Plank 

“Healing is not linear” - Justin Baldoni 

“The greatest form of activism is self-activism” Justin Baldoni (quoting Emily Baldoni) 

“I have to treat myself the way I want others to treat me” - Justin Baldoni

“Bring thyself to account each day before thou art summoned to a reckoning” - Jamey Heath (quoting Baháʼu'lláh)

“There are no victims there’s just volunteers” - Liz Plank (quoting Robert Anthony)

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Actor, author and podcast host Christopher Rivas is constantly breaking the boxes society places around his identity. Today Chris shares his journey towards self confidence, education and peace as a brown man in America. Our hosts get intimate about their relationships to privilege, adolescent insecurities and actionable steps they are taking towards being a “good” person. 

New episodes every Monday 🎙️ The video version of every episode will always be available on the @wearemanenough YouTube channel: https://youtube.com/WeAreManEnough 

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Show Notes 

01:19 Episode Starts

03:20 Where Did The Title "Brown Enough" Come From?

05:33 When Was The Last Time You Didn't Feel Enough?

08:58 The World Isn't Black and White

16:47 Brownness And It's Proximity to Whiteness

19:34 The Real History of James Bond

22:40 Insecurities And The Desire To Fit In

28:04 Expressing Vulnerabilities/ Safe Enough To Be Vulnerable

36:59 Tangible Ways To Be Better Men/Fight for Action

48:25 Ignorance Doesn't Taste Good 

56:07 Be Engaged In The World

59:48 What Does It Mean To Be Man Enough

01:00:40 Breathing Exercise

Quotes

“There isn’t a box that can contain a man” - Christopher Rivas

“What stories must die so that new ones can grow?” - Christopher Rivas

“I am less interested in better and I am more interested in how do I be more honest.” - Christopher Rivas

“I show up in the world everyday knowing that I am going to be somebody's ancestor. ” - Christopher Rivas

"I'm moved by not wanting to be in a state of ignorance. I'm moved by wanting to be in a state of peace." - Christopher Rivas

Read Brown Enough 

Brown Enough, part memoir and part social commentary, emerges, asking readers to proudly put their bodies, their identities, into the conversations of race. Brown Enough is a roller coaster of finding one's true self while simultaneously having a racial awakening amidst the struggle to be "perfectly" Latinx, woke, and as Brown as possible to make it in today's America.

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About Christopher Rivas

Christopher Rivas is an actor, author, podcaster, and storyteller. He is the host of two podcast series with SiriusXM's Stitcher: Brown Enough, which explores the parallel themes of this book through interview-style episodes; and Rubirosa, a 10-episode documentary-style investigation of Porfirio Rubirosa. On screen, Rivas is known for his work on the Fox series, Call Me Kat, opposite Mayim Bialik, Leslie Jordan, Kyla Pratt and Cheyenne Jackson. He has recently released his first book Brown Enough, which explores what it means to be Brown in America.

Guest Social Links: 

CHRIS RIVAS 

Instagram @christopher__rivas

Twitter @chris__rivas

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Young boys need guidance. Activist, speaker and mentor Ashanti Branch talks about his journey from teacher to full time mentor, being vulnerable with your emotions, the challenges facing young men and the importance of leading by example. Through his work with his nationwide #MillionMaskMovement Ashanti is helping young boys, and particularly black young men remove their “masks” and reveal the emotions that reside inside. 

Content warning: this episode discusses sexual assault

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The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company.

Show Notes 

00:00 Content Warning

00:08 Episode Starts 

02:28 Introducing Ashanti Branch 

03:46 How Did You Get Into Activism?

08:55 When Is The Last Time You Didn’t Feel Enough?

16:44 Working On Accountability

21:27 Ashanti’s Childhood & Introduction to Porn

27:42 Sexual Assault, Adultification and Addictions 

36:12 The Pressure of Masculinity and Young Men 

46:15 Black Boys Aren’t Allowed To Play

47:47 Creating A Culture of Care For Black Boys  

55:12 Young Men Don’t Need To Be Shamed

1:00:20 Live Mask Workshop With Our Hosts

01:12:28 What Does It Mean to be Man Enough

About Ever Forward Club and The Million Mask Movement

EFC is a non-profit organization that ensures underserved students graduate high school by addressing the underlying causes of dropout rates and youth violence, and providing grassroots solutions like mentorship, safe spaces and emotional tools. 

EFC’s #millionmaskmovement provides a free, youth-friendly, hands-on emotional tool, with an online gallery of over 65,000 masks from around the world, searchable by age, so youth feel less alone.

About Ashanti Branch

Ashanti Branch is an accomplished speaker, non-profit founder and activist whose work with youth has been featured at SXSW, CNN and Sundance Film Festival. Ashanti is the Founder and Executive Director of the Ever Forward Club (EFC), a non-profit organization that ensures underserved students graduate high school by providing grassroots solutions like mentorship, safe spaces and emotional tools. 

Guest Social Links: 

ASHANTI BRANCH

Instagram @brancspeaks 

Twitter: @BranchSpeaks

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As a lifelong organizer and co-creator of #BlackLivesMatter the movement, Alicia Garza knows what it takes to incentivize change. Alicia gets candid about the importance of women in movements, how having a thick skin and a soft heart has helped her through seemingly impossible situations and the power of being an imperfect ally.

New episodes every Monday 🎙️ The video version of every episode will always be available on the @wearemanenough YouTube channel: https://youtube.com/WeAreManEnough 

The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company.

Show Notes 

01:12 Episode Starts

02:28 Young Girls Need Role models 

04:17 Introducing Alicia Garza 

16:24 Men in Movements 

20:19 How Do We Transform Relationships of Power 

24:27 Find Your Incentive For Change 

37:33 Understanding Lived Experiences

41:58 Education and Living in Truth

54:50 There’s No Perfection in Allyship 

01:04:56 What Does It Mean To Be Man Enough 

01:08:23 Host Debrief  

About Alicia Garza

Alicia Garza is an American Civil Rights organizer and writer best known for co-creating the international Black Lives Matter movement. Garza has become one of the most influential voices on the planet in a movement centered around the liberation of black people from authoritative systemic violence. 

About Black Lives Matter / Black Lives Matter Global Network

In 2013, three radical Black organizers — Alicia Garza, Patrisse Cullors, and Opal Tometi — created a Black-centered political will and movement building project called #BlackLivesMatter. The project is now a member-led global network of more than 40 chapters. Their members organize and build local power to intervene in violence inflicted on Black communities by the state and Black Futures Lab & Black to the Future Action Fund

About Black Futures Lab

As Principal of The Black Futures Lab, Alicia works to transform Black communities into constituencies that change the way power operates—locally, statewide and nationally. The problems facing the Black communities are complex—the solutions require experimentation, innovation, and political power.

Quotes

‘My greatest strength, I have thick skin and a soft heart” - Alicia Garza 

“Be courageous enough to be yourself at all times.” - Alicia Garza

“People often say that [oppressed] communities are like crabs in a bucket, but no one mentions that the bucket is not the crabs' natural habitat.”- Alicia Garza

“Thank you for being willing to be re-organized.” - Alicia Garza to Andy Grammer 

"This movement can't just be mine, it has to be yours. You have to see this as tied to your liberation. And if you don't, there's no incentive for us to change.." - Alicia Garza 

“Systems are people made so they can be undone by people as well.” - Alicia Garza

Guest Social Links: 

ALICIA GARZA:

Instagram: @chasinggarza

Twitter: @aliciagarza

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As the creator of cult favorites from Bridesmaids to Freaks and Geeks Paul Feig has set the standard for promoting strong, funny women in entertainment. Today, Paul talks about writing messy, realistic, female characters, the power of privilege in Hollywood, diversifying his movies and having the confidence to have no confidence at all. 

New episodes every Monday 🎙️ The video version of every episode will always be available on the @wearemanenough YouTube channel: https://youtube.com/WeAreManEnough 

The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company.

Show Notes 

00:00 Episode Starts 

01:12 Introducing Paul Feig 

07:30 When was the last time Paul didn’t feel like enough?

11:15 Making Bridesmaids

16:15 Funny Women On Screen

24:12 Emasculation is a Myth

30:00 Drinks Are Gendered 

38:30 Be Confident Enough to Have No Confidence

43:15 Paul’s Mission for Diversity

46:50 How Paul Writes Messy Women

52:30 What Does it Mean to be Man Enough?

Key Quotes from the Episode: 

“Be confident enough to have no confidence” - Paul Feig 

“There are no fart jokes in Women’s films.” - Paul Feig 

"Love, empathy and compassion are not exclusive traits to women" - Justin Baldoni

 “Men cannot be emasculated. Masculinity cannot be taken away unless it’s a performance.” - Justin Baldoni 

"Asking 'why' is sometimes the most powerful thing." - Liz Plank

You're (women) taught to not take up space and I'm (men) taught to take up space." - Justin Baldoni

“Men are taught to hate the parts of ourselves that appear feminine, if we can learn to love those parts, everything changes." - Justin Baldoni 

Read Cocktail Time by Paul Feig

Paul Feig has made an art and a science out of creating these elegant and festive environments and living his best life, whether at home in LA or New York or London or on location around the world, and it’s all here in Cocktail Time!—how to make the drinks, how to throw the parties, what music to play, what glassware you need and more, along with 125 cocktail recipes, each served along with funny insider stories about Paul’s Hollywood life and famous friends.

About Paul Feig

Paul Feig is an iconic, award winning, creator, filmmaker, writer, producer, and author known for creating the beloved and critically acclaimed series Freaks and Geeks. Feig also directed the cult classic, Oscar nominated, Bridesmaids and Ghostbusters (2016). He has also served as director and co-executive producer of The Office. Recently Feig wrote, directed, and produced Netflix film The School for Good and Evil.

Feig recently created and launched his own award-winning gin brand, Artingstall’s. While in lockdown in 2020, he hosted a nightly Quarantine Cocktail Time on his Instagram, inspiring a cocktail book Cocktail Time!, which was released by William Morrow on November 15, 2022. 

Guest Social Links: 

PAUL FEIG

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Ted Bunch is a father to many. Today, Ted and Jalen Bunch share how a parent can make themselves a ‘safe space,’ how to model messy conversations and how love creates compassion beyond comprehension.

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Support A Call to Men

A Call to Men is a national violence prevention organization providing training and education for men, boys and communities. They aim to shift social norms that negatively impact the culture and promote a more healthy and respectful definition of manhood. They operate with the belief that preventing domestic and sexual violence is primarily the responsibility of men. Their vision is to shift social norms that define manhood and create a world where women and girls are valued and safe.

About Jalen & Ted Bunch

Jalen Bunch is a multi-disciplinary non-binary, queer artist from New York, currently studying at the Boston Conservatory at the Berklee School of Music. They have been exploring the arts since age 10 such as Radio City Music Hall, opening for the Christmas Spectacular, and Carnegie Hall, singing alongside the rock band Foreigner. They are most known for their role as Lucas/Demogorgon in the original off-broadway cast of Stranger Sings!: The Parody Musical. They are currently directing The Vagina Monologues with their dear friend, Eli Douglas (He/They), in collaboration with V (formerly Eve Ensler) and the V-Day Team, at the Boston Conservatory.  

Ted Bunch is Chief Development Officer of A Call to Men.. Bunch is a frequent guest on national television and radio programs like the TODAY Show and National Public Radio, and has served as a script consultant for the Emmy Award-winning television series “Law & Order: Special Victims Unit” and for the Tony-nominated Broadway musical Jagged Little Pill. Bunch is also an adviser to and trainer for the National Basketball Association. He has also provided training to the National Football League, National Hockey League, Major League Soccer, and Major League Baseball. 

Show Notes 

00:00 Episode Begins 

 03:36 Introducing Ted & Jalen Bunch

 07:15 Ted & Jalen's Relationship

11:43 Parenting Queer Youth 

16:44 Jalen's Anti-Coming Out Story 

19:56 Being Non-Binary Changed Jalen For The Better 

24:11 Gender is Subjective 

25:34 How A Call to Men Transforms Men 

29:48 How The Patriarchy Indicts Men 

38:24 Creating Safe Spaces 

43:48 Modeling Messy Conversations 

48:05 What Ted Thinks Men Need to Unlearn 

52:24 Building a Loving Family Through Divorce 

01:03:02 Teaching Young Boys Consent 

01:07:35 Preparing Your Children for Intimacy 

01:11:29 What Does It Mean To Be Man Enough 

Guest Social Links: 

TED BUNCH

JALEN BUNCH

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The war on gender has many fronts. In a time of unprecedented division among genders, comedian Omid Djalili shares a cautionary tale of the history of Iran’s two revolutions, how women-led revolutions are our best chance of liberating us all, and how men can make a difference from the West.

Around the world women’s rights to freedom, justice and civil rights are being infringed upon and, in the case of Iran, violently attacked. The protests and revolution are a struggle for freedom and equality. This is not a fight against the hijab or against men. It is a fight against ignorance and as such it is supported fiercely by the men of Iran who are suffering a majority of casualties in their activism.

New episodes every Monday 🎙️ The video version of every episode will always be available on the @wearemanenough YouTube channel: https://youtube.com/WeAreManEnough 

The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company.

Show Notes:

00:00 Episode Starts 

02:30 Intros

05:40 When was the last time you didn’t feel enough?

06:45 How men can support women risking their lives in Iran

20:50 Why should people care what’s happening in Iran to women (global vs one country)

28:57 You can’t burn women made of fire

31:24 “Men have been afraid, because they don’t know how to handle the fire”

34:55 Are women better than men?

47:50 Navigating Political Comedy

57:34 What does it mean to be Man Enough

Key Quotes from the Episode: 

“You Can’t Burn Women Made of Fire”

Background on the Iran Revolution

The protests in Iran we are seeing today erupted in mid-September after the death of Mahsa Amini, while she was in the custody of the “morality police” for allegedly violating the country’s hijab law by showing a bit of her hair. Women and youth have been leading the protests, demanding social freedom and political change, gender equality and the end of the state’s regime. 

Crowds have continued to gather in defiance of the authorities even as the government recently pledged harsh punishment for defiers — including executions.

While numbers are difficult to verify due to the lack of independent reporting in Iran, 19,200 protesters have been detained and 469 people including 63 children and 32 women have been killed since the protests began, according to the latest figures by the Human Rights Activists News Agency, or HRANA. 

About Omid Djalili:

Omid is a critically acclaimed actor and stand up comedian. He recently starred in the Netflix Global drama The Letter for the King and the HBO/BBC series His Dark Materials. A Perrier Award nominee in 2002 and Edinburgh Comedy Award Panel Prize winner in 2016, Omid is known for his work in projects like The Mummy, Casanova, and, The Omid Djalili Show, and a Whoopi Goldberg's NBC sitcom Whoopi. Omid is a Prince’s trust recognized comedian and has been using his platform for the past month to shed light on the women’s revolution taking place in Iran. 

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John Kim (aka "The Angry Therapist") and Vanessa Bennet are world-class relationship therapists, podcast hosts, bestselling authors AND life partners. The couple joins Jamey, Liz and guest host Andy Grammer for a vulnerable and eye-opening conversation about the messy work of relationships. 

​​John and Vanessa break down red flags in dating, therapy for men, how to set healthy boundaries for yourself and others, tapping into masculine & feminine energy, and how to navigate mismatched desires within couples.

​​Plus, don't miss a sneak peek of an unreleased song from Andy at the end. 

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Read It’s Not Me It’s You

Together, John & Vanessa have written this book, analyzing their own relationship to help untangle the common and frustrating barriers many individuals face on the road to a happy, loving, rewarding partnership.

About John Kim & Vanessa Bennett:

John Kim, also known as The Angry Therapist, is a published writer, speaker, life coach, and a co-founder of The TAT Lab and Lumia–Life Coach Training and Community. He built a coaching team of his own and launched a sister company called JRNI, creating a new way to help people. 

Vanessa Bennett is an author, holistic psychotherapist, and codependency expert. Her therapeutic approach integrates years of study and practice in Depth, Buddhist, and Yoga Psychology. She co-hosts the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast, leads soul-based retreats and workshops, and creates and facilitates curriculum for non-profit and corporate events and conferences.

Show Notes 

00:00 Episode Starts

02:36 Intros  

07:34 Red Flags In Dating 

09:58 The Misconception of The One

15:36 Why Men Don’t Champion Therapy 

19:05 Cutting Boys Off From Their Emotional Selves 

27:22 Holding Your Friends Accountable 

43:48 Caregiving vs Caretaking 

48:34 John’s Poem 

51:56 Disconnected Desires 

01:06:22 From Judgment to Curiosity 

01:09:22 Andy’s Song 

01:13:31 What Does it Mean to be Man Enough 

Key Quotes from the Episode: 

“Taking a second to ask ‘what else could be true?’ is incredibly helpful in relationships…it turns the dial from Judgement to Curiosity” - Vanessa Bennett & John Kim

“It’s important to have conversations in locker rooms, be the trojan horse, if you’re there and you’ve gone through some type of hero’s journey then you need to lead by example…share it with your friends.” - John Kim  

Guest Social Links: 

John Kim 

Vanessa Bennett

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Daddy Issues aren’t exclusive to women and they certainly aren’t their fault.

Jamey, Liz and returning guest host Andy Grammer look at the powerful relationships we have with our fathers and discuss why challenges with dads are often put on daughters rather than the fathers themselves.

The hosts reflect on both the positive and negative impacts their own fathers had on their lives (spoiler alert: they were all pretty great in their own ways). Liz talks about the effect of having a dad with extremely high standards. Andy and Jamey share how they hope to impact their own children's lives. And Jamey calls his daughter live, which you don't want to miss.

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The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company.

Music In This Episode

Andy Grammer ‘Good Man’

Good Man (First Love) - song and lyrics by Andy Grammer - https://open.spotify.com › track

Red Grammer ‘Teaching Peace’

Teaching Peace - song and lyrics by Red Grammer - Spotify - https://open.spotify.com › track

About Guest Host Andy Grammer:

Multi-platinum performer Andy Grammer is a gifted artist and songwriter with a bent toward contemporary soul and pop. Building upon his early hits "Keep Your Head Up" and "Fine by Me," be has broadened his profile, competing on Dancing with the Stars and contributing to film soundtracks like 2019's Five Feet Apart. In 2021, he hit the Top 30 of the Billboard 200 with Naive. 

Show Notes 

01:07 Episode Starts 

02:45 Degendering Daddy Issues

06:21 A Reflection on Our Fathers

07:56 Do strict father's create better children?

10:25 Liz's Relationship to Her Dad

13:55 Parent’s Are Human Too 

16:06 Jamey’s Reflection As A Father

16:43 A conversation with Jamey's daughter Jazmin

24:27 What could Jamey’s Dad Have Done Better?

26:42 Jamey’s Father Taught Him Respect

28:19 ”Teaching Peace” the Red Grammer Way

30:56 Generational Pain

32:45 Using These Reflections to Be Better Fathers

34:54 Raising Daughters 

36:45 Parenting Through Divorce 

40:22 All Daddy Issues Are Man Enough

Key Quotes from the Episode: 

“When it’s time if i’ve done it right, only good men feel like home.” - Andy Grammer, ‘Good Man’

“There are not enough words in the english language for me to express how important my dad is to me.” - Liz Plank

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