Today we discuss how holiday gatherings can connect us to our loved ones and how they can also be difficult and cause stress and tension. We give you 9 evidence-based tips to help you have a peaceful and enjoyable holiday gathering.

Timestamps:
0:39 - Having realistic expectations
2:01 - Clearly communicate with the rest of your family
3:26 - Don't take the bait
5:33 - Stay out of the past
9:23 - "Notice without judgment"

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In today's episode, we discuss how to set boundaries, how to stick to boundaries when you have someone in your life that has a hard time respecting them, and how to work through some of the common boundary issues we see around the holiday season.

Timestamps:
0:48 - What is a boundary?
6:10 - What is one of your basic boundaries?
17:24 - What can we do about a boundary crosser?
27:06 - How to navigate boundaries over food and alcohol during the holidays?

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In this week’s episode, we look at the reason gratitude is so effective for building resilience and helping our mood. We also look at how a practice of gratitude may be difficult after trauma. We give you several steps to easily add a gratitude practice into your daily life.

Timestamps:
1:48 - What is it about gratitude?
5:01 - Decorating for the holidays
8:31 - Cultivating gratitude
13:18 - Focusing on inner control
16:10 - What are you grateful for?

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This week's episode dives into how to deal with a family member that you may have conflict with. We address what types of problematic relationships dynamics there might be and give you key phrases and skills to navigate hard conversations as you go into the holiday season.

Timestamps:
5:09 - What constitutes an unhealthy Parent-Child relationship?
9:51 - Notice without judgment
13:09 - How to not take the load of poop
16:45 - Not trying to "win"
19:37 -

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The holiday season is one of connection and joy. It is also coupled with expectations and stress. In this episode, we teach you how to know if your expectations are setting you up for stress for the holidays, and how to minimize triggers and toxic stress through the holiday season.

Timestamps:
1:12 - Why are the holidays stressful?
8:42 - How to recognize irritability in yourself
13:12 - You can't always control a situation
16:04 - Watching your alcohol consumption during the holidays

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Is your insomnia related to trauma? Today Dr. Amy Hoyt, and Leina Hoyt discuss how insomnia can be a symptom of unresolved trauma and toxic stress. They also dive into how to set yourself up for optimal sleep, using sleep hygiene, mindfulness, and self monitoring. If you do experience insomnia, we encourage you to go to www.mendingtrauma.com/quiz, and take our quiz to see if your unresolved trauma is affecting you.

Timestamps:
2:57 - What characterizes insomnia?
8:02 - What is sleep hygiene?
14:57 - Sunlight and your circadian rhythm
18:22 - Techniques to help with disruptive sleep

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October is domestic violence awareness month. In this episode, we look at what domestic violence is, and what are some of the behaviors that are considered violence. Dr. Amy Hoyt speaks on her own experience with domestic violence in past relationships. We go over physical, financial, psychological, and verbal violence, and ways to get help in those situations.
 
Timestamps:
4:10 - Different types of domestic abuse
9:18 - What is financial abuse?
14:38 - Amy's experience with domestic violence
19:57 - Your brain tells you its your fault
26:05 - Changing the dance steps

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In this episode Leina & Amy discuss a powerful tool to help overcome trauma and toxic stress, benevolent curiosity. They explain how it differs from a mindfulness practice and why it is so helpful in healing our nervous system.

Timestamps:
0:48 - The importance of awareness
1:48 - Limiting perception through fear
4:29 - Awareness and limiting beliefs

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Join Dr. Amy Hoyt and Leina Hoyt in an interview with Emmy Award Documentarian Eric Christiansen. We are discussing his upcoming new film, Unmasking Hope, and how eventually, any kind of trauma creates a fork in the road for your life and experiences and how you should handle it.

Timestamps:
1:52 - How do you find your projects?
6:22 - Learning to start over
13:02 - Empathy has intuition towards pain
17:24 - What have you been seeing heal people the most?
24:08 - How does spirituality factor into your work?

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Does social media intermittent fasting help with mood, self-esteem, and nervous system regulation? Today’s episode examines the trend of social media intermittent fasting and compares it to the research from Stanford university and other studies to look at how social media fasting may or may not benefit those who suffer form toxic stress or trauma.

Timestamps:
1:16 - What is social media intermittent fasting?

7:43 - Should we social media fast for 30 days?

10:15 - What does a social media fast have to do with trauma or toxic stress?

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