A lot of men want to know, will I be a nice guy forever? The conventional wisdom in nice guy coaching is that you will always be recovering from vestiges of the syndrome, that you are always susceptible to falling back into nice guy patterns.  But can some or all nice guy patterns be fully resolved or eliminated? Just how much can someone change?

Have you ever had a woman say to you:

• You are not listening to me.
• You are not empathic.
• You don’t get it or understand me.

Wait a minute, what about you guys?

Let’s hear it for the men.

Do you find women listen to you?

Do you feel understood and respected?

Well, let’s find out if only men are bad listeners. In my book, that may not always be the case.

Why are men’s groups so critical for a man? When I  started my journey of becoming a conscious man, I did it through books and 1 on 1 coaching. And I made a lot of progress.  I learned more about how to lead in my relationships, set boundaries, and get out of my comfort zone. But I didn’t realize that I had actually hit a wall in my growth. If you want to understand what this wall is, then keep listening.

Have you ever had a woman who’s constantly nagged, complained about you all the time and criticized everything you did, and no matter what you did, it never resolved the complains. 

Then this podcast is for you  and I we will share why women complain and what you can do to stop the complaining.

Welcome to the Nice Guy Show. With Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff and Chuck Chapman.

The three of us are coaches dedicated to helping nice guys because we are recovering nice guys ourselves. Together, we have decades of experience helping men level up. Our mission is to help men develop the confidence and the skills to get the love, sex, and success they desire. Today's guest is Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, who discusses cheating.

An anxiety I’ve often had in the past when it came to my relationships was that my partner might leave me. This only contributed to my Nice Guy Behavior in, well just about every area of the relationship. This fear that “she may leave you” is fuel to the Nice Guy Syndrome. 

I’ve seen this pattern over and over again with the men that I work with in my coaching Nice Guys who are trying to recover and become integrated men. It seems that this fear is so deeply entrenched that it’s almost written into the Nice Guys DNA. That’s because it is.

What is it about bad boys women can’t get enough of?

Why do women keep going back to bad boys they know they are trouble?

What type of men are they?

What type of women bad boys?

Why do nice-guys finish last?

Do nice-guys need to become bad boys?

There is one stereotype about the nice guy that he is needy and clingy and stays in a bad relationship no matter what.  And yes, I’ve been guilty of that. But what about the nice guy that can’t commit? Can’t commit to a woman or a job or a hobby or even meeting your friend for dinner?

Recently I was complaining to my personal men’s group about being tired, about being disappointed in the ambivalence in some of the men I work with and men in general aren’t interested in self-development, and just uninterested in anything other than sex, sports and video games. I’ve been doing men’s work for almost 20 years both as a participant and a leader. Quite frankly, I was tired, burnt out, and not seeing the fruits of my labor, at least in my expectations. I was contemplating giving it all up and retiring to become an artist. 

One of my brothers brought out what we refer to in our group as the sacred dick and slapped me in the face with it.

Are you hard on yourself and others?

Do you tend to criticize and judge harshly?

Do you always see life as half empty instead of half full?