On today's episode I chat with Leslie Petruk, Assistant trainer with the IFS Institute. Leslie is a parenting EXPERT and I am thrilled she took time out of her busy schedule to hang out.

This is Leslie's third time as a guest on the podcast and all my parenting parts are thrilled to have her on again.

Even though this is titled "mom guilt" this episode is for any parental/adult figure who is raising little ones.

We talk about:

- I am Bad. -Ways shame shows up in moms

- Importance of Repair (and learning to apologize well)

- "Not what you did but what you do after."

- Kids and Covid

- Kids and Technology

-You turn as a parent

- Setting up intentions

- The work-life balance myth

- What are managers need from us and importance of perspective

- You can't afford to NOT do self care

- Working from home

- Importance of judgment free community and having a tribe

- Kids have good intuition and bad interpretation (Mommy is crying ... I must have done something wrong).

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Find out more about Leslie here:

Home - The Stone Center – Charlotte, NCThe Stone Center – Charlotte, NC (thestonecenternc.com)

Leslie H. Petruk | MA, LPC-S, NCC, BCC (selfleadership.org)

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On today's episode I chat with Justin Martin, an IFS therapist who lives in FL where he enjoys avoiding Disneyworld, taking advantage of the abundance of palm trees, and writing incredible poetry.

Justin has been IFS informed for a few years and is finishing his level one IFS training. 

We talk about all things MEN. I so appreciate Justin's openness and vulnerability during our conversation.

We cover:

- Men's competitive parts

- Messages men get throughout their life and the need to exile vulnerable parts to fit in with the system around them

- Dating

- 'Nice Guys'

- The term 'Toxic Masculinity'

- Authenticity and Attachment 

We end with Justin sharing several of his writings that are vulnerable and intimate.

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Check out Justin's website here:

IFS Therapist in Winter Park, FL | Parts of Me Therapy

Follow Justin on Instagram @partsofmetherapy

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On today's episode I chat with Mary Kruger, a lead trainer with the IFS Institute and one of the developers of the Level Two Addiction training.

Mary shares her own story of finding IFS and her personal experience of the healing power of its integration with the 12 step model.

We talk SO MUCH about Shame.

We talk about the 12 steps as a Spiritual Path and working with parts who have difficulties with 12 step programs.

We talk about addiction as 'disease' and where this idea comes from. Disease is disharmony; IFS restores harmony.

We talk about family and trauma.

We talk about the connection and shame reducing power of group work.

Mary talks about looking inside, even though a part may fear the badness and shame that may be found there, and the healing when we take back in who we are truly intended to be.

She says that curiousity and compassion are our biggest healing agents.

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Connect with Mary at Marykruger@sbcglobal. net or on her website: Home Page (mpkruger.com).

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On todays episode I chat with Kim Daniels, Level 2 IFS Therapist. Kim is a Clinical Psychologist, Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, and Emotional Eating Coach who's on a mission: to create an army of women who never deny themselves the food they love, who treat themselves with the compassion and respect they deserve, and who value themselves and their bodies.  And who never.  Diet.  Again.

Doesn't that sound A- MA- ZING?!

I so enjoyed our chat about all things Intuitive Eating and IFS. 

We check in until about the 11 minute mark and then jump into all the good stuff:

diet culture

set point theory

health at every size

polarized parts (restrictive and overeating)

why diets do not work- biologically

legacy burdens and messages from culture and family

At about the 30 minutes mark we dive a bit more into Intuitive Eating:

body food congruence

moral meaning and shame around food

'play food'

And, a lot about working with all of our parts

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Kim has a group coaching program called Food and Body Freedom that's starting in June--the link is  https://www.subscribepage.com/foodfreedom_copy.

She has an email challenge called the Intentional Eating Challenge--the link is https://bit.ly/intentionallyeat. 

And she has a free E-Course called Diets:  Why They Don't Work and How to Quit Them for Good.  That link is https://bit.ly/exitingdietculture. 

Her website is yourweightisnotyourworth.com, and you can connect with her on Instagram @kimdanielspsyd. 

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On todays episode, I chat with Nic Wildes about 'Is Gender a Part?' Nic spoke on this topic at the 2018 IFS Annual Conference and that is where we met -also when I decided my next step was to start a podcast :)

Nic Wildes, LMHC (Pronouns: they/them/theirs) is a White queer nonbinary Certified IFS therapist based in the Boston area. They are in private practice and are co-director of SAYFTEE, a group practice devoted to working with LGBTQI+ people and their loved ones. Nic is especially passionate about how IFS can be used to empower queer, transgender, nonbinary, and gender diverse people.   Nic offers individual and group consultation. They have recently started IFS consultation groups for those wanting to connect and learn in LGBTQI+ affinity. SAYFTEE, their group practice, is also a great resource for LGBTQI+ people, families and clinicians wanting more connection. SAYFTEE is currently expanding their training capacity to support more folks providing gender affirming care and have a lot they are doing to create community locally.   Nic is also looking to connect and build community with other trans, nonbinary, and gender expansive IFS therapists /practitioners. If this applies to you, they would love to hear from you.

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We talk -Nic is wise and I ramble...- about:

Nic's story

All of our own experiences of gender

"Who can I be in what spaces"

Gender messages we ALL get as kids

Laws and Violence against Transgender women

Pronouns (The trauma of being misrecognized)

Trans Visibility (In History and Movies)

Camp for kids

Get curious about our own experience with gender

'There is something wrong with me.'

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Nic can be reached at [email protected].

To find out more about Nic and the meditation we discuss go to:

Resources | Nic Wildes, LMHC

The camp info:

Camp Aranu'tiq of Harbor Camps for Transgender Youth (camparanutiq.org)

The podcast we talk about:

‎The Laverne Cox Show: Moving Beyond the Gender Binary w/ ALOK on Apple Podcasts

The documentary, Disclosure:

THE FILM — DISCLOSURE: Documentary by Sam Feder and Amy Scholder (disclosurethemovie.com)

Their Group Practice:

SAYFTEE

Follow them on Instagram @sayftee Facebook: SAYFTEE Twitter: @SAYFTEEBoston

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On todays episode I chat with Spencer Thompson, a Level 2 IFS Practitioner. He practices what he calls 'Self-Leadership Coaching,' emphasizing how IFS and Self-Leadership can impact us daily. He is passionate about group dynamics and creating unique container spaces that invite people into situations to practice and share in Self-leadership with others. He also loves helping people communicate for their parts and listen for the parts of others.

We talk about 'What is NVC' and walk through OFNR (which is like the 6 F's in IFS).

We talk about Being IFS vs Doing IFS.

We talk about parts (a lot!).

And, we talk about lots of stuff in between.

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To find out more about Spencer, check out: https://self-leadership-coach.com/

Spencer will have a video demonstrating the integration between IFS and NVC and other resources here: (12) Spencer Thompson, Self-Leadership Coach | Facebook

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On today's episode I talk with Molly Lacroix, a certified Level 3 IFS therapist, about her new book, "Restoring Relationship: Transforming Fear into Love Through Connection."

I love this title so much I keep repeating it throughout the show...

Outline:

1. Reasons she wrote the book

2. Her introduction and journey with IFS

3. IFS and Christian Spirituality

4.  Outline of the book:

- Judging, legalism and over reliance on cognitive parts

- Why are we so vulnerable? (development and attachment)

- The way forward (IFS)

- IFS with common causes of distress

5. Her Breast Cancer journey

6. Finding connection in the social media/publishing 'game'

7. A New Spiritual Practice (loving ourselves, unblending)

8. How IFS and Christianity Enhance one another

9. New book project: How to Heal Our Divides. Her chapter is How IFS Helps Heal our Inner Divides.

Check it out here: https://howtohealourdivides.com/

Connect with Molly here: https://mollylacroix.com/ and on Facebook and Instagram.

As always, I'd love to connect with you at The One Inside Facebook Page and @ifs.tammy on Instagram, Twitter, and Clubhouse. You can join my growing mailing list at tammysollenberger.com - maybe I will send you an email one day soon.

Enjoy!

On today's episode I chat with Heidi Armstrong- IFS Informed super warrior, super star, and all around one of the most resilient human beings I have ever met.

Her story is tragic and hopeful and inspiring.

Here is a brief outline of the show:

Her story and lessons learned along the way (0-30 minutes)

Recipes for Success (30 minutes on- )

Steps people can do now (So practical)

For therapists and supports of injured athletes

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Check out more of Heidi's story and her offerings here: https://injuredathletestoolbox.com/

Email her at [email protected]

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On today's episode I chat with Lois Ehrmann, a Level 3 IFS therapist and frequent staff member for Susan McConnell's Somatic IFS trainings.    Lois is a grandmother extraordinaire; I want to drop the boy off at her house for a week. Or, drop off all my exhausted, overwhelmed parenting parts.   Lois has integrated IFS and Attachment therapy with families struggling with trauma. She developed a narrative method to teach parents and children the concepts of IFS which has empowered children to use the method of Insight as well as Direct Access. She is now mostly doing training and consultation as she co parents her own 3 year old granddaughter.   I LOVED this conversation with Lois.   Update and FYI- We recorded this right after the Capital Shootings. I checked with Lois this week and she is vaccinated and back at home with her family.

Email Lois at [email protected] to get copies of her INCREDBILE Parenting and kids workbooks.

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On today's episode I chat with Gale West, MA, MFA. Gale is the author of the IFS- and Akashic Records-inspired bestselling book, Money Come Dance With Me. 

A certified IFS practitioner, she has 30 years of experience in IFS, has presented at numerous conferences and was in a consult group with Dick for 15 years. The first training was in her apartment in 1996.

A former psychotherapist in private practice, for the past ten years Gale has been providing individual and group coaching to conscious entrepreneurs and creatives inspiring joy, purpose and financial expansion while transforming their relationship to money and success. Also an artist, she delights in beauty and grand adventures.

I ALMOST titled this with 'delight with money'- but honestly, the theme that runs throughout ALL we talk about is DELIGHT in our whole life. Here is a bit of an outline:

The Self of Money

The Self of Business

The Burden of Money

The Lessons from her Strokes

The Joy of finding higher meaning in our Jobs

The biggest ah ha- My Body is Housing my Soul

The Importance of being aware of your Transceiver

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Gale asks, Is my heart desire, my head desire and my soul desire aligned?

To find out more about Gale and to purchase her book:

https://successwithsoul.com/about-gale/

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