the own it podcast

In this episode, I dive deep into the difference between a victim mentality and a powerful mindset. I'll be sharing personal stories from my own where I felt powerless and was waiting for someone to rescue me and how I shifted to taking ownership of my life. We’ll explore the root causes of a victim mentality, how it distorts reality, and the long-term negative impact it can have. I'll also give practical steps on how you can take your power back, become solution-oriented, and shift your mindset to live with intention and responsibility.

HIGHLIGHTS:

- Understanding Victim Mentality: A way of thinking where we feel powerless and blame others. It leads to stagnation, self-sabotage, and frustration.

- Signs of Victim Mentality: Negative self-talk, avoidance of responsibility, and feeling like life happens TO you.

- Root Causes: Past trauma, learned helplessness, and unmet emotional needs can drive this mindset.

- Shifting to a Powerful Mindset: Take back control by embracing personal responsibility, making intentional choices, and taking back your power from people and circumstances.

- Practical Steps: Recognize triggers, take responsibility, set boundaries, and practice gratitude to move from victimhood to empowerment.

- Biblical Perspective: Scriptures like 2 Timothy 1:7 and Romans 8:37 remind us that we are called to live in power, love, and self-control, not fear.

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. 

In this episode, I talk about the concept of reparenting—how we can give ourselves the care and nurturing we may have missed in childhood. I explore how unmet childhood needs shape our behaviors, emotions, and self-perception as adults, and how reparenting helps us heal those wounds. I also look at what the Bible says about healing from our past, encouraging us to become who God has called us to be.

HIGHLIGHTS:

1. What is Reparenting?

   - Reparenting is about giving yourself what you lacked in childhood, healing unmet needs that affect your life today.  

   - Scriptures: Romans 12:2, 2 Corinthians 5:17, Psalm 68:5, Isaiah 64:8.

1. Why Reparenting Matters

   - It helps break harmful patterns like self-sabotage and people-pleasing. Healing these areas leads to emotional maturity and healthy relationships.

1. 12 Key Areas to Reparent:  

   - Emotional Regulation: Learning to manage and soothe emotions.  

   - Self-Worth: Cultivating confidence and self-love.  

   - Boundaries: Setting limits without guilt.  

   - Self-Compassion: Being kind to yourself.  

   - Coping with Stress: Developing healthier coping mechanisms.  

   - Codependency: Balancing independence and connection.  

   - Self-Care: Prioritizing your well-being without guilt.  

   - Dealing with Failure: Embracing mistakes as learning opportunities.  

   - Trust and Safety: Rebuilding trust in yourself and others.  

   - Attachment: Forming secure, healthy relationships.  

   - Perfectionism and People-Pleasing: Letting go of the need for approval.  

   - Play and Creativity: Rediscovering fun and creativity without guilt.

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. 

In this episode of The Own It Podcast, I explore what it looks like to be in a wilderness season. These seasons are marked by feelings of isolation, uncertainty, and transition. Often, things that used to work no longer do, and external progress seems to stall. However, the wilderness is also a season of preparation where God equips, refines, and reminds us of His presence and purpose in our lives. This episode highlights how to embrace and steward these wilderness seasons well, trusting in God's timing and process.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS

- Signs of a Wilderness Season: Feelings of loneliness, uncertainty, triggers resurfacing, life being quiet, and external opportunities not aligning.

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content onhow to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

In this episode of The Own It Podcast, I'm giving you another window into my heart as I talk about what it means to be consecrated to God and what it looks like to live a life that is set apart for Him. I share some vulnerable thoughts and a window into my current journey as I lay down some comforts and coping mechanisms because I feel God calling me higher and deeper and I am hungry to respond to His leading. As always, I hope you feel challenged and encouraged as we walk on this journey of life, more free, more whole, looking more and more like Jesus.

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

In this episode, we're unpacking the essentials of boundaries and why they matter. I'm no stranger to the fact that everyone and their mom has a podcast about boundaries, but I'm answering a question I received on Instagram about how to set up appropriate boundaries with people who have broken trust with us. 

HIGHLIGHTS:

What Are Boundaries?  

Wisdom in Boundaries  

Common Misconceptions:

In this episode, I share some of my own personal boundaries and unpack why and how I set them! Setting boundaries is all about clarity, safety, and creating space for love and connection in your life. Let’s get intentional with our limits and protect what matters most!

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

Hi friends! This episode is in response to a question I received on Instagram and it’s all about the art of holding space—creating a safe, non-judgmental environment where others feel truly heard and understood. It’s not about being the hero, but about being present for someone else.

HIGHLIGHTS:

- The Art of Listening: We’ll explore how to listen fully without trying to fix or judge. Empathy and silence are key tools, and I’ll share ways to validate and ask clarifying questions.

- Managing Your Own Emotions: Learn how to stay grounded while holding space, set boundaries, and debrief afterward.

- Holding Space Without Judgment: We discuss how to avoid bias, and the difference between empathy (connection) and sympathy (distance).

- Compassion vs. Codependency: We explore the fine line between supporting someone and taking on their emotional burden.

- Holding Space for Yourself: Don’t forget to care for your own emotional health after holding space for someone else.

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching. If you’re interested in joining Thrive, join the doors are OPEN so you can join by heading to www.comealivelifecoaching.com/thrive

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In this episode, I share my journey from living in survival mode to building a thriving life. For years, I was stuck in a cycle of burnout, juggling multiple jobs, school, and personal challenges, all while neglecting my mental, physical, and spiritual health. In this episode, I share my personal experience of pushing myself to a breaking point — working late nights, relying on caffeine and other stimulants, and eventually facing the inevitable crash.

HIGHLIGHTS:

What is Survival Mode: A state where you're constantly focused on getting through the moment, often at the expense of your long-term well-being. This mode is triggered by prolonged stress or trauma.

Signs of Survival Mode: These include constant stress, difficulty concentrating, exhaustion, emotional numbness, reactive behavior, short-term thinking, hypervigilance, avoidance of challenges, poor self-care, and feeling stuck.

Practical Steps to Thrive: Moving out of survival mode requires developing self-awareness, building emotional resilience, recovering from burnout, finding purpose, designing a life you love, and recognizing the importance of community and connection.

Thriving is a lifelong journey. It's about showing up, owning your life, and making intentional choices every day. If you want to join a community of like-minded, like-hearted community of women who want to get out of survival mode and thrive in their lives, join the Thrive Collective and learn how to build a life they love. Use code  THRIVETODAY at checkout for your first month free!

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

Friends, this podcast episode is venturing off the notes I normally follow when I record a podcast and together, we are going to journey into some ponderings in my heart this season and some things I'm chewing on. 

As I transition into a different season, my kids are growing up and God is doing a new thing in my heart that feels unclear and vulnerable. God is the God of growth and if we're not transitioning in life, we're not growing. 

I've learned a lot in my journey of motherhood -- it's the season where I learned how to dream and where I watched God fulfill so many dreams in my heart that I never thought would happen. But because of these years, I'm in a space where I'm dreaming new dreams and it's SO VULNERABLE.

I hope this episode encourages you to stay on the course of your dreams in this season. You're exactly where you're supposed to me. Wait and watch -- He will come through for your dreams. I promise. 

HOW TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Find me on social media @chantelleenelson for more engaging and practical content on how to show up to your life! And don't forget to visit comealivelifecoaching.com for more information on my offers and coaching.

In this episode, I reflect on Proverbs 4:23, emphasizing the importance of guarding our innermost being, as it influences every aspect of our lives—our thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and actions. What’s happening inside of us will inevitably show up in how we live and walk out our lives.

HIGHLIGHTS:

- Knowledge vs. Understanding: I explore the difference between knowledge—knowing God’s truths—and understanding—applying those truths in meaningful ways. Knowledge alone isn’t enough; we must also cultivate understanding to break free from destructive cycles and patterns.

- The Body: How are you caring for your physical health? Consider your diet, exercise, sleep, and the impact of stress or addictions on your well-being.

- The Soul: Reflect on your thoughts, emotions, and choices. Are there unresolved pains or unhealthy cycles keeping you stuck? Inner healing, forgiveness, and emotional regulation are crucial for a healthy soul.

- The Spirit: Your spirit is your life force, and it needs to be strengthened by God. Are you staying connected to Him through prayer, Scripture, and worship?

Scriptures Referenced:

I want to encourage you to be mindful of who and what you allow into your life. Small, daily choices matter—don’t compromise. Let’s commit to creating and nurturing a healthy ecosystem where we can truly thrive in every area of our lives.