The Penis Project Podcast: Breaking Taboos in Men’s Sexual Health

The Penis Project Podcast: Breaking Taboos in Men’s Sexual Health

By Sexologist Melissa Hadley BarrettMedicineHealth & FitnessSexuality
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  • 193: Richard and Pauline Story – A prostate cancer journey, 75 and back to preop function, it is possible!

    In this candid and heartfelt episode, Melissa chats with Richard and Pauline, a 75-year-old couple who generously share their personal experience with prostate cancer—from diagnosis to recovery. They open up about the emotional and physical aspects of his journey, including the moment a routine PSA test led to further investigation and, eventually, robotic prostate surgery. 

    This conversation shines a light on topics that are often left unspoken: erectile dysfunction after surgery, managing incontinence, and maintaining penis health in the face of cancer treatment. Richard discusses the treatments he tried, including injections, penis pumps, oral medications, and a new nasal spray for ED—and what worked best for him. 

    They also talk about the role of partners during recovery. Richard speaks warmly about the support he received from his wife Pauline, and how her own journey with vaginal discomfort was improved with expert help from the vagina whisperer Kate. 

    Alongside medical insights, this episode explores the financial realities of treatment, highlights the importance of pre-surgical preparation (including pelvic floor exercises), and makes a compelling case for early PSA screening—particularly for men over 40 or those with a family history of prostate cancer. 

     

    Key Takeaways: 

    • Why PSA testing and early detection matter 
      • New nasal spray for Erectile Dysfunction- Spontan 
        • How pelvic floor physiotherapy helps with recovery and incontinence 
          • Treatment options for erectile dysfunction post-surgery 
            • The benefits of maintaining penis health after prostate cancer 
              • The impact of a supportive partner and professional team 
                • Federal and State government support available for incontinence products 
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                  Resources & Links: 

                  • Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 
                    • https://spontan.hck.digital/patient-zone  
                      • https://www.pelvichug.com/ Louise Hug  
                        • For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au  
                          • Continence Aids Payment Scheme (CAPS)- federal Australian government https://www.health.gov.au/our-work/continence-aids-payment-scheme-caps  
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                              We love hearing from real people navigating penile health—just like Richard. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. 

                              Website: www.rshealth.com.au 

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                              35 min
                            • 192: Up Your Nose and Up It Goes: Spontan Nasal Spray for Erectile Dysfunction

                              Today on the Penis Project Melissa chats to Professor Eric Chung who is recognised as one of Australia's leading urologists and has been invited as a speaker at many international and national meetings as well as received numerous national and international awards and research grants. In this candid and science-backed conversation, they discuss Spontan—a revolutionary nasal spray delivering the PDE5 inhibitor Vardenafil to treat erectile dysfunction (ED). 

                              Unlike traditional oral ED medications like Viagra (Sildenafil) or Cialis (Tadalafil), Spontan uses an intranasal delivery system to provide rapid onset—within just five -fifteen minutes—making it ideal for spontaneous sexual activity. This episode dives into how Spontan works, its benefits over oral medications, who it’s most suitable for, and the research behind its success. 

                              This episode is a must-listen for anyone dealing with ED, exploring options beyond tablets, or simply curious about advances in sexual health treatments for men. 

                              In This Episode: 

                              •  Why Spontan offers faster onset compared to oral PDE5s 
                                •  Differences in side effects between nasal and oral ED medications 
                                  •  Ideal patient profiles and common prescribing scenarios 
                                    • Clinical insights from over 300 patient prescriptions 
                                      •  The role of Spontan in prostate cancer rehabilitation 
                                        •  Tips for effective usage and what to expect with first-time use 
                                          •  Why proper technique reduces nasal discomfort and sneezing 
                                            •  The quirky catchphrase: “Up your nose and up it goes!” 
                                            • Key Topics Covered: 

                                              • What are PDE5 inhibitors and how do they work? 
                                                • Why nasal delivery bypasses gut metabolism for improved effectiveness 
                                                  • Comparing Spontan with oral Viagra, Cialis and injectables 
                                                    • Common side effects (and how to minimise them) 
                                                      • Using Spontan for post-prostate cancer sexual rehabilitation 
                                                        • Can Spontan be used more than once a day? 
                                                          • Compatibility with nasal decongestants (e.g., pseudoephedrine) 
                                                            • Patient success stories and selection criteria for best results 
                                                            • Spontan Nasal Spray: Currently available in Australia via the Special Access Scheme. Book an appointment today at www.rshealth.com.au 

                                                               

                                                              Resources & Links: 

                                                              • Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 
                                                                • For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au  
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                                                                    We love hearing from listeners and professionals. Reach out via email at [email protected] if you'd like to be featured or have suggestions for future episodes. 

                                                                     

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                                                                    20 min
                                                                  • 191: Premature Ejaculation: A Real Story of Struggle, Support and Success

                                                                    In this powerful and honest episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett speaks with Dave and his partner Jen about their journey dealing with premature ejaculation (PE) — a common but often misunderstood sexual health condition affecting many men and couples. 

                                                                    Dave opens up about his experience living with PE since adolescence, the impact it had on his confidence and relationship, and how alcohol became a coping mechanism. With courage and persistence, Dave eventually found the right healthcare support, the right SSRI medication, and a path forward that improved both his sexual function and emotional connection with his partner. 

                                                                    Together, Melissa, Dave and Jen dive deep into the emotional, psychological, and physical sides of premature ejaculation — offering valuable insights for men, couples, and practitioners alike. 

                                                                    In This Episode, We Cover: 

                                                                    • What premature ejaculation really is – and what it isn't 
                                                                      • The difference between primary and secondary PE 
                                                                        • Why many men are misinformed or dismissed by health professionals 
                                                                          • The impact of PE on relationships, communication, and self-esteem 
                                                                            • Dave’s journey through trial-and-error with various SSRIs: Priligy (Dapoxetine), Paroxetine, Fluoxetine and Escitalopram (Lexapro) 
                                                                              • The hidden cost of online treatment platforms – and why cheaper, more ethical options exist 
                                                                                • How the right treatment changed everything – from sex drive to emotional closeness 
                                                                                  • Jen’s reflections as a partner and the importance of support, understanding and touch 
                                                                                    • How couples can reconnect through small changes, time together, and deeper conversations 
                                                                                      • Melissa’s recommendation: Sanctuary of Ananda for Tantra-based relationship connection workshops 
                                                                                      • Key Takeaways: 

                                                                                         

                                                                                        • Premature ejaculation is more common than you think – and it’s treatable 
                                                                                          • Not all SSRIs are the same. Personalised treatment matters. 
                                                                                            • The emotional and relational impacts of PE are real – and deserve attention 
                                                                                              • There’s no shame in asking for help. Support is available, affordable, and effective. 
                                                                                                • Sexual health is about more than performance – it’s about connection, confidence, and communication 
                                                                                                • Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett: 

                                                                                                  “If PE is affecting your confidence, relationship or sex life – there is help. You don’t need to suffer in silence. With the right support, treatment can be simple, effective, and affordable.” 

                                                                                                  Resources & Links: 

                                                                                                  • Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic 
                                                                                                    • Learn more about Sanctuary of Ananda – Tantra and connection workshops for couples 
                                                                                                      • Listen to Cam Fraser’s podcast on modern masculinity and sexual wellness 
                                                                                                        • For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au  
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                                                                                                            42 min
                                                                                                          • 190: Overcoming Hemochromatosis and Erectile Dysfunction

                                                                                                            In this episode of The Penis Project podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett interviews Scott, an avid listener of the podcast and founder of the Facebook group Let's Talk All Things Men's Health. Scott shares his personal journey battling hereditary hemochromatosis, a genetic condition that leads to excessive iron accumulation in the body, and how it resulted in severe erectile dysfunction (ED) and other health complications. 

                                                                                                            Scott discusses his diagnosis journey, his search for treatment, and how his dedication to finding answers eventually led him to renowned urologist Dr. Amy Pearlman. Together, they worked on a treatment plan that included injection therapy and ultimately a penile implant to address both Peyronie’s disease and erectile dysfunction. 

                                                                                                            Key Discussion Points: 

                                                                                                            • Hemochromatosis: What it is, how it’s diagnosed, and its impact on various organs including joints and the reproductive system. 
                                                                                                              • The Journey to Diagnosis: Scott’s experience with multiple blood tests, working with a haematologist, and undergoing over 65 phlebotomies to reduce iron levels. 
                                                                                                                • Challenges with ED & Peyronie's Disease: The emotional and physical toll of dealing with ED and Peyronie’s disease, as well as the psychological effects on both the patient and their partner. 
                                                                                                                  • Finding the Right Doctor: How Scott found Dr. Amy Pearlman through social media and her practical, compassionate approach to patient education. 
                                                                                                                    • The Decision for a Penile Implant: Scott’s experience with various treatments and the eventual choice to proceed with a penile implant to correct both Peyronie’s disease and erectile dysfunction. 
                                                                                                                      • Surgery and Recovery: What to expect from the implant surgery, recovery process, and post-operative care. 
                                                                                                                        • Life After Surgery: The emotional relief of restoring intimacy, how the implant works, and Scott’s advocacy through the Boston Scientific Patient Champions Program. 
                                                                                                                        • Important Links & Resources: 

                                                                                                                          • Let's Talk All Things Men's Health (Facebook Group) – A support group founded by Scott to provide a safe space for men to discuss and share their experiences with various men’s health issues. 
                                                                                                                            • Dr. Amy Pearlman – Renowned Urologist specializing in men’s health and sexual wellness. https://www.primeinstitute.us/ , Instagram: @amypearlmanmd  
                                                                                                                              • https://www.bostonscientific.com/en-US/patients-caregivers/edcure-interstitial.html  
                                                                                                                              •  

                                                                                                                                Take Control of Your Health: 

                                                                                                                                If you're struggling with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, Peyronie’s disease, prostate or bladder cancer or other men’s health issues, book a consultation with our expert team at Restorative Health Clinic via rshealth.com.au or makehardeasy.com.au. 

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                                                                                                                                45 min
                                                                                                                              • 189: Frank’s Journey: Prostate Cancer, Data, and Milestones

                                                                                                                                In this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, we sit down with Frank, a 74-year-old prostate cancer survivor who has meticulously tracked his recovery through data and milestones. Frank’s journey is a testament to the power of knowledge, proactive health management, and the importance of open conversations about men’s health. 

                                                                                                                                Frank shares his experience from diagnosis to post-op recovery, including: 

                                                                                                                                ✅ His prostate cancer diagnosis at age 72 

                                                                                                                                ✅ The decision-making process between surgery and radiation 
                                                                                                                                ✅ The importance of pre-op preparation, including pelvic floor exercises 
                                                                                                                                ✅ His post-surgery recovery and continence journey 
                                                                                                                                ✅ Erectile function rehabilitation using medication, self-stimulation, and vacuum pumps 
                                                                                                                                ✅ Tracking nocturnal erections with a FirmTech Ring 
                                                                                                                                ✅ His return to a fulfilling sex life and overall health improvements 

                                                                                                                                Frank’s story is both informative and inspiring, shedding light on the importance of proactive healthcare, honest conversations with partners, and the role of tracking progress in recovery. 

                                                                                                                                🎧 Tune in now to hear Frank’s journey and insights! 

                                                                                                                                Episode Highlights: 

                                                                                                                                🩺 Diagnosis & Treatment Decisions – Frank shares how his rising PSA levels led to a prostate cancer diagnosis and why he opted for surgery over radiation. 

                                                                                                                                💪 Pre & Post-Surgery Rehab – The role of pelvic floor exercises, continence recovery, and adjusting to life post-prostatectomy. 

                                                                                                                                📊 Tracking Progress with Data – Frank’s detailed logging of continence, erectile function, and the use of tools like the FirmTech Ring for nocturnal erection monitoring. 

                                                                                                                                🔥 Erectile Recovery & Sexual Health – Frank discusses the importance of self-stimulation, medication, and devices in regaining erectile function and intimacy with his partner. 

                                                                                                                                🩷 The Emotional Side of Recovery – How prostate cancer led to deeper conversations about intimacy and a renewed focus on overall health and well-being. 

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                                                                                                                                37 min
                                                                                                                              • 188: "Squeeze the Day” - The Squeezy App Makes it easy : Pelvic Floor Health with Chris Robson

                                                                                                                                In this enlightening episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett chats with Chris Robson, co-founder of the revolutionary app, Squeezy. Designed to improve pelvic floor health for men and women alike, Squeezy helps users build a habit of effective pelvic floor exercises through tailored plans and regular reminders. 

                                                                                                                                Chris shares the story behind Squeezy’s creation, its impact on users globally, and its role as the UK’s top-paid medical app. Together, they discuss the importance of pelvic floor exercises for overall health, bladder control, and even sexual function. Learn why consistent practice can make a big difference—and how Squeezy ensures you stay on track. 

                                                                                                                                Key Topics Discussed: 

                                                                                                                                • What is Squeezy, and how does it work? 
                                                                                                                                  • The origin story: addressing bladder and bowel issues with technology. 
                                                                                                                                    • How Squeezy helps users stick to their pelvic floor exercise routines. 
                                                                                                                                      • Tailoring Squeezy for individual lifestyles and physiotherapy plans. 
                                                                                                                                        • Addressing specific conditions: post-prostate surgery, erectile dysfunction, and long COVID. 
                                                                                                                                          • Why pelvic floor exercises are a lifelong commitment. 
                                                                                                                                          • Resources Mentioned: 

                                                                                                                                            • Squeezy App: Available for a one-time payment of $2.99 in the UK and other markets. Download it from the App Store or Google Play. 
                                                                                                                                            • Notable Quotes: 

                                                                                                                                              • "It’s like having your own personal reminder—your 'nagger'—on your shoulder all day, helping you stay consistent." – Melissa Hadley Barrett 
                                                                                                                                                • "A little bit goes a long way. Even just a few exercises a week can make a huge difference." – Chris Robson 
                                                                                                                                                  • "The stronger your pelvic floor, the better your orgasms and erections. It's a win-win!" – Melissa Hadley Barrett 
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                                                                                                                                                    Find out more here: https://squeezyapp.com/  

                                                                                                                                                     

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                                                                                                                                                    13 min
                                                                                                                                                  • 187: Let’s Talk About Painful Sex: Vulvas and Vaginas

                                                                                                                                                    This episode gets real as Melissa and Kate talk to Shannon who opens up about her personal experience with painful sex and vulvodynia and vaginismus. She shares how these challenges have shaped her live, relationships, and self-esteem, while also tackling the pressures society places on sexuality. It’s a candid, heartfelt conversation that’s all about breaking the stigma and encouraging empathy. 

                                                                                                                                                    What We Talked About: 

                                                                                                                                                    • Real-Life Struggles: Shannon shares her journey with vulvodynia and vaginismus, including the physical pain and emotional impact. 
                                                                                                                                                      • Society’s Unrealistic Expectations: They chat about how society often sets women up with impossible expectations around sex and why it’s okay to redefine intimacy on your terms. 
                                                                                                                                                        • Getting Help: Shannon talks about her treatment journey, including using prescribed creams, considering therapy, and learning about her anatomy to take charge of her recovery. 
                                                                                                                                                          • Redefining Intimacy: A look at how sex is about so much more than just penetration and why communication and trust are key in relationships. 
                                                                                                                                                            • Let’s Get Empathetic: Melissa and Kate highlight why talking about these issues openly is so important for reducing stigma and creating a more supportive world. 
                                                                                                                                                            • Big Takeaways: 

                                                                                                                                                              1. Pain During Sex Isn’t Normal: If you’re struggling, speak up and seek help. 
                                                                                                                                                                1. Support is Everything: Having a supportive partner, friends, and medical team can make a huge difference. 
                                                                                                                                                                  1. Sex is Personal: Don’t let anyone tell you what intimacy should look like—it’s about what works for you and your partner. 
                                                                                                                                                                    1. You’re Not Alone: So many people deal with these issues. Let’s talk about them and support each other. 
                                                                                                                                                                    2. Join the Conversation: 

                                                                                                                                                                      Got a story to share? Or just want to chat about this episode? Hit us up on [email protected] We’d love to hear from you! 

                                                                                                                                                                      Resources We Mentioned: 

                                                                                                                                                                      • Counselling and therapy for sexual trauma. 
                                                                                                                                                                        • Pelvic floor physio options. 
                                                                                                                                                                          • Online support groups and forums for those with vulvodynia or vaginismus. 
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                                                                                                                                                                            23 min
                                                                                                                                                                          • 186: Exploring the Science of Sexual Desire and Fantasies with Dr. Justin Lehmiller

                                                                                                                                                                            In this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, we’re thrilled to welcome Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a renowned research fellow at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University and one of the leading voices in the field of human sexuality. Dr. Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life and The Psychology of Human Sexuality, shares groundbreaking insights into the fascinating world of sexual fantasies and desire. 

                                                                                                                                                                            Dr. Lehmiller discusses key findings from his research, including the results of the largest-ever survey of sexual fantasies in the United States, which reveals what Americans are fantasizing about and how these desires reflect societal shifts in attitudes toward sex and intimacy. 

                                                                                                                                                                            Topics Covered in This Episode: 

                                                                                                                                                                            • Future Directions in Sexuality Research: Dr. Lehmiller highlights underexplored areas in the field and shares his vision for advancing the study of human sexuality. 
                                                                                                                                                                              • Consensual Non-Monogamy: We dive into his research on CNM relationships and discuss the cultural and structural changes needed to support diverse relationship styles. 
                                                                                                                                                                                • Cultural and Demographic Variations: Learn how factors like age, sexual orientation, and cultural norms shape the nature and prevalence of sexual fantasies. 
                                                                                                                                                                                  • Research Inspiration: Dr. Lehmiller shares what sparked his passion for studying human sexuality and how his role at the Kinsey Institute has influenced his work. 
                                                                                                                                                                                    • Sexual Fantasy Trends: Discover the societal and psychological insights behind the most common sexual fantasies, and how open communication about desires can strengthen relationships. 
                                                                                                                                                                                    • As the host of the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast, and a guest expert featured on platforms like Netflix’s Sex, Explained, Dr. Lehmiller brings a wealth of knowledge, humor, and empathy to this thought-provoking conversation. 

                                                                                                                                                                                      Tune in to uncover the science behind sexual desire and learn how to navigate your fantasies with greater confidence and understanding. 


                                                                                                                                                                                      Links and Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

                                                                                                                                                                                      • Dr. Justin Lehmiller’s Blog and Podcast: Sex and Psychology
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                                                                                                                                                                                      • 185: From Fizzle to Sizzle: Rekindling Passion and Navigating Mismatched Desires in Long-Term Relationships

                                                                                                                                                                                        In this episode, we are thrilled to welcome Dr. Nazanin licensed clinical psychologist specializing in addictions, eating disorders, sexual health, and mental wellness. She is also the host of the renowned Sexology podcast, which boasts over 400 episodes exploring various facets of intimacy and relationships. 

                                                                                                                                                                                        Together, we delve into one of the most common challenges faced in long-term relationships: reigniting passion and navigating mismatched desires. We discuss how to move from “roommates” to romantic partners, explore reasons behind dwindling attraction, and offer actionable advice for reconnecting with your partner on an intimate level. 

                                                                                                                                                                                        Key Topics Covered: 

                                                                                                                                                                                        • Defining Sexless Relationships: What constitutes a sexless marriage, and why it might not always mean what you think. 
                                                                                                                                                                                          • Causes of Diminished Desire: Life stressors, parenting, unresolved relational issues, and how these factors impact intimacy. 
                                                                                                                                                                                            • Shame and Guilt Around Desire: Addressing guilt, especially in the context of illness or changing life stages and rediscovering the joy of pleasure. 
                                                                                                                                                                                              • Rekindling Connection: Tips for reigniting the spark, such as reflecting on past intimacy, introducing novelty, and creating space for open conversations about desires and fantasies. 
                                                                                                                                                                                                • Practical Tools and Strategies: 
                                                                                                                                                                                                  • The Sexy Happy Hour technique: A light-hearted way to explore fantasies, give feedback, and reignite passion. 
                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Incorporating romance: Holding hands, going on dates, and reminiscing about exciting moments from the early days of your relationship. 
                                                                                                                                                                                                      • Using games or prompts to foster communication and curiosity about intimacy. 
                                                                                                                                                                                                      • Memorable Quotes: 

                                                                                                                                                                                                        • “Predictability leads us to lose attraction. Introducing novelty and curiosity can reignite that spark.” 
                                                                                                                                                                                                          • “When we’re turned into roommates instead of romantic partners, it’s time to intentionally prioritize connection and intimacy.” 
                                                                                                                                                                                                          • Actionable Takeaways: 

                                                                                                                                                                                                            • Start small: Plan a romantic date or set aside time for a Sexy Happy Hour. 
                                                                                                                                                                                                              • Reflect on your core erotic emotions: What experiences excite and connect you? 
                                                                                                                                                                                                                • Open the conversation: Talk about desires and fantasies in a non-judgmental and curious way. 
                                                                                                                                                                                                                • Resources Mentioned: 

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Relationship and intimacy games for couples 
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                                                                                                                                                                                                                      This episode is packed with practical advice and inspiration for anyone looking to reignite intimacy and connection in their relationships. Tune in now to discover how to turn the fizzle back into sizzle! 

                                                                                                                                                                                                                       

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • 184: Prostate cancer and testosterone levels – a lived experience.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      In this episode, Melissa and Shane dive deep into health topics encountered by Shane, including  personal experiences with prostate cancer, low testosterone, and hormone replacement therapy. They cover: 

                                                                                                                                                                                                                      1. Health Management and Responsibility 
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        • The significance of individual responsibility in monitoring and managing personal health. 
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          • Exploring the role of hormone levels in cell regeneration and cancer development, with Melissa sharing a study on how low testosterone might increase the risk of high-grade prostate cancer. 
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          •   Testosterone Replacement Therapy 

                                                                                                                                                                                                                            • Benefits and challenges of testosterone replacement therapy for mood, energy, and overall well-being. 
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              • Shane shares his journey with prostate cancer, from diagnosis to treatment, and how low testosterone influenced his health management. 
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                • A discussion on therapy options, dosage adjustments, and the importance of regular monitoring for optimal health outcomes. 
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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  • Shane and Melissa discuss the W-912 massage pen for nerve stimulation, used to improve recovery post-surgery and general nerve health. [Link included below] *note this is Shane’s experience and not a professional endorsement by Melissa 
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  • Tune in to hear Shane’s unique insights on his hormone health, his journey through cancer recovery, and taking charge of personal health through informed decisions and proactive measures. 

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     

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