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In this episode, we introduce the "Knowing What I Now Know" (KWINK) analysis—a powerful tool for self-reflection without judgment. We explore how we, as physicians, can apply this framework to our careers, workplaces, and personal lives with kindness and self-compassion.

We’ve all been conditioned to self-criticize—questioning our decisions, feeling shame for past choices, and internalizing the voices of those who have judged us. But what if we replaced that with self-understanding? What if we recognized that our past selves made the best decisions possible with the information they had at the time?

In this episode, we’ll cover:
✔️ How medical training instills judgment and self-blame—and how to undo it
✔️ Using KWINK to assess our current job and whether it’s serving us
✔️ Evaluating our careers at a macro level—are we still in alignment with what we truly love?
✔️ What we need in our personal lives to create balance and sustainability

It's time to shift from self-judgment to self-compassion. Let’s embrace change with kindness and start making decisions that serve us today—not just the version of us from years ago.

💡 Reflection Questions:

1. Knowing what I now know about my job, what needs to change?
2. Knowing what I now know about my career path, is this still what I want?
3. Knowing what I now know about my life, what do I need more (or less) of?

Let’s Stay Connected:
This work is challenging, but it’s worth it. If you’re ready to explore how you can reclaim your energy and redefine your path in medicine, I’d love to help.

📧 Reach me at [email protected]
🌐 Visit www.healthierforgood.com to learn about my coaching programs, including Unbound: Women Physicians Reclaiming Their Lives.

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Hello, friends, and welcome to another episode of Ending Physician Overwhelm. This week, we’re tackling a topic that resonates deeply for so many of us in medicine: the challenges of navigating relationships with our employers.

We’re not talking about the individuals you work alongside every day, but the employer as an entity. What happens when your values, mission, and vision for patient care seem to be at odds with the system you work in? And how can we move forward when trust in our workplace has eroded—or was never there to begin with?

Here’s what we cover in this reflective and empowering episode:

• Looking Back to Look Forward
  We take a moment to reflect on what we thought life in medicine would be like before med school. What were your hopes, expectations, and ideas about patient care? Now, compare that to your day-to-day reality. This isn’t about judgment—it’s about noticing the gap.
• The Trap of Self-Blame
  Too often, we internalize the struggle as a personal failure: “If only I worked harder, charted faster, or was better at my job, everything would fall into place.” But this mindset harms us and perpetuates a belief that the system we work in is fair or reasonable when it often is not.
• Evaluating the Employer-Employee Relationship
  What if we flipped the script and graded our employers? Are they living up to the promises made when you took the job? Do their values align with yours, or is there a growing mismatch? We explore how to assess this relationship without cynicism but with clear-eyed honesty.
• Recognizing Your Own Value
  Your skills, expertise, and personhood are your most important assets, and they should always be prioritized. If you feel stuck, remember that you have choices—even if they don’t feel obvious right now.
• Finding a Way Forward
  Whether you choose to stay or decide to leave, the key is recognizing your worth and aligning your actions with your values. We explore ways to approach this decision with curiosity and intention rather than anger or frustration.

This is a deep dive into the systemic challenges we face and a call to reconnect with your intrinsic value as a physician and a human being. You are not broken, and the difficulties you experience are not your fault.

As always, my friends, take care, take heart, and take the time to reflect on what you need to live and practice medicine in a way that feels sustainable and aligned with your values.

Let’s Stay Connected:
This work is challenging, but it’s worth it. If you’re ready to explore how you can reclaim your energy and redefine your path in medicine, I’d love to help.

📧 Reach me at [email protected]
🌐 Visit www.healthierforgood.com to learn about my coaching programs, including Unbound: Women Physicians Reclaiming Their Lives.

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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Today’s topic—self-compassion—feels especially timely. I’ve been navigating my own challenging season recently, and I wanted to share some reflections and tools that have been helping me, in the hope they’ll resonate with you too.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The January Blues: How the transition into the new year often brings a lull after the holidays, leaving many of us grappling with difficult emotions.
• The Power of Self-Compassion: Why meeting ourselves with kindness, mindfulness, and an understanding of shared humanity can build true resilience, especially during tough times.
• Recognizing Overwhelm: The importance of naming and processing emotions rather than over-identifying with or numbing out from them.

A key takeaway is that self-compassion isn’t about glossing over challenges; it’s about facing them with gentleness, clarity, and intention. Drawing from Dr. Kristin Neff’s framework of self-kindness, mindfulness, and common humanity, we'll talk about ways to reconnect with yourself and regain a sense of agency, even when the world feels chaotic.

Whether you’re experiencing a brief season of stress or something more prolonged, this episode is a reminder that your emotions matter and that prioritizing your own care is not only okay—it’s essential.

Resources Mentioned:

• Dr. Kristin Neff’s work on self-compassion
• Journaling techniques, including thought downloads
• The Lazy Genius podcast by Kendra Adachi

As always, I appreciate you tuning in. Take care of yourself this week, and remember, leaning into self-compassion is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.

Let’s Stay Connected:
This work is challenging, but it’s worth it. If you’re ready to explore how you can reclaim your energy and redefine your path in medicine, I’d love to help.

📧 Reach me at [email protected]
🌐 Visit www.healthierforgood.com to learn about my coaching programs, including Unbound: Women Physicians Reclaiming Their Lives.

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A Birthday Wish:
My birthday was January 12th! The best gift you could give me? Leave a rating, write a review, or share this podcast with someone who needs it. Let’s keep growing this community of women physicians who are ready to heal, grow, and thrive.

Listen Now and Take Control of What You Can.

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Description:
Deep breath, as we dive into a reality that so many physicians face daily: navigating situations over which we have so little control. From overwhelming inboxes to unrealistic expectations from patients and systemic challenges in healthcare, we discuss the emotional toll this lack of control can take—and how we can respond with intention and self-compassion.

Together, we explore the complex layers of responsibility, moral injury, and the often misplaced sense of blame we carry as physicians. Most importantly, we talk about reclaiming our power, setting boundaries, and taking care of ourselves in the midst of it all.

What We Cover in This Episode:

1. Acknowledging the Chaos of Healthcare:
   • Stories of systemic dysfunction, from termination without cause to insurance denials.
   • How physicians often bear the brunt of blame for things beyond our control.
2. The Emotional Toll of the Inbox:
   • Why the electronic medical record can be a source of overwhelm and anxiety.
   • How unrealistic patient expectations (and systemic failures) contribute to the pressure.
3. Navigating the Gap Between Responsibility and Control:
   • The tension between having high levels of responsibility and limited power to change outcomes.
   • Recognizing that we are not at fault for everything patients perceive as a problem.
4. Steps to Reclaim Our Agency:
   • Settle the Nervous System: Practices like deep breathing and grounding exercises to reduce fight-or-flight responses.
   • Examine Our Thoughts: Identifying and challenging the beliefs that keep us stuck in overwhelm.
   • Decide How to Proceed: Creating boundaries, delegating tasks, and giving ourselves permission to say no when appropriate.
5. Choosing to Stay in the Game:
   • How acknowledging what we can’t control helps us focus on what we can.
   • Practicing self-care as an essential part of staying in medicine without burnout.

Takeaways:

• We can’t wait for the broken healthcare system to be fixed before we start taking care of ourselves.
• Recognizing what isn’t ours to control allows us to reclaim our energy and focus on what matters.
• It’s okay to flounder as we practice new habits—progress takes time.

Let’s Stay Connected:
This work is challenging, but it’s worth it. If you’re ready to explore how you can reclaim your energy and redefine your path in medicine, I’d love to help.

📧 Reach me at [email protected]
🌐 Visit www.healthierforgood.com to learn about my coaching programs, including Unbound: Women Physicians Reclaiming Their Lives.

If this episode resonates with you, please share it with a colleague who might need to hear it. Your support means the world.

A Birthday Wish:
My birthday is January 12th! The best gift you could give me? Leave a rating, write a review, or share this podcast with someone who needs it. Let’s keep growing this community of women physicians who are ready to heal, grow, and thrive.

Listen Now and Take Control of What You Can.

Support the show

To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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Episode Summary:

Happy New Year, friends! As we step into 2025, I’m sharing my word for the year: Integration. It’s a concept I believe we’re all seeking, even if we haven’t quite named it. Integration is about feeling present, grounded, and whole—showing up as your full self at work, at home, and in your body.

In this episode, I explore what it means to cultivate integration as a busy physician, and how this can shift the way we approach our work, relationships, and self-care. We’re talking about breaking free from perfectionism, acknowledging the systems that challenge us, and reclaiming a sense of connection and purpose in our lives.

What We Cover in This Episode:

• What Integration Means: Feeling connected to yourself, your emotions, and your values while being present with others.
• Why We Struggle with Integration: Years of training and conditioning have taught us to put our needs last, leaving us disconnected and stuck in survival mode.
• How to Cultivate Integration at Home:
  • Creating boundaries between your physician identity and your personal relationships.
  • Identifying what you need to feel present and connected after a long day.
• Integration at Work:
  • Understanding the realities of your time and resources to avoid mismatched expectations.
  • Aligning your work with your values—or recognizing when it’s time to move on.
• Reconnecting with Your Body:
  • Simple practices to feel grounded and meet your basic physical needs like sleep, nutrition, and movement.
  • Tuning into your emotions and building a better relationship with yourself.

Key Takeaways:

1. Integration is the Opposite of Survival Mode: It’s about reclaiming connection, not just “getting through the day.”
2. Small, Intentional Steps Matter: Whether it’s setting boundaries, reflecting on misaligned values, or taking a breath to reconnect with your body, integration is built moment by moment.
3. We Don’t Need to Be Robots: Efficiency isn’t about perfection. It’s about showing up as your full, human self in alignment with your values.

Actionable Steps for Integration:

• Take 30 seconds before entering your home or next patient room to check in with your body. What do you need in this moment?
• Reflect on your work environment: Are your expectations aligned with your reality?
• Identify one boundary to protect your personal time this week.

Work with Me:

If integration resonates with you, I’d love to support you. Whether it’s through my group coaching program Unbound or one-on-one sessions, I’m here to help women physicians reclaim their lives and reconnect with themselves.

Let’s make 2025 a year of integration and intentionality.

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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In the final episode of 2024, we reflect on the year that’s passed and look forward with intention to the year ahead. As physicians, the end of the year often brings heightened perfectionist tendencies, alongside a desire to make sweeping changes. Instead of falling into the trap of magical thinking, we walk through a healthier, more intentional process to close out the year and start fresh without unrealistic expectations.

Together, we explore how to celebrate our wins, honor our challenges, and set meaningful intentions for the new year—without guilt, self-judgment, or the weight of “should.”

What We Cover in This Episode:

• Celebrating Successes:
  • Why acknowledging our wins is critical for rewiring our brains to notice the good.
  • Practical strategies like keeping a “wins” notebook to track and reflect on daily accomplishments.
• Reflecting on Challenges:
  • Identifying areas where we fell short without resorting to harsh self-criticism.
  • Letting go of guilt, judgment, and the heaviness of unmet expectations.
• Setting Intentions for the New Year:
  • Moving beyond magical thinking to create actionable, realistic goals.
  • Prioritizing intentionality and carving out time for what truly matters.
  • Recognizing the importance of boundaries and asking for support to make space for your goals.

Key Takeaways:

1. Wins Deserve Celebration: Physicians are conditioned to focus on what’s wrong. Taking time to celebrate even small wins is essential for balance and growth.
2. Kindness Over Judgment: Reflect on challenges with compassion to gain clarity and take constructive steps forward.
3. Intentionality Drives Change: Goals require planning and action—small, consistent steps make progress attainable and sustainable.

A Simple Framework for Closing Out the Year:

1. Celebrate: What went well in 2024? What are you proud of?
2. Acknowledge Challenges: What obstacles did you face, and what lessons can you take forward?
3. Set Intentions: What do you want for yourself in 2025, and how can you start creating space for it?

Practical Tips:

• Start a notebook or journal to track wins daily or weekly.
• Reflect on where your time goes—look for areas to reclaim time for meaningful pursuits.
• Break down goals into small, achievable steps to avoid overwhelm and perfectionism.
• Create boundaries to protect time for rest, relationships, and personal growth.

Final Thoughts:

As we step into 2025, let’s carry forward the lessons of this year with compassion and clarity. Whether this year was filled with wins, challenges, or both, reflection can help us grow and set intentions for a brighter future.

Thank you for being part of this journey in 2024. Wishing you a happy and fulfilling New Year!

Thank you for tuning in! Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review. Until next time, take care.

Connect with Dr. Megan Melo:

• Website: www.healthierforgood.com
• Instagram: @MeganMeloMD
• Email: [email protected]

Support the show

To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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Episode Summary:

In this episode, we explore the role thought errors play in shaping how we interact with our inboxes, particularly through electronic medical records (EMRs). These common patterns of thinking contribute to moral injury, burnout, and the overwhelming sense of always needing to be “on.”

See how these beliefs keep us tethered to our inboxes after hours, why patient portals create unrealistic expectations, and how these challenges impact our ability to provide compassionate care. We'll also talk about strategies to set boundaries, challenge perfectionism, and take back control of our time and energy.

What We Cover in This Episode:

• Thought Errors That Keep Us Stuck:
  • Believing we are responsible for patient emergencies/outcomes at all times.
  • Feeling like it’s our job to accommodate patients who refuse other options for care.
  • Thinking that checking the inbox constantly can prevent bad outcomes.
• How EMRs Have Changed the Landscape:
  • The unintended consequences of patient portals and 24/7 messaging.
  • How responding to messages after hours reinforces unhealthy expectations.
• Strategies for Change:
  • Reframing our responsibility for patient outcomes.
  • Recognizing the inherent imperfections in any healthcare system.
  • The importance of protecting boundaries to maintain longevity in medicine.

Key Takeaways:

1. We Cannot Be On-Call 24/7: While technology has revolutionized patient communication, it has also created unhealthy pressures. It’s essential to reestablish clear boundaries.
2. Patient Outcomes Are Not Solely on Us: Moral injury often stems from systemic challenges, not personal shortcomings. Understanding this can lighten the emotional burden we carry.
3. Boundaries Are the Foundation of Great Care: When we prioritize our own rest and well-being, we’re better equipped to care for our patients during working hours.

Reflective Questions for Our Community:

• What thought errors keep us tethered to our inboxes after hours?
• How can we challenge the belief that constant availability equals better care?
• What’s one small step we can take this week to establish healthier boundaries?

Let’s Keep the Conversation Going:

Ready to take the next step in this work?

• Join our Unbound coaching group for women physicians to find a supportive community dedicated to breaking free from burnout and rediscovering joy in medicine. The next round starts March 2025
• Explore one-on-one coaching opportunities to develop personalized strategies for thriving in your career and personal life.

Connect with Us:

• Website: www.healthierforgood.com
• Instagram: @MeganMeloMD

Final Thoughts:

As 2024 comes to a close, let’s lean into the courage it takes to challenge ingrained beliefs and embrace self-compassion. Together, we can rewrite the narrative, letting go of unsustainable expectations to create a life and career that honors both our humanity and our calling.

Tune in now to join us on this journey of unwinding thought errors and reclaiming balance.

Support the show

To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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In this episode, we dive into the conflict between wants and needs—a dynamic that significantly impacts how physicians manage their time, energy, and priorities. Inspired by insights from The Gap Versus the Gain by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy, Megan unpacks why physicians often prioritize external demands over their own personal goals and desires.

Key Topics Discussed:

1. The Conflict Between Needs and Wants

Physicians are highly trained to respond to external drivers and prioritize others' needs, often at the expense of their own.

• Common examples include:
  • Completing patient notes and addressing inbox messages.
  • Managing the tension between doing work efficiently versus meeting perfectionistic expectations.

2. Why Change Feels Difficult

The brain is wired to focus on survival and external validation, not personal desires like more free time or less stress.

• Many physicians are conditioned to value perfection and external praise, which reinforces time-consuming habits.

3. Three Steps to Align with Your Wants:

• Step 1: Clarify the Value of Your Goal
  • Ask: Why do I want this? (e.g., to avoid late nights finishing notes, reduce stress, or be present with family).
  • Write down at least 20 reasons to connect emotionally with the goal.
• Step 2: Identify Deep-Seated Beliefs
  • Explore beliefs about what is “necessary” in your work, such as writing perfect notes or avoiding mistakes at all costs.
  • Challenge whether those beliefs truly serve you.
• Step 3: Bridge the Gap
  • Compare your list of wants to the obstacles in your way.
  • Take small, measurable steps toward progress and celebrate those wins.

4. Practical Applications:

• Understand the difference between doing something “good enough” versus striving for perfection.
• Focus on incremental changes, like finishing one note before moving on to the next task or closing mental loops at the end of the day.
• Use this process for bigger goals like reducing administrative burdens or transitioning to a more fulfilling career.

Takeaways:

• Recognize that your training predisposes you to prioritize others’ needs—but embracing your own wants is essential for your well-being.
• By shifting your mindset and making small, consistent changes, you can free yourself from overwhelm and reclaim your time.
• Progress is not linear, and setbacks are normal—but each step forward is a win worth celebrating.

Resources & Mentions:

• The Gap Versus the Gain by Dan Sullivan & Dr. Benjamin Hardy PhD

Thank you for tuning in! Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review. Until next time, take care.

Connect with Dr. Megan Melo:

• Website: www.healthierforgood.com
• Instagram: @MeganMeloMD
• Email: [email protected]

Support the show

To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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In this episode, we dive into the pervasive challenge of managing the harsh inner critic many women physicians face. We explore the origins of this critical voice, how it develops, and its impact on our lives. Let’s also talk about compassionate strategies to identify, understand, and quiet this inner critic, so you can learn to live life with less negative noise.

Key Takeaways:

Understanding the Inner Critic

• Origins:
  • Often rooted in societal expectations to excel and please others, reinforced from childhood through adulthood.
  • Influenced by environments that equated worthiness with achievement, perfection, and making others happy.
• Behaviors and Patterns:
  • Turns leisure activities into measurable achievements.
  • Critiques rest and relaxation as laziness, perpetuating burnout and overwork.
  • Mirrors external voices like strict authority figures, internalized as self-judgment.

Why It’s Harmful:

• Keeps high achievers in a cycle of overwork and self-criticism.
• Prevents true rest, joy, and connection with oneself and others.
• Leads to feelings of inadequacy and perpetuates burnout.

Strategies for Taming the Inner Critic:

1. Recognize and Name the Critic:
   • Identify the inner voice as separate from yourself.
   • Give it a name to acknowledge when it’s active (e.g., “The Judge” or “The Boss”).
2. Understand Its Intentions:
   • Reflect on what the inner critic is trying to achieve.
   • Recognize that, while misguided, it believes it’s helping you succeed.
3. Compassionately Shift Its Role:
   • Accept that this part of you exists but doesn’t have to lead.
   • “Move it to the back seat” by listening without allowing it to dictate actions.
   • Practice self-empathy and reframe thoughts as opinions, not truths.
4. Reimagine Success Without the Critic:
   • Visualize a life where the critic isn’t in control—where rest, joy, and imperfection are part of your journey.

Mentioned Resources:

• Books and Concepts:
  • Internal Family Systems Therapy by Richard Schwartz.
  • Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine.

Invitation to Join Unbound:

Are you a woman physician battling burnout, perfectionism, people-pleasing, or a lack of boundaries? Join Megan’s transformative program, Unbound: Women Physicians Reclaiming Their Lives.

Enrollment Deadline: December 13, 2024
Next Session Starts: March 2025 (don’t wait!)

Unbound offers a supportive community and actionable tools to reclaim joy and balance.

Connect with Megan:

• Website: www.healthierforgood.com
• Program Info: Click here

Let’s work together to quiet the inner critic and create a life filled with joy, rest, and purpose.

Thank you for tuning in! Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review. Until next time, take care.

Connect with Dr. Megan Melo:

• Website: www.healthierforgood.com
• Instagram: @MeganMeloMD
• Email: [email protected]

Support the show

To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

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In this episode of Ending Physician Overwhelm, we dive deep into the real reasons behind our struggles with setting boundaries as physicians. It’s not just about finding time for lunch or stepping away from work—it’s about uncovering the deeply ingrained patterns and thoughts that keep us stuck in cycles of guilt, overwhelm, and exhaustion.

Dr. Melo shares personal anecdotes, like the untouched chocolate croissant that became a symbol of her overcommitment (or maybe just anxiety?), and offers insights into why we often put ourselves last. 

If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t seem to take a break, even when you know you need one, this episode will resonate deeply.

Key Takeaways from This Episode:

• The Root of the Problem: Why our medical training pushes us to override basic needs like eating, resting, and hydrating, and how this creates patterns of burnout.
• Thoughts Drive Actions: How subconscious thoughts like “I can’t stop until everything is done” create feelings of guilt and anxiety that keep us trapped in overwork.
• Breaking the Cycle: The importance of recognizing and challenging conditioned beliefs to reclaim your time, energy, and well-being.
• A Personal Story: Dr. Melo’s own experience of ignoring her hunger for years while navigating inboxes and patient demands—and the lessons she’s learned since.
• The Path to Change: Why curiosity, awareness, and discomfort are essential to breaking free from the patterns that hold you back.

Listener Reflection Questions:

1. Do you find it hard to stop and take a break during the day? What thoughts or feelings come up when you try?
2. What “rules” or beliefs about work might be driving your exhaustion or guilt?
3. How might starting small—like honoring your hunger or taking a 10-minute breather—create space for bigger shifts in your life?

Resources and Next Steps:

• Join the Community: If you're ready to dive deeper into this transformative work, consider joining Dr. Melo’s group, Unbound: Women Physicians Reclaiming Their Lives. Spots may still be open for December 2024—reach out to learn more!
• One-on-One Coaching: Work with Dr. Melo directly to identify and change the patterns that are keeping you stuck.
• Stay Connected: Follow the podcast and sign up for updates to hear about future group offerings and coaching opportunities.

Episode Inspiration:
“The healthcare system is broken. But waiting for it to change isn’t the answer. When we work on our thoughts, feelings, and actions, we reclaim our power and start living in alignment with what truly matters.” – Dr. Megan Melo

Connect with Dr. Megan Melo:

• Website: www.healthierforgood.com
• Instagram: @MeganMeloMD
• Email: [email protected]

This episode will inspire and challenge you to get curious, get uncomfortable, and start making the changes that will truly set you free. Tune in now!

Support the show

To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

Want to contact me directly?
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