If the science of the brain, the “why” behind things, and using discipline as an opportunity for teaching is fascinating to you, you won’t want to miss a minute of today’s show.

Dr. Tina Bryson joins Amanda and Vickie in part 1 of a 2-part series to discuss how discipline in the United States is counterintuitive, the release of her new book, and so much more.

Dr. Tina Bryson is a psychotherapist, author, and Founder/Executive Director of The Center for Connection, a multidisciplinary clinical practice, and of The Play Strong Institute, a center devoted to the study, research, and practice of play therapy through a neurodevelopment lens.

Her latest book is The Power of Showing Up with co-author, Daniel J. Siegel, M.D.

Show Highlights:

• Dr. Bryson discusses what led to writing her latest book.
• Children with underlying reading-based or writing-based challenges often have parents who say they experienced the same challenges as a kid.
• The purpose and goal of discipline should be to help the child become a self-disciplined person that can regulate themselves, make good decisions, and handle themselves well on their own.
• That a child is being a brat on purpose and making a willful choice each and every time they are being difficult is not true when you consider how the brain and the nervous system works.
• The brain is either in a reactive mode or it’s in a receptive mode.
• Dr. Bryson describes the different states of arousal in our nervous system and the impact on learning.
• The Polyvagal Theory is when we go into threat states due to toxic stress, our social engagement circuitry turns off. The inner ear muscle actually changes so it’s harder to hear the human voice. Audio and visual processing basically turn off except as regards the focused threat.
• Punitive discipline sends a kid into a higher state of stress, making a learning moment even more difficult.
• There are ways to help a kid through a reactive state, and connection is the first step.
• Dr. Bryson shares ways to proactively get a child involved in making better decisions.
• One of the best things a parent can do is to provide their children with secure attachment. This process involves the four S’s:
• (1) Helping kids feel SAFE.
• (2) Helping kids feel SEEN.
• (3) Helping kids feel SOOTHED.
• (4) When a kid experiences enough of the safe, seen, and soothed, then they will feel SECURE.
• As adults, we need to experience the four S’s with the people in our own lives who can show up for us.
• IEP’s Podcast Live Tour Launches This Month! More Information Coming on Social Media Soon, Stay Tuned!

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Books Mentioned: The Power of Showing Up by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. No-Drama Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. The Bottom Line for Baby by Tina Payne Bryson

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