They were bitter, angry, and pointing the finger at each other.  Whenever I tried to get them to make a shift, they quickly reverted to blame. I had to find a way to make a shift. And then it occurred to me — one little exercise that transformed their marriage.  Here is the interesting thing:  […]

Let me ask you one simple question:  who is the enemy of saving your marriage?  Is it your spouse?  Is it someone else?  Is it something else? The answer is crucial.  Answer it wrong, and you will find yourself constantly struggling to move forward.  More than that, you will only increase the resistance from your […]

Can your marriage be saved?  Let’s look at a couple of measurements that will help you determine how difficult it may be. Do you know about boundaries and standards?  Many people confuse the two, and if you do, you can cause problems in your relationship. Let’s talk about boundaries and how to set them.  And […]

Fear, resentment, habit.  All reasons why we hide.  And we hide more the more important the relationship.  The intimacy may scare us, the scars may hide us. But if we want to heal a relationship, especially a marriage, we HAVE to show up! In this week’s podcast, I examine the reasons we hide, and how […]

Is your marriage infected by the “zombie virus?”  Do you find your relationship to be the “walking dead?”  Are emotions lost and connections missing?  Do you and your spouse respond to each other with “zombie grunts?” The infection can be stopped.  You can fight the infection and heal the relationship. Don’t allow the big 4 […]

Have you ever noticed that your mind runs pretty much non-stop?  Try NOT to think, and see how long you can do that. The problem isn’t that you keep thinking.  The problem is how often you forget that you are thinking.  You confuse your thoughts with reality.  And that’s when the trouble begins. . . […]

Fear.  It is the enemy of your efforts to save your marriage.  We all have fear.  But how much does fear get in the way? In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, we explore how your fear of abandonment can destroy and undermine your efforts. But more importantly, we explore some ways to […]

What happens when your feelings get you?  Do you give up or get busy? We cover it in today’s podcast. What happens when you see your spouse through a negative lens?  Why does this happen? We cover it in today’s podcast. Ready to be courageous, even courageously compassionate as you work to save your marriage? […]

In this podcast, I tackle the top 5 things a marriage therapist will not tell you.  If you are in therapy, considering therapy, or have tried therapy, please listen! Here are the Top 5 Things Your Marriage Therapist Will Not Tell You: 5)  Marriage therapy is not effective (let me tell you why). 4)  Your […]

Wow!  Last week’s podcast caused a stir.  Lots of comments and emails, so I decided I needed to follow up.  Today, we look more in-depth at “can’ts” and then talk about why you and your spouse see things differently. What do you think?  Leave your comments below.