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Ever wondered how to foster resilience and independence in our children? Join us as we unwrap the layers of educational support with the insightful school counselor Katie Preston. Katie brings her rich background in social work and counseling into our heartwarming conversation, imparting her wisdom on the art of asking for help and the importance of building resilience through self-advocacy. We navigate the home-school connection and explore the powerful teachings of "The Gift of Failure" by Jess Lahey.

This episode also paints the broad strokes of educational paths, emphasizing that college is not the only avenue to success. We highlight the importance of adaptability in career journeys and the significance of life skills in tandem with continuous learning. Whether our kids are college-bound or stepping straight into the workforce, personal development is key. From the vantage point of parenting, we consider how each child's journey might differ and the dreams we harbor for them, setting the stage for future discussions on sibling dynamics and resources to support every child’s unique educational experience. Join us for an enlightening episode that promises to leave you with a fresh perspective on guiding our youth towards independence and success.

This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast
 
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Ever found yourself at your wit's end, labeling your child's less-than-angelic moment with a word like 'brat'? Listen in as we dissect why this seemingly innocuous term should be dropped from our parental language. This episode promises a transformative journey as we unravel the complex tapestry of language and its impact on our little ones. Discover the deep-seated effects of our frustrated outbursts and why they might be doing more harm than you'd think.

 We're taking a hard look at how our words shape our children's self-perception and exploring alternative expressions that nurture instead of hinder. By the end of our time together, you'll have a toolkit brimming with strategies to foster those precious connections with your children, while guiding their behavior in a way that's as respectful as it is effective. Join us for an eye-opening conversation that's about to change the dialogue in homes everywhere.

This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast
 
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Have you ever found yourself at a loss, trying to navigate your child's emotional outbursts or unexpected behaviors? This episode is a heartfelt journey into the power of our emotional responses and their profound effects on shaping a child's character. Drawing from personal experiences and the wisdom gleaned from my website, Make Words Matter for Good.com, I share how authentic expressions of pride and disappointment can be more influential than any punishment. We discuss the subtle yet impactful ways that acknowledging a child's positive traits can foster responsibility and kindness, as well as how to handle those moments when they make choices that leave us less than proud.

As we peel back the layers of communication between parents and children, I highlight why regular, heartfelt discussions about feelings are key to nurturing emotional intelligence and strengthening family bonds. My book and series of eBooks serve as your guide through these sometimes challenging conversations, offering practical advice to ensure your words resonate with purpose and positivity. By the end of our conversation, you'll have a treasure trove of strategies for connecting with your child and helping them develop into self-aware, empathetic individuals who understand the weight of their words and actions.

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Every parent remembers their own awkward teenage years, but witnessing your child grapple with social anxiety can leave you feeling helpless. Through the intimate lens of our own experiences, we unravel the complex web of teen social anxiety, distinguishing the fine line between common adolescent awkwardness and the red flags that signal a call to action. As guardians, we're often the frontline support for our youth, and today, we explore how best to arm ourselves with the understanding and tools needed to guide them through this rough terrain.

This heartfelt discussion uncovers the importance of being present for our teens – both emotionally and physically – as they navigate the wild waters of peer relationships and self-identity. With advice on how to validate their feelings without exacerbating their stress, we share practical strategies for you to help your teen build resilience and effective coping mechanisms. Join us on this journey as we delve into creating a safe space for our teenagers to grow, learn, and ultimately, triumph over the challenges of social anxiety.

This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast
 
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Imagine unlocking the secret to a fulfilling career that goes beyond the paycheck; we're here to guide you on that journey. This week, Kali Wolken, with a remarkable ten years of shaping young careers, unveils the art of aligning one's passions with a rewarding career path. Together, we unpack the essence of a job being more than just a financial necessity—it's a significant slice of life where joy and satisfaction are paramount. Kali brings to the table the concept of expanding horizons, encouraging young minds to think imaginatively about career prospects, and the exhilarating possibility of turning passions into professions.

Our enlightening conversation navigates through the practical aspects as well, discussing tools like the Campbell Interest and Skill Survey that can shine a light on personalized career directions. Kali highlights why professional guidance is crucial when interpreting these assessments, ensuring that young adults have a clear vision of their strengths. We also touch on the less-traveled roads, like the benefits of a gap year for introspection, and the counterintuitive notion that changing college majors could actually improve chances of graduation without adding extra semesters. This dialogue is peppered with strategies and insights for both teens and parents, aimed at fostering informed decisions that lead to both personal and professional growth—turning the career exploration journey into an adventure of self-discovery.

This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast
 
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Hey Listener! I am glad you are here. I've recently had several conversations with parents of teens and so I went back and listened to some episodes on Kids These Days that I could share again here. This was one of my FAVORITE episodes and although we talk about the power of the pandemic, I am finding so much of what Jody shared from this episode to still be true today. I hope you can find some nuggets of truth in your life by listening in to this replay episode from Kids These Days.

Have you ever watched a teenager you care about struggle through the tangled web of relationships during these unprecedented times? That's where we dive in today, with the invaluable guidance of Jody McQuitty, a seasoned licensed clinical social worker. Together, we unpack the heightened challenges teens face amidst the COVID-19 pandemic, from intensifying depression and anxiety to the erosion of deep, meaningful connections. We discuss strategies to foster genuine interactions and offer practical tools for nudging our youth towards healthier conversations that go beyond the surface, fortifying friendships, and reinforcing their sense of self in a world that all-too-often demands conformity.

For parents feeling adrift in a sea of doubt on how to support their teenagers, this episode casts a lifeline. We tackle the pervasive issue of negative self-talk that plagues so many young minds, sharing actionable advice for helping teens separate damaging fiction from their authentic truths. I reflect on my own journey of realizing the power of positive self-talk, not just for our kids, but for ourselves as role models. We provide  resources for further support, ensuring you're not alone in this journey to nurture an environment where every stumble is a step towards growth and where open arms await the tales of the day, both triumphant and trying. Join us for a conversation that aims to light the path for parents and teens alike during these complex times.

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Listen in as I team up with the remarkable Dr. Tim Hess to unravel the complexities of university counseling centers—a crucial sanctuary for students in the throes of personal growth and academic challenges. This episode promises a treasure trove of insights for anyone fascinated by the delicate art of guiding young adults through the often tumultuous journey of higher education. We navigate the developmental milestones of those aged 18 to 24, and Tim, with his rich experience, sheds light on the transformative 'becoming' phase that defines university life. Amidst the serious discussion, we find moments of levity, sharing tales of Tim's unexpected enchantment with Disney and his unwavering passion for the Olympics.

As we dissect the structures and philosophies that shape university counseling centers, I draw parallels to healthcare, illustrating the necessity of a stepped care model in mental health services. It's a game-changer in empowering students with the appropriate resources, moving beyond individual therapy to a spectrum of support systems. Tim and I dive into the challenging task of aligning student expectations with the reality of available services, offering a candid look at the comprehensive care that shapes the collegiate mental health landscape. It's an enlightening segment that peels back the curtain on the inner workings of these essential institutions.

In the final stretch of our conversation, we explore the balancing act parents face as they support their young adults stepping into independence. We underscore the importance of resilience, self-awareness, and the empowerment that comes from learning through life's trials, even failure. As we wrap up, I extend my heartfelt thanks to Tim for his invaluable contributions and encourage listeners to reach out with their own questions and stories. This dialogue is not just a learning experience—it's an invitation to be a part of an ongoing conversation that shapes the world of university counseling and the future of our emerging adults.

This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast
 
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Discover the profound wisdom of trees and their influence on our psychological health as Dr. Kelly Savery, a seasoned counseling psychologist, shares her unique approach to integrating these gentle giants into therapeutic practices. Our exchange sheds light on the stabilizing presence trees offer us and how they act as living metaphors for personal growth and resilience. Together, we uncover the 'taproot' concept for a robust psychological foundation, drawing attention to the nurturing parallels between tending to our basic needs and the way trees absorb sunlight and water to thrive.

Venture with us through a journey of self-care and interconnectedness, where the simple act of grounding in the present moment can be as transformative as the communal behaviors of a forest. Dr. Savery's insights on the social networks of trees open up a profound discussion on human connection and support systems, reminding us of the therapeutic benefits of the great outdoors. We also touch on the importance of embracing our limitations and fostering connections, highlighting the role of nature in enhancing our mental well-being outside the confines of traditional therapy.

Cap off this enlightening conversation with a deep dive into the necessity of patience and balance in our fast-paced world. We reflect on the growth parallels between trees and personal development, stressing the virtues of patience, acknowledging limitations, and fostering connections in a society that often emphasizes individual achievement. Dr. Savery's expertise leaves us contemplating the ways we can embrace the wisdom of the natural world and leverage nature's healing power to foster a sense of belonging and grounding in our lives.

This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast
 
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When Michelle Benyo faced the unimaginable loss of her son to cancer, she found a way to channel her pain into purpose, guiding other bereaved parents through the fog of grief. Her story, a testament to the power of transformation, is one we unravel in today's episode, where she shares her insights on Good Grief Parenting. With candor and compassion, we traverse the complex emotions that come with loss, emphasizing the necessity of acknowledging and facing grief to cultivate resilience and hope.

Our dialogue also brings to light the challenge of raising children in the aftermath of a sibling's passing. We uncover the often overlooked signs of grief in children, who express their sorrow in ways vastly different from adults. By fostering open communication and patience, Michelle underscores the importance of being present for our children's evolving understanding of loss. This episode aims not only to comfort but also to empower parents with strategies and resources, including the Good Grief Guide, to walk this difficult path with fortitude and love.

As we wrap up, our conversation takes a momentary detour to appreciate the unlikely joy found in the harshness of Minnesota winters. It's a lighthearted reflection on embracing life's every season, akin to the way we approach grieving—with the right attitude and tools, even the coldest days can hold moments of warmth and growth. Michelle's journey resonates with a universal truth: grief, when navigated together, can become a journey of shared healing and unexpected strength.

This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast
 
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Have you ever wondered how the simple act of being there for someone could be a beacon of support through their suffering? Join us as Dr. Nick Lee and I unravel this profound question, sharing personal and professional reflections on the transformative power of presence in therapy and relationships. Dr. Lee, with his expertise in counseling psychology and integrated care from Open Door Health Services, brings a wealth of knowledge that enriches our heartfelt discussion.

At the core of our exchange is the recognition of the emotional weight borne by mental health professionals. We candidly discuss the critical need for self-care rituals and the ethical quandaries we navigate when setting boundaries, despite an overwhelming demand for our services. I open up about my own experiences, including coping with the loss of my father, while emphasizing that therapists are not impervious to personal struggles. Our conversation is an open invitation to understand the often overlooked human aspect of providing care and the shared journey of embracing vulnerability.

The episode culminates with an eye-opening discussion on the nature of suffering and how we can foster a healthier relationship with it. Our stories underscore the insight that suffering goes beyond the pain felt—it includes our resistance to it. We offer listeners strategies for building attunement in their relationships and encourage embracing moments of presence, whether in joy or hardship. This is more than just a dialogue; it's an exploration of the courage needed to share and grow through our struggles, together.
 

This podcast is meant to be a resource for the general public, as well as fellow therapists/psychologists. It is NOT meant to replace the meaningful work of individual or family therapy. Please seek professional help in your area if you are struggling. #breakthestigma #makewordsmatter #thingsyoulearnintherapy #thingsyoulearnintherapypodcast
 
 Feel free to share your thoughts at www.makewordsmatterforgood.com or email me at [email protected]

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