This month’s coaching conversation examines phrases we use that lead us into self-deception. Tom and his client explore why thinking errors so often remain invisible and, once revealed, what other words might be possible substitutions. SHOW NOTES:
 Tom mentions two books in this episode:  “How To Raise Your Self-Esteem” by Nathaniel Branden
  https://www.amazon.com/Raise-Your-Self-Esteem-Action-Oriented-Self-Confidence/dp/0553266462/  “The Four Agreement” by Don Miguel Ruiz
  https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319 Related Tips & EpisodesDon’t Take Anything Personally Self-Awareness & Self-ManagementSelf-Limiting BeliefsSmoothing Harsh Edges Three Words You Should Never Say  This Tip is in five categories in the archive:For Women,Managing Yourself, Perception - How You Perceive Yourself,Personal Growth & Self-Development,Self-Talk  The archive is at:
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Before testifying in a high-stakes case, a theorist and his coach swap horror stories about their nerves hijacking them and the lessons they learned. 

Tom’s Top Three Ideas for Mastering Nerves:Celebrate Incremental ImprovementWrite Happy EndingsIgnore Your Nerves
 Here is the clip of Emma Stone battling her anxiety. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkN0sPQ76E0 
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1.  Coaching Stories Podcast 
2.  Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF-LA. CCE’s given! 
 Tom’s conversations with Neha Singh on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast are here and here. Please help yourself to the free resources in our Essential Tools bin. 
This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories: Managing Yourself Nervousness Self-Talk 
 Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies:  Act “As If” Choosing Persistence Conquering Fear The Executive Impostor The Many Parts of You 
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Mastering Nerves

Angry at himself for continually putting others’ needs before his own, a leader turns to his coach for tools. He learns a new way to think and a behavior to try.  
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Listen to Tom’s conversations with Neha on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast here and here. 
Our Essential Tools bin has free resources to help you build your look and sound of leadership.  
G.W. Bailey’s imdb page is here. 
 This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories: For Women Managing Yourself Self-Talk 
Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies:  188 Boundaries 165 The Conflict Conversation 220 Holding Boundaries 219 How to Set Boundaries 116 Speaking Your Truth  
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Conquering People Pleasing

A vice president, struggling to control his team of artists, learns a technique for managing bad behavior from his coach. He likes it so much, he uses it with his high performers, too. The tool described in this episode is simple to understand but may take a bit of courage to implement.

Courage can be taught. Brené Brown created her Dare to Lead course for exactly that purpose. Ready to build your courage? Reach out to us here. 

Find more resources to build your skills in the podcast archive. Search these categories:

Assertiveness Feedback Management Skills 
 Five episodes you might listen to are: #47 Discussing Difficult Behaviors #18 Holding People Accountable #138 Managing Disruptive Executives #127 Managing Performance: Up or Out #65 Sorting & Labeling 
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Finding Management Courage

A leader is so furious with his self-absorbed boss, he considers quitting the company. He asks his coach to help him manage himself and defuse his triggers. In addition to the five strategies Tom talks about in this episode, there are lots more strategies in his conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching For Leaders “How to Deal with a Boss Who’s a Jerk.”  
Tom’s wide-ranging conversation with Josh Dittmer can be found here. 
Free tools to support your professional development are in our Essential Tools bin. Please help yourself. 
Ready to explore coaching? Reach out to Tom here. 
 Other episodes to help you manage yourself in difficult workplace relationshipsare:The Disruptive Executive – Part OneThe Disruptive Executive – Part TwoDon’t Take It PersonallyHandling Defensive BehaviorsThe High-Maintenance Executive
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Thanks to all of you, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership.  Happy, healthy, safe new year!

5 Strategies for Dealing with Narcissists

Tired of losing to more savvy players, a leader seeks to decode the secrets of playing politics, focusing particularly on company culture. 

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“The Secret Handshake” is a great tool for mastering workplace politics. 



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More tools are in our podcast library. This episode is in three categories:

For Women
Perception – how you perceive others
Relationship Building

Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy:

188 - Boundaries
210 - How to grow your self-management
67 - “I hate politics”
142 - The Mindful Executive
121 - Your Goodwill Bank Account

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Happy, healthy, safe new year. I look forward to being with you all in 2024.

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