A listener writes in to ask if there's any other recourse when her partner will only take on domestic labor if his family is watching 👀

Resources Mentioned:

Pierre Fleury on IG

Books Mentioned on This Episode

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How do we feel about wife strikes? How do we feel about shaming partners on the internet? All your burning questions answered in this episode!

Resources Mentioned:

Cindy Ditiberio's Post Post-Partnership

Books Mentioned on This Episode

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We're so excited to welcome Raena Boston to the podcast! This episode has everything--gentrification, capitalism, racism, unpaid maternity leave that leads to paid paternity leave, and the scam of having it all.

Resources Mentioned:

Raena Boston - The Working Momtras

Chamber of Mothers

Books Mentioned on This Episode

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In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a voicemail submitted by a male listener--who says he never considered that caregiving work could be a skill that could be practiced and learned. Is it worth learning?

Resources Mentioned:

Books Mentioned on This Episode

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In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss a TikTok that recently went viral--over paper plates versus real dinner plates. Is making the little decisions something we should "JUST GET OVER" or is there an opportunity for connection there?

Resources Mentioned:

Books Mentioned on This Episode

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Have you ever heard or had a partner tell you directly, "Well if you hate taking care of the kids so much, why don't YOU work and I'LL stay home and relax?" Laura Danger and Crystal Britt discuss this zero-sum fallacy and what it means for BOTH partners to have buy in to a life you're building together--and how you BOTH get something out of that.

Resources Mentioned:

Lin--The Gentle Counselor

Drew Afualo

Books Mentioned on This Episode

Statistics on Father Engagement

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HEY MAMA! Join Crystal and Laura in this episode to talk about the dark recesses of the internet known as Mommy FB Groups to touch on the inequity of educating parents on...parenting.

Mentioned in this Episode:

Kier Gainess on IG

Dr. Becky on IG

Michael Vaughn Episode

Books Mentioned on This Episode

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In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a listener-submitted question: She wonders if, after being the default partner for 20 years, her husband is justified in complaining that their proposed housework split isn't 50/50? What do you think?

Resources/Sources Mentioned in this episode:

Laura's Free Home Cleaning Checklist

Gottman Institute (Couples Tips!)

Time To Lean's Bookship.org List (Find Emotional Labor and Set Boundaries Find Peace here!)

Emotion Sensation Wheel Pillow

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In this episode, Laura and Crystal continue their conversation around Amazon Prime Video's "Shiny Happy People" documentary mini-series which focuses on the Duggars and the way The Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP) turned a TLC show into ministry.

TW: religious trauma and abuse

Resources/Sources Mentioned in this episode:

All About Love by bell hooks

Linda Fruits Instagram (@fruitsofmotherhood)

Chamber of Mothers

Nick North

Sex Theory with Dee

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In this episode, Laura and Crystal talk with Kate Adelle, a single mom, about the concept of "married single mothers." In response to a recent IG story shared by Crystal, Kate talks about how she has been impacted by single motherhood, how she experineced motherhood from within a marriage relationship, and how lack of systemic policy protection and support in the US effects ALL parents.

*NOTE* The audio in the episode may seem choppy--we had file issues!

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