A breakdown of my expenses and how I budget as a grad student and business owner. I also answer your questions regarding career, failure, breakups and ADHD. You asked, I ANSWERED!

5:24 Q1: How do you manage money as a grad student and business owner?

9:37 Q2: How to navigate failure and career pivots

12:25 Q3: What is bringing you joy right now?

14:06 Q4: Breakup tips?

17:17 Q5: How do you manage ADHD among all the boss girl sh*t you do?

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I’ve been putting off this topic for a while… but let’s unpack how I’ve been completely neglecting my mental and physical health through this crazy period of my life. This episode is about getting back on track. I'll share how I'm resetting my priorities, what I'm doing to climb out of this funk, and a daily habit that has been super helpful throughout this time.

Show Notes

1:20 Navigating the stress of recent events

2:35 How to deal with too much on your plate

6:39 Realizing when you’re engaging in unhealthy habits

8:06 Getting my priorities straight!

9:44 Being strategic vs trying to accomplish everything

12:45 Dealing with the algorithm as a content creator

14:02 Examining your priorities

16:10 Ask yourself, are you self-sabotaging?

17:01 The sacrifice to do the things you love is worth it

18:11 Ways I’m prioritizing my health

19:43 Orienting yourself with intention

20:16 What are five things you’re proud of doing?

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I'm so excited to sit and chat with you guys! Today I'm answering a bunch of questions regarding dating, health, current favorites, classes at Wharton, and everything in between. So let's get cozy and start talking sh*t.

Show Notes

0:58 Second semester chat

1:51 How am I liking Wharton?

3:19 Falling back on priorities

3:40 Group life reset

4:21 Starting as a leadership fellow

7:03 What I dislike about Wharton

7:19 Favorite class I’ve taken

9:45 Switching management companies

12:20 Adjusting to the single life

14:19 What I’m loving

16:15 Travel favorites

19:29 Red light therapy

20:30 Supplement update!

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From corporate burnout to building her own creative agency, this week's guest, Madison Utendahl, walks us through her inspiring and multi-hyphenate career journey. We'll delve into her time at HBO, Refinery29, and her experience leading social media at the Museum of Ice Cream, and finally, how she founded her creative agency - Utendahl Creative, which has earned her recognition by Adweek's Creative 100 and Forbes' 30 Under 30.

Madison shares her candid story: navigating an identity crisis, finding creative fulfillment, planning a strategic job exit, setting business standards that prioritize work-life balance, and finding a supportive life partner. You will definitely walk away with so many tangible insights to create a life and career you love.

Show Notes

0:57 Welcome Madison Utendahl!

3:28 Recognizing and embracing your multi-hyphen life

5:12 Madison’s career trajectory

7:12 You are not above the early stages of your job

8:01 Life after HBO

8:49 Understanding the nuances of things you dislike

10:21 Holding space for people and their differing creative ideas

12:24 You’re sabotaging your privilege by accepting an unhealthy way of life

14:31 Stop taking on unnecessary burdens 

16:22 Importance of peer accountability in the workplace

18:27 Know your basic needs and accept the sacrifices

20:02 Money can’t buy you happiness

21:07 Realizing the corporate grind doesn’t work for you

22:29 Nothing you see on social is real

24:46 Advice for when you’re burnt out

28:01 When you have strong boundaries, you don’t let your job/people push you to burn out

30:43 You don’t have to reinvent the wheel, you can just emulate other successful companies/societies you look up to

31:56 Questioning systemic/archaic constructs

35:47 Having to be “twice as good”

39:00 Discussing the engagement party

41:40 Finding someone who supports your ambition

42:52 Finding the right one once you accept your ambition

43:48 Instrumental resources for personal and professional development

46:08 Rapid fire questions!

Keep up with Madison!

Utendahl Creative

@madison.utendahl on Instagram

Resources/Mentioned

The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

The War of Art by Steven Pressfield

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

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Discover four key elements that will reshape your self-image and strengthen your relationship with yourself. Tune in for practical inner work insights to help you build a more fulfilling and loving life.

Show Notes

1:24 How I’ve *really* been doing 

2:18 Why I love Valentine’s Day

3:24 Self-love and what it means

4:01 The categories of self-love

5:27 Navigating the pressure/anxiety around not being in a relationship

6:47 Putting yourself first regardless of your relationship status

7:27 Three things that make up self-love

8:36 How to build your inherit self-worth

10:15 Try to see the nuance in things

12:58 Self-esteem as a crucial component in building confidence

15:00 If you’re swayed by other people’s opinions, you’’ never feel a true sense of self

15:22 Let’s talk about self-discipline 

17:18 Redefining self-discipline

18:11 Realizing you deserve more and acting accordingly

Resources/Mentioned

The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler

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It's time we redefine selfishness, break free from old people-pleasing habits, and unapologetically prioritize our needs. It's easy to let life slip by without realizing how much we bend over for others' expectations, responsibilities, or demands that don't contribute to our well-being or personal growth.

We'll explore the consequences of sacrificing our needs for others and dive into the transformative journey of declaring our 'selfish era.' Tune in for practical insights on shifting your mindset and embracing an authentic, unapologetic way of living.

Show Notes

1:37 Managing the emotions that come with the end of a long-term relationship

2:23 Entering your selfish era and prioritizing your needs

3:07 Importance of investing in yourself 

4:04 Ways to be intentional with your time and energy

5:20 Developing a hobby/identity to create a sense of self outside your relationship

6:59 Ask yourself, are you doing things for yourself or to appease someone else?

7:38 What do you want your life to look like?

8:44 The drawbacks of giving too much

11:43 Relinquishing control over certain outcomes

12:51 Utilizing calming affirmations to remain levelheaded

13:56 What does being selfish mean to you?

15:59 Knowing when to walk away

16:37 Self-esteem vs self-worth

17:55 Stop seeking validation from others

18:49 Stop taking responsibility to make everyone help

19:27 Self-care isn’t selfish, but being selfish is self-care

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Join me for a raw and candid conversation as I unpack recent insults, dealing with haters in real life, and strategies for facing those who try to make you feel small.

We're unraveling the layers of people-pleasing, and why it's crucial to protect your energy in a world full of energy vultures.

Show Notes

2:00 You can’t be everything and still be liked

3:11 Protecting your energy as an ambitious person

4:31 Avoiding relationships with insecure people

5:32 Using accolades to remedy insecurities

7:00 Feeling as though you have something to prove

8:48 Understanding your subconscious lack of boundaries

10:12 Discerning between people pleasing and genuine interest

12:19 Chasing perfection never yields happiness

13:22 Feel the pain that comes with someone neglecting your success, but don’t let it define you

15:20 “If you don’t like me that’s fine…”

16:22 It’s only embarrassing if you’re embarrassed

17:24 Having the courage to be yourself

19:22 On being Nice and Pretty

20:31 Nice girls don’t win

21:34 It’s important to be discerning with who you trust/share information with

23:11 No one can make you feel inferior without your consent

Resources/Mentioned 

• Westman Atelier Vital Skin Foundation Stick

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Let's catch up! Tune in for some recent life updates, reflections on my dating life, and my ins and outs of 2024. I'll be sharing insights on mindsets, habits, self-care, and what I will absolutely NOT be tolerating this year. Join me for a breakdown of what's been happening and what's on the horizon!

Show Notes

2:42 Life update!

6:36 Burnout prevention

8:01 What classes am I taking!

9:29 Going with the flow

10:48 Dating again after a long-term relationship breakup – learning to be intentional

13:37 Setting personal standards and sticking to them

14:08 New Year’s resolutions – planning for a year of fun and achievement

15:24 Stopping to reflect on how far I’ve come

18:32 Enjoy the fruits of your labor!

19:09 Ins and Outs of 2024

19:22 Outs!

19:29 Sleeping with your phone

20:26 Favoring aesthetics in lieu of genuine connection

21:29 Dating content from people who’ve never been in relationships

22:48 Believing that your dreams are too big

24:24 Neglecting to get pedicures

25:53 Ins!

25:26 Hard gel manicures

26:30 Pampering yourself

27:17 Baths for stress relief

27:42 Supplements and increased water intake

28:24 Investing in bodycare

29:24 Being unapologetic!

Products mentioned:

Naturium Glycolic Acid Exfoliating Body Wash

Naturium Multi-Oil Body Wash

Osea body oil

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Today, we're diving into my journey getting off birth control and the lifestyle changes I've made to balance my hormones. I'll walk you through how I prepared my body to remove hormonal birth control, discuss the side effects I noticed, and share my research on the impact of birth control on our bodies. Additionally, I share what I'm doing now to balance my hormones, my list of favorite supplements, and other non-negotiable habits that have transformed my health.

Note: around minute 16:00 when I mention excess progesterone, I meant to say excess estrogen.

Resources mentioned:

Women Code by Alisa Vitti

Moody Bitches by by Julie Holland

Aura Ring

Beam Dream (supplement for sleep)

Binto Supplements

Arrae Bloat Pills

Nutrafol (for hair growth)

Elix (healing elixirs)

Alive App (workouts)

Peloton App (workouts)

Flo app (cycle tracking)

Simple Modern 40oz Cup

Study: High cholesterol in women because of skipping breakfast

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This one's for all the material girls out there! In this episode, Alexis shares her 2023 favorites. Discover the secrets behind Alexis's glowing skin, must-have makeup essentials, luxurious home picks, fashion picks, and even book recs!

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MAKEUP

• REFY BROW GEL: https://howl.me/cli2ELNZUu7  
• REFY LIP IN FAWN: https://howl.me/cli2EMpvKXc 
• AMI COLE LIP OIL: https://howl.me/cli2ELouUFp 
• DIOR ROSEWOOD BLUSH: https://howl.me/cli2ELBhcM5 

SKIN

• PEACH AND LILLY GLASS SKIN: https://howl.me/cli2ELhWFXH 
• SUMMER FRIDAYS MOISTURIZER: https://howl.me/cli2EL6YhZI 
• & SUNSCREEN: https://howl.me/cli2ELUmHPz 

BODY & FRAGRANCE

• OUAI ST BARTHS SCENTS: https://howl.me/cli2hTY0d0Z& https://howl.me/cli2EMN8BxY 
• YSL BLACK OPIUM: https://howl.me/cli2ELKYNHX 
• 11:11 BODY OIL: https://howl.me/cli2EMqB5lg 
• SOL DE JANIERO NIGHT ONE

HAIR

• OUAI DETOX SHAMPOO: https://howl.me/cli2EM3BIaF 
• REV AIR: https://myrevair.com/products/q4tp2023 
• WOW SPRAY: https://howl.me/cli2ENqsEgv 
• CURLING IRON
• https://amzn.to/47b3zsV 
• HAIR STICK
• https://amzn.to/3TA2yaC 

HOME

• 11 11 DIFFUSERS
• https://howl.me/cli2EMzwwVV 
• NESPRESSO MACHINE
• https://www.nespresso.com/us/en/vertuo-coffee-machines 
• DYSON FAN
• https://amzn.to/47gRJgR https://howl.me/cli2ENaOzej 
• OUAI X DEDCOOL LAUNDRY DETERGENT
• https://howl.me/cli2EM4RDKx 
• BYREDO SOAPS
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CLOTHING

• LULULEMON ALIGN MINI FLARES
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• MONDAY SWIMWEAR SWIMSUITS
• https://mondayswimwear.com/ 
• AGOLDE LOW RISE JEANS
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• HOUSE OF CB DRESSES
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• SKIMS BRA: https://howl.me/cli2ENr0YYx  

ACCESSORIES

• VIVRELLE: vivrelle.com 
• MY BLUE LIGHT GLASSES; https://amzn.to/3NJow7h  
• AMAZON EARRINGS: https://amzn.to/48lTU3w  

BOOKS

• THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU: https://amzn.to/3tqq1At 
• THE PERFECTIONISTS GUIDE TO LOSING CONTROL: https://amzn.to/3THi4Se 

TRAVEL

• AWAY SUITCASES : https://howl.me/cli2ENiiJlx 
• LULULEMON DUFFLE BAG: https://howl.me/cli2EMQ5uGP 
• MINI WHITE NOISE MACHINE: https://amzn.to/3RWz5q7 
• STONEY CLOVER POUCHES: https://www.stoneycloverlane.com/ 

OTHER / TECH

• SUPERHUMAN APP 
• PINTEREST
• TRIPOD: https://amzn.to/3NIHPgR 
• MY MICROSOFT SURFACE PRO 9: https://amzn.to/48fFItf 
• MY DJI POCKET 2: https://amzn.to/3TJgnU6 

TV SHOWS:

• Real Housewives
• The Crown
• The Bear

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