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As we close off the first quarter of 2024, I’m recapping my biggest takeaways and must-have items in wellness, beauty, and fashion from the past three months.

Timestamps:

1:40 self-worth is the key to everything

6:40 difference between capacity and capability

8:49 not letting other people make you feel small

12:17 wellness faves

17:24 beauty faves

20:45 fashion faves

Products mentioned

Wellness:

Armra Colostrum https://amzn.to/3JbNkC1

Super gut prebiotic https://amzn.to/3vHNMVJ

Owala water bottle https://amzn.to/3PNwPQu

Skincare:

Amazon sheet masks https://amzn.to/4cMOX75

Supergoop glow screen https://howl.me/clYvyj5brHO

Summer Fridays cushion cream https://howl.me/clYvEXcQ3To

Topicals faded https://howl.me/clYvEX4sEnK

Hero Cosmetics patches: https://amzn.to/3vHPnuH

Beauty:

Westman Atelier Stick Foundation https://howl.me/clYvEXDwUBu

Nars liquid foundation https://howl.me/clYvEXUWo8T

It cosmetics dual-ended foundation and concealer brush https://howl.me/clYvEXRw1mz

Kosas concealer https://howl.me/clYvEYcjyMQ

Giorgio armani conceler https://howl.me/clYvEX9qbKy

Ole Henrikson lip peptide balm https://howl.me/clYvEXTK1vb

Sol de janeiro delicio body balm https://howl.me/clYvEXsOjkO

Clothing:

Agolde low-rise baggy jeans https://howl.me/clYvEXtY0XE

Skims boyfriend pant https://bit.ly/4al2AbX

Sporty and rich sweat sets: https://www.sportyandrich.com/collections/sets

Boys Lie sweat sets: https://boyslieofficial.com/collections/sweats

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We’re all busy but that shouldn’t be reason to leave your health at the bottom of your priorities. In this week’s episode, I’m sharing 8 health and wellness habits that have helped me feel my best and live a healthier life overall. From daily practices to supplements and workout routines. I hope these habits inspire and motivate you to establish a healthy routine that works for you.

Resources mentioned:

Pilates workouts:

Form app

Protein:

Oikos 000 protein yogurt

Chomps

Owyn

My electrolyte colostrum water:

Armra colostrum

Drip drop electrolytes

For sleep:

Superhuman app

Beam dream drink

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As spring brings fresh new energy, this episode dives into everything I'm doing to glow up for the season. I hope this episode inspires you to hit the refresh button in your life and step into this new season feeling your absolute best.

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A breakdown of my expenses and how I budget as a grad student and business owner. I also answer your questions regarding career, failure, breakups and ADHD. You asked, I ANSWERED!

5:24 Q1: How do you manage money as a grad student and business owner?

9:37 Q2: How to navigate failure and career pivots

12:25 Q3: What is bringing you joy right now?

14:06 Q4: Breakup tips?

17:17 Q5: How do you manage ADHD among all the boss girl sh*t you do?

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I’ve been putting off this topic for a while… but let’s unpack how I’ve been completely neglecting my mental and physical health through this crazy period of my life. This episode is about getting back on track. I'll share how I'm resetting my priorities, what I'm doing to climb out of this funk, and a daily habit that has been super helpful throughout this time.

Show Notes

1:20 Navigating the stress of recent events

2:35 How to deal with too much on your plate

6:39 Realizing when you’re engaging in unhealthy habits

8:06 Getting my priorities straight!

9:44 Being strategic vs trying to accomplish everything

12:45 Dealing with the algorithm as a content creator

14:02 Examining your priorities

16:10 Ask yourself, are you self-sabotaging?

17:01 The sacrifice to do the things you love is worth it

18:11 Ways I’m prioritizing my health

19:43 Orienting yourself with intention

20:16 What are five things you’re proud of doing?

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I'm so excited to sit and chat with you guys! Today I'm answering a bunch of questions regarding dating, health, current favorites, classes at Wharton, and everything in between. So let's get cozy and start talking sh*t.

Show Notes

0:58 Second semester chat

1:51 How am I liking Wharton?

3:19 Falling back on priorities

3:40 Group life reset

4:21 Starting as a leadership fellow

7:03 What I dislike about Wharton

7:19 Favorite class I’ve taken

9:45 Switching management companies

12:20 Adjusting to the single life

14:19 What I’m loving

16:15 Travel favorites

19:29 Red light therapy

20:30 Supplement update!

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From corporate burnout to building her own creative agency, this week's guest, Madison Utendahl, walks us through her inspiring and multi-hyphenate career journey. We'll delve into her time at HBO, Refinery29, and her experience leading social media at the Museum of Ice Cream, and finally, how she founded her creative agency - Utendahl Creative, which has earned her recognition by Adweek's Creative 100 and Forbes' 30 Under 30.

Madison shares her candid story: navigating an identity crisis, finding creative fulfillment, planning a strategic job exit, setting business standards that prioritize work-life balance, and finding a supportive life partner. You will definitely walk away with so many tangible insights to create a life and career you love.

Show Notes

0:57 Welcome Madison Utendahl!

3:28 Recognizing and embracing your multi-hyphen life

5:12 Madison’s career trajectory

7:12 You are not above the early stages of your job

8:01 Life after HBO

8:49 Understanding the nuances of things you dislike

10:21 Holding space for people and their differing creative ideas

12:24 You’re sabotaging your privilege by accepting an unhealthy way of life

14:31 Stop taking on unnecessary burdens 

16:22 Importance of peer accountability in the workplace

18:27 Know your basic needs and accept the sacrifices

20:02 Money can’t buy you happiness

21:07 Realizing the corporate grind doesn’t work for you

22:29 Nothing you see on social is real

24:46 Advice for when you’re burnt out

28:01 When you have strong boundaries, you don’t let your job/people push you to burn out

30:43 You don’t have to reinvent the wheel, you can just emulate other successful companies/societies you look up to

31:56 Questioning systemic/archaic constructs

35:47 Having to be “twice as good”

39:00 Discussing the engagement party

41:40 Finding someone who supports your ambition

42:52 Finding the right one once you accept your ambition

43:48 Instrumental resources for personal and professional development

46:08 Rapid fire questions!

Keep up with Madison!

Utendahl Creative

@madison.utendahl on Instagram

Resources/Mentioned

The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

The War of Art by Steven Pressfield

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

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Discover four key elements that will reshape your self-image and strengthen your relationship with yourself. Tune in for practical inner work insights to help you build a more fulfilling and loving life.

Show Notes

1:24 How I’ve *really* been doing 

2:18 Why I love Valentine’s Day

3:24 Self-love and what it means

4:01 The categories of self-love

5:27 Navigating the pressure/anxiety around not being in a relationship

6:47 Putting yourself first regardless of your relationship status

7:27 Three things that make up self-love

8:36 How to build your inherit self-worth

10:15 Try to see the nuance in things

12:58 Self-esteem as a crucial component in building confidence

15:00 If you’re swayed by other people’s opinions, you’’ never feel a true sense of self

15:22 Let’s talk about self-discipline 

17:18 Redefining self-discipline

18:11 Realizing you deserve more and acting accordingly

Resources/Mentioned

The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler

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It's time we redefine selfishness, break free from old people-pleasing habits, and unapologetically prioritize our needs. It's easy to let life slip by without realizing how much we bend over for others' expectations, responsibilities, or demands that don't contribute to our well-being or personal growth.

We'll explore the consequences of sacrificing our needs for others and dive into the transformative journey of declaring our 'selfish era.' Tune in for practical insights on shifting your mindset and embracing an authentic, unapologetic way of living.

Show Notes

1:37 Managing the emotions that come with the end of a long-term relationship

2:23 Entering your selfish era and prioritizing your needs

3:07 Importance of investing in yourself 

4:04 Ways to be intentional with your time and energy

5:20 Developing a hobby/identity to create a sense of self outside your relationship

6:59 Ask yourself, are you doing things for yourself or to appease someone else?

7:38 What do you want your life to look like?

8:44 The drawbacks of giving too much

11:43 Relinquishing control over certain outcomes

12:51 Utilizing calming affirmations to remain levelheaded

13:56 What does being selfish mean to you?

15:59 Knowing when to walk away

16:37 Self-esteem vs self-worth

17:55 Stop seeking validation from others

18:49 Stop taking responsibility to make everyone help

19:27 Self-care isn’t selfish, but being selfish is self-care

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Join me for a raw and candid conversation as I unpack recent insults, dealing with haters in real life, and strategies for facing those who try to make you feel small.

We're unraveling the layers of people-pleasing, and why it's crucial to protect your energy in a world full of energy vultures.

Show Notes

2:00 You can’t be everything and still be liked

3:11 Protecting your energy as an ambitious person

4:31 Avoiding relationships with insecure people

5:32 Using accolades to remedy insecurities

7:00 Feeling as though you have something to prove

8:48 Understanding your subconscious lack of boundaries

10:12 Discerning between people pleasing and genuine interest

12:19 Chasing perfection never yields happiness

13:22 Feel the pain that comes with someone neglecting your success, but don’t let it define you

15:20 “If you don’t like me that’s fine…”

16:22 It’s only embarrassing if you’re embarrassed

17:24 Having the courage to be yourself

19:22 On being Nice and Pretty

20:31 Nice girls don’t win

21:34 It’s important to be discerning with who you trust/share information with

23:11 No one can make you feel inferior without your consent

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