Totally Mental

This week we’re going off the cuff. We’re commiserating on the state of the country and sharing updates on our lives,  what we've been reading/watching & our small things for our mental health! Emily is starting her ADHD assessment and educates us on her newest fascination - astrocartograhy (?). Hannah vents about chronic depression & is the new spokesperson for Buncha Crunch at the movies, kindle life, & kefir. Enjoy! 

Resources We Love:
PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!
211.org - any resource you might need in your area.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).

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Resources We Love:
Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide Lifeline
PsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

We all people-please to some extent, whether it comes from the human need for belonging or coping mechanisms. In this episode, we explore the gray spaces of people-pleasing. It’s not always a negative and sometimes it's needed in order to survive. We learn a bit about where people-pleasing really comes from, what the experts say, and accessible ways to recognize and combat it. Enjoy!

Resources We Love:
PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!
211.org - any resource you might need in your area.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).

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Email: [email protected]

Articles about being "other-focused" or "other-centered"
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202201/why-some-people-always-put-others-ahead-themselves
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/theory-knowledge/201403/are-you-other-oriented

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Website: totallymentalpod.com
Email: totallymentalblog.com

Resources We Love:
Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide Lifeline
PsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

This week we’re talking about regret & forgiving yourself. We asked our audience what they regret and have had to forgive themselves for, and answers ranged from “being a hoe” (lol) to trusting the wrong people to not going to therapy sooner and more. Regret is a part of the human experience. It doesn’t mean we’re failures even when we fail. It doesn’t mean we’re bad even when we make mistakes. It can be used as a tool for self-reflection, self-development, and ultimately, self-acceptance. Cheers! 

Resources We Love:
PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!
211.org - any resource you might need in your area.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).

Connect With Us:
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Website: totallymentalpod.com
Email: [email protected]

References:
https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-cope-with-regret-5218665
https://www.webmd.com/balance/features/learning-to-forgive-yourself

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Website: totallymentalpod.com
Email: totallymentalblog.com

Resources We Love:
Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide Lifeline
PsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

Being alone doesn't always mean lonely - but it can be pretty damn uncomfortable sometimes. We fill our lives to the brim with relationships, work, friendships, etc. that we often don't really know how to be alone. In this episode, we’re covering some of the details of singlehood - our experiences going from in-a-relationship to single, how being single can be amazing for you, and a little bit of perspective on how to be okay with - and maybe enjoy - being alone. 

Resources We Love:
PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!
211.org - any resource you might need in your area.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).

Connect With Us:
Instagram: @totally.mental
Website: totallymentalpod.com
Email: [email protected]

References:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/why-bad-looks-good/202102/why-many-single-women-without-children-are-so-happy#:~:text=Single%20women%20without%20children%20are%20often%20happier%20and%20healthier%20than,outside%20of%20their%20romantic%20relationships.

https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-feel-better-about-being-single-5101119#:~:text=Feelings%20of%20loneliness%2C%20including%20romantic,and%20increased%20mental%20health%20problems.

https://www.verywellmind.com/how-important-is-alone-time-for-mental-health-5184607

https://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2017/08/05/7-science-backed-reasons-you-should-spend-more-time-alone/?sh=d5b3f8f1b7ee

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Website: totallymentalpod.com
Email: totallymentalblog.com

Resources We Love:
Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide Lifeline
PsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

This week we’re breaking down male body image and eating disorders with our resident Totally Mental male perspective, Paul Webster! Paul shared his body image story and experiences with eating disorders candidly as well as what he continues to learn through healing. Enjoy!

Connect with Paul:
@ginger_webster on IG
Reyt Chuffed Marketing Agency - https://reytchuffed.co.uk/

Paul's IG Account Recs:
https://www.instagram.com/everybodybeautystandard/
https://www.instagram.com/bopo.boy/
https://www.instagram.com/onelittlespaceman/
https://www.instagram.com/theeverymanproject/
https://www.instagram.com/max_hovey/
https://www.instagram.com/edrecoveryblog/
https://www.instagram.com/beatingeatingdisorders/
https://www.instagram.com/williamhornby/

Resources We Love:
PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!
211.org - any resource you might need in your area.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).

Connect With Us:
Instagram: @totally.mental
Website: totallymentalpod.com
Email: [email protected]

Connect With Us:
Instagram: @totally.mental
Website: totallymentalpod.com
Email: totallymentalblog.com

Resources We Love:
Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide Lifeline
PsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

This week we’re breaking down social media and mental health. It’s no hot take that social media has become a double-edged sword, as we mindlessly scroll to numb ourselves or to portray unrealistic, polished versions of our lives. On the flip side, it’s also an incredible tool for self-expression and has become a career for some. It’s important to keep it all in perspective, so we’re talking about its physiological effects on our brains, filters, comparison, and more. Enjoy!

Resources We Love:
PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!
211.org - any resource you might need in your area.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).

Connect With Us:
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Website: totallymentalpod.com
Email: [email protected]

References:

• https://www.mcleanhospital.org/essential/it-or-not-social-medias-affecting-your-mental-health
• https://www.healthline.com/health/social-media-and-mental-health
• https://www.chicagotribune.com/nation-world/ct-aud-nw-nyt-social-media-break-20220514-drasbw5mc5h4xjejjhmrhtwsyq-story.html
• https://www.freepressjournal.in/lifestyle/five-ways-social-media-is-impacting-your-mental-health
• https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Kids-Teens-and-Young-Adults/Teens/Social-Media-and-Mental-Health

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Website: totallymentalpod.com
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Resources We Love:
Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide Lifeline
PsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

Today we’re talking about abortion. The topic holds significant relevance right now because of the leaked draft from the Supreme Court, which threatens to overturn Roe v Wade. One in four women will get an abortion over the course of her reproductive life yet it’s rarely talked about. The taboo nature of it can make it feel shameful even if our beliefs say otherwise. So today we’re layout out statistics, Em’s sharing her story & we’re sharing perspective that we hope will continue a larger conversation & help other women feel less alone. Enjoy


Petitions:
Planned Parenthood Petition
Reproductive Freedom for All (Michigan Specific)

Donate:
All donations to abortion access funds can be done through the National Network of Abortion Funds.

Keep Our Clinics, a campaign spearheaded by the Abortion Care Network that raises money for independent abortion clinics 

Help Protect Reproduction Rights

Company funds & policies

https://www.morningbrew.com/hr/stories/2022/05/06/some-employers-are-offering-financial-aid-for-abortion-related-costs-ahead-of-final-scotus-ruling

https://www.cnbc.com/2022/05/08/on-roe-v-wade-big-companies-already-have-a-precedent-for-action.html

References:

https://www.thecut.com/article/donate-abortion-fund-roe-v-wade-how-to-help.html?mc_cid=cf69a91160&mc_eid=31c97ab1a9

https://www.politico.com/f/?id=00000180-874f-dd36-a38c-c74f98520000

https://www.npr.org/2022/05/02/1096053620/supreme-court-roe-wade-leaked-draft-opinion-politico

https://www.npr.org/2022/05/03/1096094942/roe-wade-overturned-what-happens-next

https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2021/12/14/upshot/who-gets-abortions-in-america.html

https://www.npr.org/2022/05/06/1096676197/7-persistent-claims-about-abortion-fact-checked

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Resources We Love:
Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide Lifeline
PsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

Careers. Can barely live with 'em, can’t live without 'em! Living in a culture that seriously ties work & worth while also ignores the reality of its implications on our mental health has made navigating a path pretty fuzzy for our generation.  In this episode, we talk about how many people have had a change of heart & career lately resulting in "The Great Resignation", our own messy career paths thus far & ultimately that there’s no right path & there’s no timeline to “arrive.” We’re all doing the best we can out here & that is exactly right! Enjoy!


Resources We Love:
PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!
211.org - any resource you might need in your area.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).

Connect With Us:
Instagram: @totally.mental
Website: totallymentalpod.com
Email: [email protected]

Connect With Us:
Instagram: @totally.mental
Website: totallymentalpod.com
Email: totallymentalblog.com

Resources We Love:
Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide Lifeline
PsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

Welcome to procrastination station! We’ve all been in scenarios where our to-do list is just less exciting than a Tiktok scroll, Wikipedia deep dive, or navigating the madness that is Zara’s website. And before we know it, hours have passed & we’re more exhausted with no productivity to show for it. Today we’re taking a deeper look at why we procrastinate, the short-term & long-term effects it has on our mental health, relationships & general outlook on our own identities & some practical strategies to minimize the negatives. Enjoy! 

References:
Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown - https://amzn.to/38AOuZ6

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/procrastination

https://www.psychologicalscience.org/observer/why-wait-the-science-behind-procrastination

https://www.vogue.in/beauty/content/why-do-we-procrastinate-and-how-to-stop-it

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/comparatively-speaking/202106/why-we-procrastinate

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20210310-why-we-procrastinate-on-the-tiniest-of-tasks

https://www.ted.com/talks/tim_urban_inside_the_mind_of_a_master_procrastinator?language=en

Resources We Love:
PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!
211.org - any resource you might need in your area.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).

Connect With Us:
Instagram: @totally.mental
Website: totallymentalpod.com
Email: [email protected]

Connect With Us:
Instagram: @totally.mental
Website: totallymentalpod.com
Email: totallymentalblog.com

Resources We Love:
Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide Lifeline
PsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling

Burnout happens to all of us, especially in this pandemic world. We didn’t realize how many scenarios can cause burnout, and learned through our research that we probably experience it far more often than we even realize. So today we’re covering it all, from what it is and isn’t, where it comes from and how to deal. Check out the resources we gathered our research from below. Enjoy!

References:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/burnout#:~:text=Burnout%20is%20a%20state%20of,%2C%20caretaking%2C%20or%20romantic%20relationships.

https://yaledailynews.com/blog/2022/03/29/how-people-fall-apart-yale-faculty-discuss-the-impact-of-burnout-on-the-brain/

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/02/15/well/live/burnout-work-stress.html

https://www.cnn.com/2022/03/10/health/burnout-changing-brain-wellness/index.html

https://www.bustle.com/wellness/burnout-definition-what-we-get-wrong

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/burnout/art-20046642

Resources We Love:
PsychologyToday.com - like Hinge for therapists!
211.org - any resource you might need in your area.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for 24/7, free, confidential counseling when you are in crisis (whatever feels like a crisis to you).

Connect With Us:
Instagram: @totally.mental
Website: totallymentalpod.com
Email: [email protected]

Connect With Us:
Instagram: @totally.mental
Website: totallymentalpod.com
Email: totallymentalblog.com

Resources We Love:
Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide Lifeline
PsychologyToday.com - to find a therapist you like.
Crisis Textline: Text 741-741 anytime for free, confidential counseling