Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

TPP 464: Dr. Robyn Koslowitz on Post-Traumatic Parenting and Breaking the Cycles that Almost Broke You


Listen Later

Today we’re diving into the ways our own trauma can shape how we show up as parents, and how we can begin to break those inherited cycles with Dr. Robyn Koslowitz, a clinical child psychologist, trauma treatment expert, and author of Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle, Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be. In our conversation, Robyn shares insights from her book, including the concept of “secret ACEs,” the “trauma app” that can override our instincts, and the different subtypes of post-traumatic parenting. We also talk about how to recognize our triggers, the importance of self-care, and the role of the inner child in this work. Robyn’s approach blends research, clinical wisdom, and lived experience, and she offers practical hacks for navigating the challenges of parenting when trauma is part of our story.


About Dr. Robyn Koslowitz

Dr. Robyn Koslowitz is a clinical child psychologist, trauma treatment expert, and author of Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle, Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be. As the founder of the Post-Traumatic Parenting model, Dr. Koslowitz helps parents break free from inherited patterns and become the parents their children—and their inner child—need. Her core message is simple yet profound: Your inner child can’t raise a child, but raising your real-world child can heal your inner child.

Dr. Koslowitz combines research-backed tools, clinical insights, and lived experience to help parents transform trauma into growth. As she says, Adulting is hard. Adulting is especially hard if you never childed.And parenting? That’s adulting on steroids. Her “trauma app” metaphor has reached thousands, empowering parents to recognize and rewrite the patterns that no longer serve them—or their children.

 

Things you'll learn from this episode

  • How trauma can shape parenting by acting as a mirror, map, and motivator for healing
    • Why hidden or “secret” ACEs accumulate and impact the way parents show up with their children
      • How children often reveal a parent’s triggers, creating opportunities for growth and repair
        • Why post-traumatic parenting can manifest in patterns like paralysis, perfectionism, or disengagement
          • How healing begins with befriending our instincts and using the AIM method of acceptance, integration, and meaning-making
            • Why self-care and play are essential tools for connection, regulation, and attunement in parenting

            • Resources mentioned

              • Dr. Robyn Koslowitz’s website
                • Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle, Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be by Dr. Robyn Koslowitz
                  • Post-Traumatic Parenting Podcast
                    • Dr. Robyn Koslowitz on Instagram
                      • Dr. Robyn Koslowitz on LinkedIn
                        • Dr. Robyn Koslowitz on Threads
                          • Dr. Robyn Koslowitz’s YouTube channel
                            • Erik Erikson
                              • Georgie Wisen-Vincent on Unlocking Our Kids’ Emotional Balance and Resilience with The Way of Play (Tilt Parenting podcast)
                                • The Way of Play: Using Little Moments of Big Connection to Raise Kind and Confident Kids by Tina Payne Bryson and Georgie Wisen-Vincent

                                  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

                                  ...more
                                  View all episodesView all episodes
                                  Download on the App Store

                                  Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent ChildrenBy Debbie Reber

                                  • 4.8
                                  • 4.8
                                  • 4.8
                                  • 4.8
                                  • 4.8

                                  4.8

                                  943 ratings


                                  More shows like Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

                                  View all
                                  ADHD Experts Podcast by ADDitude

                                  ADHD Experts Podcast

                                  1,332 Listeners

                                  AT Parenting Survival | Raising Kids with OCD & Anxiety by Natasha Daniels: Child Therapist, Child Anxiety and Child OCD Expert

                                  AT Parenting Survival | Raising Kids with OCD & Anxiety

                                  1,194 Listeners

                                  Beautifully Complex by Penny Williams

                                  Beautifully Complex

                                  353 Listeners

                                  Neurodiversity Podcast by Emily Kircher-Morris

                                  Neurodiversity Podcast

                                  424 Listeners

                                  In It: Raising Kids Who Learn Differently by Understood.org, Gretchen Vierstra, Rachel Bozek

                                  In It: Raising Kids Who Learn Differently

                                  246 Listeners

                                  Raising Good Humans by Dear Media, Aliza Pressman

                                  Raising Good Humans

                                  1,887 Listeners

                                  THE AUTISM ADHD PODCAST by Holly Blanc Moses

                                  THE AUTISM ADHD PODCAST

                                  643 Listeners

                                  Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry by Lynn Lyons LICSW, Robin Hutson

                                  Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

                                  464 Listeners

                                  Two Sides of the Spectrum by Meg Ferrell

                                  Two Sides of the Spectrum

                                  228 Listeners

                                  Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens by Dr. Lisa Damour/Reena Ninan

                                  Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

                                  827 Listeners

                                  Uniquely Human: The Podcast by ART19    Uniquely Human

                                  Uniquely Human: The Podcast

                                  415 Listeners

                                  The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} by Robyn Gobbel

                                  The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

                                  248 Listeners

                                  Good Inside with Dr. Becky by Dr. Becky Kennedy

                                  Good Inside with Dr. Becky

                                  4,517 Listeners

                                  At Peace Parents Podcast by Casey

                                  At Peace Parents Podcast

                                  352 Listeners