Today I talk about 10 red flags  you better watch out for that are signs of a trauma bonded relationship:

1. Pace of the relationship - trauma bonded relationship tends to move super fast particularly due to the love bombing stage; while a stable relationship that is healthy in love moves at a slower and consistent pace.
2. Communication is difficult - the person who is an empath mutes themselves and is quieter, not sharing their needs and wants; while the person who is critical and abusive (and holds narcissistic traits) is more attacking in communication.
3. You start doubting your reality - this is caused due to being gaslit by your partner.
4. Your partner is criticising and attacking you.
5. You justify and defend their behaviours especially when they are harmful and hurtful for you. You justify their behaviours by accepting blame or by minimising how hurtful they were.
6. You always think about your partner and you fantasise about what life is like with them, only seeing it through rose-tinted glasses 
7. You want to help them, and because you're the empath you want to care for the vulnerable side of your partner (even when they're attacking you).
8. You do not want to leave the relationship - you feel that this relationship is the be all and end all.
9. You cover up their bad behaviour and pretend it is not happening due to fears that your friends and family will try to tell you to leave the relationship.
10. You do not share parts of yourself, how you feel or your true experiences for fear you will be rejected or criticised.

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Welcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships.

Hosted by Dr Sarah, psychologist, relationship strategist, and founder of Heal Trauma Bonding and Relationship Success Lab, this show guides you through practical tools and deep insights on:

✅ Healing from trauma bonding, anxious attachment style, and codependency
✅ Building emotional resilience and secure attachment styles a
✅ Improving communication, empathy, and emotional intimacy
✅ Reclaiming your identity, boundaries, and self-worth
✅ Creating lasting relationship happiness and passion

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