Adultery is one of the most damaging experiences a human being can endure. Infidelity not only affects our ability to trust others, but even more our ability to trust others. After the discovery we wonder to ourselves where do we turn? Kim Pullen is the creator of Hope for Spouses which has helped a multitude of individuals and marriages heal from betrayal. Kim shares her personal journey of recovery from betrayal and gives specific direction to those who feel clueless.  

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0:00 Kim's story 4:00 What is the initial discovery like for partners? 8:15 What is the difference between a partner coming forward vs getting caught? 11:05 What are the various types of affairs? 18:00 Ways to respond after being betrayed? 28:00 How do we keep ourselves sane after a betrayal? 43:00 What does the forgiveness look like? 47:00 Coaching vs counseling

Hope for Spouses Website https://hopeforspouses.com 

Hope for Spouses Network (Community) https://hopeforspouses.network

Do compulsive behaviors become better simply by becoming a Christian or is the issue more complex? Obsessions describe the mental battle and compulsions are the behavioral expression of this specific issue. Dr. Foluso provides a foundation for the clinical understanding of OCD and also addresses the spiritual dilemma many Christians face.

Please visit Dr. Foluso's YouTube channel for more content  @Skillset Counseling 

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0:00 What is OCD? 3:00 What are some misconceptions about OCD? 8:03 What is religious scrupulosity? 13:03 Are there any characteristics that are similar between Christians and those who struggle with OCD? 18:30 How might someone struggling with OCD interpret scripture?

Do compulsive behaviors become better simply by becoming a Christian or is the issue more complex? Obsessions describe the mental battle and compulsions are the behavioral expression of this specific issue. Dr. Foluso provides a foundation for the clinical understanding of OCD and also addresses the spiritual dilemma many Christians face.

Please visit Dr. Foluso's YouTube channel for more content  @Skillset Counseling   

Visit Dr. Foluso's website for a free virtual consultation @ skillset counseling.com

0:00 What is OCD? 3:00 What are some misconceptions about OCD? 8:03 What is religious scrupulosity? 13:03 Are there any characteristics that are similar between Christians and those who struggle with OCD? 18:30 How might someone struggling with OCD interpret scripture?

Going into the ministry is one of the most significant moments in a person's life. Leaving the ministry is an equally significant moment. There are more ministers leaving the ministry today than we've seen in recent history and we have a shortage of people entering the ministry. Ministry is challenging to say the least and yet it is something God values. Although there are ministers who have contributed to making things worse, there are many ministers who have made things better. There are many Spirit-led ministers who have the heart of Jesus who are contemplating leaving the ministry. Honestly, this is the last thing we need in churches. Marshall Meade is a journeyman who has been in ministry for decades and has left and returned several times. He joins the channel to share from his journey into and out of the ministry.

0:00 intro 

8:43 What are some of the pressures that ministers face today? 

18:00 How do social issues, politics, race, gender, generational issues affecting ministers? 

28:00 What are some things that are misunderstood about being an evangelist? 

40:00 Why is being a regular church member so beneficial for maturing ministers? 

47:50 Is really okay if a person wants to get out of the ministry?

For Exclusive Access to all content become a Patreon Member www.patreon.com/kylespears  What is emotional gaslighting? What are the signs? In what ways does it occur in churches and discipling relationships? Dr. Foluso joins the channel discuss the nuances of gaslighting. She is a licensed psychologist who helps those who are seeking to grow in the their faith and mental health. She has a YouTube channel called Skillset Counseling where she offers teaching and tools for those healing from church trauma and other issues.  Please check out Dr. Foluso at skillsetcounseling.com for more information.  0:00 intro 6:21 How do you define gaslighting? 18:00 What does scripture have to say about gaslighting? 23:00 Are Job's friends an example of gaslighting? 26:36 How do faith communities infantilize their members through gaslighting? 32:00 Common catchphrases of gaslighting  Boundaries by Cloud & Townsend Telling yourself the truth by William Backaus Untwisting the Scriptures by Rebecca Davis When Narcissism comes to church by Church Degrot

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What is Cancel Culture and why is so rampant? How should Christians approach the issue? Is cancelling people the same as setting healthy boundaries or different? David Jung joins the channel to discuss these questions and many more. One of the biggest issues is that we do not know how to deal with conflict in a healthy manner. David is a conflict-resolution expert who shares his knowledge on conflict and how it fuels cancel culture.

0:00 Intro 9:24 Why is conflict so challenging and what types of conflict exist? 25:55 Does interpersonal conflict drive our reactivity? 30:45 Why is Cancel Culture so rampant today? 39:00 How do the words we use trigger people to cancel us? 1:01 How do we set healthy boundaries through the lens of scripture? 1:05 What are our other options other than cancelling people?

David Jung will be facilitating a workshop on Conflict Resolution July 19-20 virtually! Register at https://ca.ctrinstitute.com/organizer/david-jung-mediation/ 

Resources: The Emotional Intelligence of Jesus- Oswald 

Emotionally Healthy Spirituality- Scazzero 

Peacemaker Series- Ken Sande

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Healing from emotional pain is some of the most challenging work that we face. Jim and Lindsey have not only participated in the journey of Soul Shepherding, but also help lead others through the program. Jim and Lindsey were recently entrusted to facilitate the "Soul Shepherding Institute" in Atlanta.  

Topics covered: 

-Spiritual Direction vs Discipleship 

-What do Christians do when they hit the wall spiritually? 

-Why are spiritual disciplines essential to growth? 

-Christ Stages Map  

Soul Shepherding is a program focused on spiritual direction which was created by Bill & Kristi Gaultiere.  

Books: Journey of the Soul: A Practical Guide to Emotional and Spiritual Growth 

Journey of the Soul: Leader Guide

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There have been some recent events that have taken place that I wanted to address. Why did I take the last video down? Why haven't I posted in a month? What do I have planned next?   

I want to sincerely thank everyone for their support and encouragement during this challenging time.

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What is a Cult? What are the indicators of a group that has become toxic? What does it look like to acknowledge your flaws and make corrections?

0:00 Intro 1:34 What is the basic definition of a cult? 6:28 What are some common misapplications of scripture used by cults? 16:44 What are some ways the ICOC resembled certain tendencies? 39:06 What are some ways the ICOC has addressed these tendencies? 53:35 What are some resources to research further?

Please visit DouglasJacoby.com to access even more content! Transformed by Truth by Tzedach And the Shofar blew by Francine Rivers

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Finding a trauma specialist can be challenging to say the least. Where do we start? What do I look for? How long do I give it? In this video I attempt to provide information that will benefit those who need to see a trauma specialist.

0:00 Intro 

2:47 How is trauma different? 

5:13 What approaches are helpful with trauma? 

7:02 Do I need to see a Christian Counselor? 

10:48 What questions should I ask a trauma therapist? 

12:55 So how do I find a trauma therapist?

EMDRIA https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

IFS https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners

Timeline Therapy http://www.cresendajones.com

Trainspotting https://brainspotting.com

NeurOptimal https://neuroptimal.com

TMS https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/transcranial-magnetic-stimulation/about/pac-20384625

The Attachment and Trauma Center of Nebraska http://www.atcnebraska.com

American Association of Christian Counselors https://www.aacc.net

AAMFT https://aamft.org/Directories/Find_a_Therapist.aspx

APA https://www.apa.org

NASW https://www.socialworkers.org

CACREP https://www.cacrep.org

APA (Psychiatry) https://www.psychiatry.org

Psychology Today https://www.psychiatry.org