Truth Trauma Theology

What does the science reveal about how parents can connect with their children? How do parents more effectively engage their children? How do we repair the relationship after it has been damaged? How do we take biblical principles in light of what science reveals? Jayna Baczwaski is a fellow colleague who is incredibly gifted with children and parents. She has extensive training working with small children all the way to working with teens. She has helped countless families work through attachment whether the children are biological, foster, or adopted.

Parenting is challenging and yet it is a God-given responsibility. But what role does the community play? What about parents who did their best and yet their kids have not decided to follow Jesus? Are churches set up for success or failure? There is a generational disconnect in many of our communities. The older and younger generations are struggling to see eye to eye. Matina joins the channel to discuss how the scriptures paint a generational picture for adolescent spiritual formation. Matina has joined the channel previously to discuss her research and joins us again to share new findings. 

0:00 Intro 5:15 What research have you done since our last interview? 

13:00 What is the difference between youth of today versus the youth of yesterday? 

17:10 How does healthy Old Testament Theology contribute to healthy adolescent formation? 

21:00 How has the approach to reach the youth evolved? 

41:00 What advice do you have for the older generation? 

45:00 What support is there for parents and kids? 

54:00 How does biblical literacy influence how parents engage their kids? 

56:00 What about parents who did a good job but their kids don't become Christians?

Why are so many kids leaving the church? How do we as parents cultivate genuine community for our children? Is it okay to move to another church that will help grow our children's faith? How do those who are single parents cope with the pressure of raising kids? In this episode we explore the approaches that are helpful and unhelpful for building your kids' faith. Dr. John Louie has conducted research that has been applied in many people's families. His research is highly regarded by others researching biblical parenting. This is the first installment in a three-part series in parenting.  

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Good Enough Parenting website: https://goodenoughparenting.com

0:00 Intro 

12:30 There is a high leave rate average in the next generation how do we address it? 

17:45 What is Good Enough Parenting? 

35:10 How do approach the Grit Culture or heavy- handedness that exists within parenting? 

47:00 How do we avoid giving our children an inflated or deflated sense of self? 

51:00 What about the concern that kids are too soft? 

58:40 How do deal with limited resources? 

1:01:00 What about parents who want to move to a different congregation that will better meet their child's needs?

How do we know if we are in an unhealthy spiritual environment? How do we know if we are becoming resentful? How do we deal with past or current hurts? Mark DeJesus is a YouTuber, transformational consultant, teacher, and former pastor. Mark joins the channel to discuss the healing process from his book Bitter free: How to Forgive Anyone, Resolve Conflict and Overcome Anger.  

Please visit Mark's website for more information: https://markdejesus.com 

0:00 Intro 

2:15 Conversion and ministry experience 

9:15 Did you reach a breaking point? 

22:00 Why did you write this book? 

32:00 How do we heal when there is still abuse occurring? 

46:00 Why do people lash out at people who are trying to help? 

49:00 Should we consider leaving our faith community? 

1:00:00 What are first steps for the forgiveness process?

Gender Roles is a hot topic to say the least. Ed and Deb Anton join the discussion to present the complementarian perspective and how women function within this specific paradigm. Ed and Deb have a unique perspective on the attitude of the heart that transcends the discussion as well.

0:00 Intro 

2:50 Conversion and ministry experience 

11:05 What do you believe is at the core of this topic? 

14:58 How do you teach the complementarian theological perspective? 

26:00 How have people responded to the kenotarian theological perspective? 

31:44 How important is biblical literacy in this discussion? 

38:30 Do you consider Gender Roles a fellowship issue or salvation issue? 

43:30 To what degree are women involved in preaching and making decisions? 

50:00 What is your stance on women teaching? 

58:00 How can congregations offer a a living example of women thriving in the church? 

1:05:00 What about the example of Junia?

There seems to be a divide between Psychiatry and Christianity. Ellie Stevens is a board-certified psychiatrist who joins the channel to discuss her experience of healing from trauma in her new book Unshackled. Ellie bridges the gap between the reality of mental health and the reality of healing that comes from a relationship with Jesus.  

Ellie's Website: https://www.drelizabethstevens.com 

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Gender Roles is the probably the most loaded topic anyone can cover at the moment. Whether you land on mutuality or complementarian, people are passion about their perspective. Steve and Lisa join the discussion to share about their journey to their perspective about gender roles.  

For those who are interested in the Johnson's recent experience in the NW, we discuss their experience in a new series called "Off the Record". In the Off the Record, we discuss personal experiences of loss, controversial issues, and Patreon Q&A. Patreon Members will also receive early access and exclusive access to content not released publicly. www. patreon.com/kylespears

How do we heal from painful experiences while holding onto our relationship with God? What about when the place we came to heal is the same place that has injured our hearts? There are many Christians who find themselves lost in loss. Healing is a path and without direction we will remain stuck. Marilyn Kriete joins the channel to share her experience of disenfranchised grief. She interweaves trauma into her story and describes how it creates a specific type of loneliness. We will be discussing her upcoming book "the box must be empty" as we navigate through her journey towards greater healing.  

*For those who are interested in her experience of the events that preceded and followed the 2003 Henry Kriete Letter, we discuss her experience in a new series called "Off the Record". In the Off the Record, we discuss personal experiences of loss, controversial issues, and Patreon Q&A. Patreon Members will also receive early access and exclusive access to content not released publicly. 

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0:00 Intro 3:00 Why did you write "The Box Must Be Empty" 24:00 How did you come to the understanding that you were stuck in grief? 32:00 What things that muffle grief? What are things that provide voice for grief? 41:00 How do people find safety for their grief journey?  

Marilyn's Website https://marilynkriete.com

Paradise Road: A Memoir 

https://www.amazon.com/Paradise-Road-Memoir-Marilyn-Kriete-ebook/dp/B0912MW8PV/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=paradise+road&qid=1663074304&rnid=2941120011&s=books&sr=1-1

Is there a New Testament blueprint that marks who the true church is? Is there a pattern of New Testament culture that we are to imitate or is there more to the story? Every congregation wants to align themselves with the New Testament examples seen in scripture, but have we missed the story of God in the process? John Mark Hicks is a notable scholar in the Restoration Movement and joins the discussion as we discuss his book "Searching for the Pattern".   

Off the Record is a new series that takes the conversation to a deeper level. In the Off the Record interviews we discuss personal experiences of loss, controversial questions, and Patreon Q&A.  John Mark is the first of the new series! Patreon Members will also receive early access and exclusive access to content not released publicly. www. patreon.com/kylespears  

0:00 Intro 2:50 John Mark's story 13:05 The Traditional Blueprint Method 30:00 The Narrative Reading Strategy 47:52 Where do you see the Restoration Movement right now? 54:20 How do we reconcile the Bible being divine vs being human? 1:00:00 What cultural issues have you noticed the Restoration churches struggling with?

John Mark's Website https://johnmarkhicks.com Searching for the Pattern https://www.amazon.com/Searching-Pattern-Journey-Interpreting-Bible/dp/1689634626/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2GN69XS75CFPV&keywords=John+mark+hicks&qid=1661811138&sprefix=john+mark+hicks%2Caps%2C94&sr=8-3 

Around the Bible in 80 Days: The Story of God from Creation to New Creation https://www.amazon.com/Around-Bible-80-Days-Creation/dp/1684264618/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2GN69XS75CFPV&keywords=John+mark+hicks&qid=1661811138&sprefix=john+mark+hicks%2Caps%2C94&sr=8-2 

Women Serving God https://www.amazon.com/Women-Serving-God-Journey-Understanding/dp/1735343307/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2GN69XS75CFPV&keywords=John+mark+hicks&qid=1661811138&sprefix=john+mark+hicks%2Caps%2C94&sr=8-1

How do we hold a both-and? One of the most concerning issues in our culture is the inability to hold two truths together at the same time. People are living in extremes and have become more reactive than ever. Hope joins the discussion to share about the concept of Radical Acceptance or Reality Acceptance through the model of Dialectical Behavior Therapy.

0:00 Intro 2:00 Hope's story 6:23 Where does DBT fit with other approaches? 12:30 Who is a good fit for DBT? 21:00 How do you structure your DBT classes? 27:00 What are the core concepts of DBT? 35:00 What is Wisemind? 38:00 What is Radical Acceptance?

Hope Peabody, MSW, LIMHP, is a licensed clinicial social worker, independent contractor, and partner with The Attachment and Trauma Center of Nebraska in Omaha. Although Crisis Intervention and treating symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder is Hope’s area of expertise, she also has experience in a number of counseling areas. She is a trained Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) counselor who regularly facilitates DBT groups, and has level 2 training in EMDR. Prior to private practice, Hope was with YWCA Omaha as a sexual assault counselor and Clinical Coordinator. She has also provided in-home therapy and helped develop an aftercare program for incarcerated women. Hope has experience training area law enforcement, other mental health professionals, as well as medical personnel in the treatment of psychological trauma, particularly in the area of sexual assault. Hope earned her bachelor’s and master’s degree in Social Work from the University of Nebraska at Omaha.