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Have you ever wondered what the big deal is when someone is shattered from the end of a narcissistic relationship? Have you ever wondered why they're not just getting over it already? If you've been in a narcissistic relationship, you know how difficult to the road to recovery is. If you haven't been, Dr. Kastner is here to help give a better understanding. If you're tired of hearing the word narcissist, this is also for you! While this word is thrown around flippantly, this is why we have experts here to provide meaningful, valuable and credible perspective and insight.Dr. Alina Kastner is a world-renowned psychotherapist from Vienna, Austria and she is here to explain why this type of abuse is so misunderstood and shakes people to their core. She goes the extra mile for her patients and even shares a narcissist playlist with them to help them heal through music. Dr. Kastner describes how the trauma bond is so intense and cognitive dissonance -- what the heart wants and what the head wants and the distance in between.She gives a beautiful explanation of CPTSD, (chronic post traumatic stress disorder) which may be a new concept to many. Narcissistic Victim Syndrome (NVS) is a case that she made for this to be a part of diagnostic tools. This damage can cause victims to lose the ability to make and create boundaries, self-esteem, self trust and the ability to regulate emotions.Dr. Kastner also shares some things that might be helpful and not helpful to say or do to people healing from narcissist abuse. She describes the different masks that narcissists wear and take off. You might be surprised at who she describes narcissists target! It's not necessarily weak or naive people.Her perspective on people that have experienced bad things is that you have a choice to either hurt others or do something good from what they've been through, or choose PTG - post-traumatic growth.She shares how physical symptoms manifest in victims during these relationships and coping mechanisms for survival can be misdiagnosed and how narcissists can even trick therapists when they actually will go to couples therapy.You may also be interested to learn about equine therapy and how she uses it with her patients for healing and learning to trust yourself again.Losing yourself and trust in yourself can be a jarring part of the narcissist abuse cycle.She gives helpful tips around identifying and staying true to your constant. The definition of mirroring and the motivation behind it is explained.Dr. Kastner gives a few tips on how to spot a narcissist dating, as a friend, as a family member and at work. Love bombing, triangulation, disrespecting boundaries, control, no accountability or not apologizing, taking credit or belittling could all be indicators.Finally, for narcissist abuse victims -- we hear you, we see you. She provides helpful steps you can take towards healing and recovery.Resources:Dr. Kastner's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.alinakastner?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcBook an appt with Dr. Kastner: https://stan.store/Alinakastner Dr. Kastner's Website: https://www.alinakastner.com/Insight

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Dr. Melissa Madeson joins us to discuss loneliness. She shares with us the root causes, symptoms, and some key strategies people can implement to feel less lonely and potentially prevent loneliness as well.

She explains the difference between transient and chronic loneliness. There is also quite a bit of discussion around feeling your feelings, being able to name your emotions and how to shift them.

At one point, she says that "what you resist persists" and this made so much sense! She discusses the benefits of meditation, therapy, nature, hobbies and journaling to help lift your spirits. Much of what is discusses also stems around being comfortable with yourself, knowing yourself and ultimately loving yourself.

Another big moment is when she explains that emotions aren't mutually exclusive. You can experience joy, even in difficult times. You can be happy doing something, even if you're grieving.

This episode is chalk full of helpful information from an expert on how to kick loneliness in the butt!

More about Dr. Melissa Madeson:

Melissa Madeson is a licensed therapist in Flower Mound, Texas. She has a PhD in Sport Exercise from the University of Tennessee, Knoxville. She also has an MEd in Counseling & Human Development from Hardin Simmons University and a BA in Psychology and MS in Kinesiology & Sport Performance from California State University, Sacramento. Melissa is Gottman level 1 and level 2 certified.

More from Melissa:

My Passion Is Helping People Deepen Their Most Meaningful Relationships. I pride myself on being compassionate, empathetic, and deeply caring. I am loyal, dedicated, hardworking, and driven.

I have experienced the highs and lows of life like so many. I have personally struggled with depression and anxiety and have also lost a younger brother to a drug overdose. At the same time, my life has had its fair share of joys—I married my best friend and soulmate and have experienced the life-giving power of relationships time and again. All of these experiences inform the work I do with clients. Today, I have my own full-time psychotherapy practice and work with individuals, couples, and families.

My Approach To The Healing Process: I take a holistic approach to mental health and relationship counseling. Sessions with me are so much more than just talk therapy—I use a bottom-up approach to help clients feel grounded and centered, get in touch with their body, and connect to themselves on a deeper level. As a certified yoga teacher, I prioritize incorporating the wisdom of the body into my work with clients. Since the mind and body are inherently connected, true healing means working with both of them simultaneously. In my work with couples, I primarily draw from an approach called the Gottman Method and also use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) & Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) No matter which approach works best for you, I am confident that I can help you improve your relationships with your loved ones and deepen your connection with yourself in the process.

Connect with Melissa:

Madeson Melissa | LinkedIn

Sunrise Wellness & Counseling (clientsecure.me)

Resources:

Brené Brown book: https://a.co/d/8mtAnM9

Article Melissa referenced: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/can_artificial_intelligence_help_us_become_less_lonely?utm_source=Greater+Good+Science+Center&utm_campaign=d326e87698-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_GG_Newsletter_December_5_2023&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_5ae73e326e-d326e87698-70749391

Melissa's article on loneliness: https://positivepsychology.com/loneliness-psychology/

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This episode is full of fun, real talk about failure and some heartfelt & vulnerable moments that will make you respect & adore Dr. Buford.

In this episode, he opens up about sharing some of his biggest failures in business and how he used those failures to catapult his career and life forward. And even though he said he wouldn't, he was vulnerable enough to share how he felt like his divorce was a failure. But plot twist -- that experience helped develop him into being the kind of partner he is today to the love of his life.

Dr. Buford shares about what some of his most proud and biggest accomplishments are, and they're probably not what you think! Find out what he means by wanting to stop and smell the roses. He drops a plethora of inspiring quotes that have made a positive impact on him that you may want to jot down yourself!

No doubt, you'll leave this conversation determined, inspired and feeling like you were wrapped in a warm hug. It's got something for everyone! Love it? Share it! And drop a 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 review or rating on the platform you're listening on.

More on Dr. Buford:

Dr. Gregory A. Buford is a Board Certified Plastic Surgeon and nationally recognized MASTER Facial Injectables Trainer. In addition, he is the founder of Core Aesthetics Training Institute, a nationally recognized organization responsible for training medical professional in the safe and effective use of facial injectables as well as the founder of Core Aesthetics Consulting. Dr. Buford has been consistently recognized in the media for his Plastic Surgery expertise and has participated with resources including Vogue, E Online, ABC News, FOX News, EMedicine, and many others. He has been chosen as a Castle Connoly Top Doctor from 2017-2023 as well as a 2023 5280 Magazine Top Doc. Dr Buford is honored to participate as a consultant and Advisory Board Member for a number of companies within the Plastic Surgery/Aesthetic Medicine space and is proud to have help launch a number of products and procedures within this industry. Dr. Buford is the author of “Beauty and the Business”, “Eat, Drink, Heal: The Art and Science of Surgical Nutrition” and “The Boob Job Bible”. These books are currently available on Amazon and have received acclaim from both medical professionals as well as patients from around the world. Gregory A. Buford, M.D. received his medical degree from Georgetown University School and Medicine and completed residencies in both General Surgery as well as Plastic & Reconstructive Surgery at the Cleveland Clinic Foundation. He obtained additional training in Cosmetic Surgery through the esteemed Baker-Stuzin-Baker Fellowship as well as an Anti-Aging/Restorative Medicine Fellowship through A4M. He is also a proud graduate of the 2018 Physician CEO program at the Kellogg School of Management. Dr. Buford has maintained strong relationships with a number of his alma maters and in 2018 was chosen as the proud presenter of the UCSD Revelle College Commencement address and in 2022 was the keynote speaker at the UCSD Revelle College Honors Graduation where he gave the keynote address and was recognized as an Honorary Fellow of UCSD Revelle College.

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Websites:

www.beautybybuford.com

www.coreaestheticstraining.com

Social Media:

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beautybybuford/

Companies:

BEAUTY by BUFORD

Core Aesthetics Consulting

Core Aesthetics Training Institute

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What's a POGO sister? Listen to the end to find out about the definition of a Pogo sister.

In this episode, Ginny and Kristen share about how they met, which is PRETTY juicy. The commonalities are endless and the story demonstrates just how small the world it.

Kristen shares her story of rising from the ashes, the ways in which she speaks about energy and how she grew through grief. She shockingly lost her husband when she was 31 years old and had a 10 month old baby.

If that sounds shocking, Kristen explains how recovering from narcissist abuse was more difficult than healing from become a 31-year-old widow with a baby.

This conversation is about connecting as evolved women supporting one another. There is chat about crystals, yoga, meditation and trusting your gut.

More About Kristen:

Kristen Brown is The Energy Phoenix! She is a Certified Speaking Professional who redefines the energy of leadership in the modern workplace. Drawing from her transformative experiences as a young widow, combined with 15 years in corporate leadership, Kristen's keynotes have revolutionized workplace dynamics for giants like Microsoft, General Mills, and Target, small businesses across industries, associations, and everything in between. With a Master's in Integral Theory (the art and science of multiple perspectives) and a suite of wellness certifications, she presents a holistic blueprint for achieving unparalleled work/life synergy, resilience, and results.

Kristen's influence spans media from Forbes to "Live with Kelly" and as one of only 360 active Certified Speaking Professionals globally, Kristen promises an experience grounded in fun, expertise, and energy. With her, organizations don't just adapt; they rise.

Kristen's Website: https://kristenbrownpresents.com/

Kristen's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/speakerkristen/

Resources on difficulty and tips on recovering from narcissist abuse:

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder/narcissistic-abuse-recovery-healing-from-the-discard

https://www.verywellhealth.com/narcissistic-abuse-recovery-challenges-and-treatment-5210945

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201606/why-recovering-the-narcissist-in-your-life-is-so-hard

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Dr. Tanya Holthus is back! She was a guest on Season 1 and her content and approach was so impactful, it was a top episode, so I wanted to invite her back to hear more from her.

This episode was requested by a listener and in it, Tanya shares with us the details of love bombing, why it is so effective, how narcissists use it and provides some really great examples of what love bombing is and what it isn't.

She also provides significant context around how this can happen not just in romantic relationships, but also in familial relationships, with colleagues and with friends.

She also breaks down DARVO for us. This is a manipulative tactic that narcissists use and falls under the umbrella of gaslighting. It's an acronym that stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse, Victim & Offender. It can leave the victim feeling confused and make them question reality.

Tanya also gets into some of the science of the wiring of the brain and why narcissists may throw what's referred to as "adult temper tantrums" and how/why they may even believe their own lies or deny behavior and actions they did indeed engage in or perform.

More about Dr. Tanya Holthus:

Tanya is a licensed psychologist and is here for you. She sees most everyone for most everything.

She enjoys working with a wide variety of clients and offers multiple services including therapy,

coaching, and supervision. She meets you wherever you are at and applies what will fit for you in the

moment.

She specializes in healing trauma and helping people with many types of issues, including post-

traumatic stress, attachment/connection, emotional/relational abuse, anxiety, depression, and

relationship issues. She is most passionate about helping people overcome relationships

involving narcissistic abuse and strengthening parent-child relationships. She also has a special

place in her heart for people suffering with fertility issues. She views things through a trauma lens

and tends to weave this into all of her work. She provides psychoeducation, teaches how to navigate

healthy boundaries, guides healing, and will help you gain clarity to bring peace in your life.

She uses an integrative approach of many modalities to fit the unique needs of each person. Some

of these modalities include parental coaching, Filial Play Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, Eye

Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and Adaptive Internal Relations (AIR)

Network.

People who have worked with her have described her as warm, compassionate, easy to talk to,

empathetic, and reliable. She loves her work as a psychologist. She will go to bat for you and will work

hard for you. She has been doing this a long time and is confident that she can help with any

presenting concern you may have.

Tanya's website: http://www.holthuscounselingllc.com/

The Magnet Syndrome Book: https://a.co/d/h8TXHN8

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We're back for Season 2! In the last episode of Season 1, I shared that I'd be taking a break to focus on some other big news. And that big news is here -- it's book #2! I released my 2nd book as the follow up to my #1 bestseller, You're My Favorite.

The 2nd book is titled I'm My Favorite: A Guided Journal for Your Path Forward. This guided journal is filled not only with context to help support the tools within, but also with beautiful artwork, inspirational quotes, worksheets, journal prompts and exercises that you can incorporate into daily life to help you on your path forward. These tools are designed to help you overcome adversity and more confidently face and tackle any challenges that come your way in the future. There is data that supports the power of putting pen to paper and I've shared a link to an article below.

There was a launch party at Jetset Underground in NE Minneapolis followed by a wine pairing at Sip Better in the North Loop.

I then headed to Chicago for a book signing at Heirloom Bookstore before heading back to Minneapolis for two workshops to support the book release!

It's been a blast and I'm really glad I was able to focus on all of that, but it feels so good to be back on the podcast studio and connecting with you here. I'm really excited about what's in store for you this season as we explore more useful topics, bring on expert guests and guests with inspiring stories.

Resources:

Book me for speaking or workshops at my website: www.ginnypriem.com

Hang out with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ginnypriem/

Get my newsletter: https://ginnypriem.substack.com/

Journaling article: https://www.paperpapier.com/menu/blog/why-how-to-journal#h.z5qb4uo55l3q

Order I'm My Favorite: https://a.co/d/9nXW8Bc

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It's been one year since the first episode of Drinking With Gin launched! A full year of content with a mixture of solo episodes where Ginny's drink is her sidekick, expert guests to tackle tough topics, and guests with inspiring stories of how they overcame trauma and adversity. Some data shows that 90% of podcasts have 3 or less episodes. So, thank you for joining this community and helping it grow!

After one full year, Drinking With Gin is going to take a well-deserved, short vacation. In the meantime, you can get caught up on episodes from season 1 that you missed, hang out with Ginny on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ginnypriem/ and subscribe to the Gin's Juice newsletter https://ginnypriem.substack.com/.

There are also many podcasts that Ginny's been the guest on and NINE of those are linked for you here.

Until next episode, shine bright and let's get growing!

Ginny's info:

Buy Ginny's book, You're My Favorite: https://a.co/d/3gVxLV6

Website: www.ginnypriem.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ginnypriem/

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Other podcasts to hear Ginny on:

Empowering Real Talk: https://youtu.be/RALippfNAhE?si=inVhYwsTvW07GJhz

Lori & Julia: https://podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/7-18-loj-book-club-youre-my-favorite-by-ginny-priem/id1437678850?i=1000570404108

The Nicole Walters Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1r2NubHmiiKrjcNenxEnKo?si=eC0p0BSKTvSs-suNiJViSQ

Storytelling with Lindsay Bednar: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ginny-priem/id1655749288?i=1000592088313

Twisted Sisters: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/youre-my-favorite-a-true-minnesota-story-with-ginny-priem/id1611111333?i=1000610505987

Tuesday With Tamika: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-152-tell-your-story-w-ginny-priem/id1501337171?i=1000622239817

This is My Moment: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-34-youre-my-favorite-with-ginny-priem/id1631072173?i=1000611830420

Rock Your Wellness with Lauren Chante: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/post-traumatic-growth-with-ginny-priem/id1606769809?i=1000619363269

Wellish: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ginny-priem-am-i-in-a-manipulative-relationship/id1645771804?i=1000625084259

In this solo episode, Ginny kicks things off with her sidekick -- her drink. And the beverage of choice for this conversation is a margarita because they can be a little bit spicy and a little bit sweet. Work-life balance is a topic that we hear people preach about. But does it actually exist? Ginny may have an unpopular opinion on this but she doesn't believe it exists. And that's because it's all just life. It comes down to prioritizing what's important at the time and being present for that. Whether that is work, family time, dinner, time with friends, kids' activities, vacation, exercise, or whatever else you have going on in life. She shares a story about the first time she was forced to check out from work while on vacation because she unexpectedly didn't have any cell phone service. If you're a leader and you preach work-life balance but don't practice it yourself, pay attention to how that impacts your team. What we say and do can have tremendous influence on those around us. No one is going to remember how much you worked, except maybe your kids. It's important to keep everything in life in balance.

As the great Dolly Parton says, "Don't be so busy making a living that you forget to make a life."

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This is an inspiring story that you won't want to miss a single second of. Guest, Cat Kozuch, shares how she used the power of affirmations, visualization and a positive mindset to prove the medical team wrong after a horrific accident left her paralyzed from the neck down. Cat's ability to keep a positive mindset through her grim diagnosis has helped her overcome much in life and she's now using her experience to help sprinkle positivity and bring the power of affirmations into children's lives with her new product, Believe a Buddy.

About Cat:

Cat Kozuch, the founder of Believe a Buddy, whose life story is a testament to the power of resilience, determination, and unwavering belief in the face of adversity.

Cat, an Adelaide-born Arizona immigrant and motivational survivor, defied the odds after a life-altering dune buggy accident in 2008, leaving her initially paralyzed. Cat broke her back in 2 places, and after an emergency surgery, doctors delivered the crushing news that she would never walk again.

Instead of believing in her daunting diagnosis, Cat wrote an affirmation on her hospital whiteboard that stated, "Cat will walk out of here!...duh!". After weeks of speaking her affirmation out loud, Cat was frustrated and started yelling at her big toe, "BIG TOE MOVE, BIG TOE MOVE, BIG TOE MOVE" and right before her eyes, a miracle happened, her big toe moved the tiniest bit! After hundreds of hours of physical therapy, three months later, Cat walked out of the hospital.

During her three-month hospital stay, her father was traveling for work, and every time he came back to visit her, he brought her a new teddy bear. The collection of teddy bears were pinned around the whiteboard affirmation. Cat's inspirational affirmation with the blend of cute teddy bears from her father led to the creation of Believe a Buddy.

Believe a Buddy was born from Cat's desire to share her story of triumph and inspire kids facing their own challenges. Through the power of affirmations and the comforting companionship of teddy bears, Believe a Buddy helps kids believe in themselves.

Cat Kozuch's life is a shining example of the human spirit's resilience and the transformative power of belief. Her journey from paralysis to walking again serves as a beacon of hope, reminding us all that with unwavering determination and a positive mindset, anything is possible. Through Believe a Buddy, Cat continues to touch lives, spreading her message of hope and inspiring others to believe in their own miracles.

Cat's info:

Website: www.believeabuddy.com

Instagram: @believeabuddy or @cat.kozuch

Facebook: Believe a Buddy

Tiktok: @believeabuddy

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Ginny brings on an expert guest in this episode. Dr. Kathy Lee Parkin is here to share some perspective on narcissists and their behaviors, patterns, and potential abuse around money. This episode was sparked because a couple of months ago, one of

Ginny's mom's friends (yes, you read that right) texted her and asked her for $15k for her mom to pay off some debt so she could buy a different house. Needless to say this felt really ick for Ginny, especially give the history of her relationship with her mom. Dr. Parkin provides insight into some of the patterns and behaviors Ginny's seen and experienced around some people that may project how successful they are and how much money they have, but the truth is, they're finances are chaotic and not what they appear. On the flip side, some narcissists may hoard money or be cheap when they're attempting to play the victim. And certainly, when they display generosity, there always seems to be a hook or they're score keeping. If you loved this episode, please share it with a friend or 10!

Dr. Kristy Lee Parkin holds a doctorate in psychology and master of business administration. She is a licensed funeral director and certified life coach and has been teaching various disciplines for over 15 years. Dr. Parkin completed her dissertation research on the phenomena of post-traumatic growth in divorced mothers and focuses her current research and writings on narcissism and how it affects different ages, relationships, and personal development. She is currently working on her second book on post-separation abuse to follow up her first book on navigating divorce, “Healing Unhappy Endings”.

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Email: [email protected] (book is available via PDF, please email)

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