In this engaging conversation, Kyira Wackett and Emily explore the themes of self-expression and authenticity. They discuss the importance of letting go of self-censorship, the role of community in fostering self-discovery, and the challenges of navigating fear and shame. The dialogue emphasizes that self-expression is unique to each individual and that true connections arise from vulnerability and authenticity. The conversation serves as a guide for listeners to embrace their true selves and cultivate deeper relationships. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Emily Rose Utter explore the themes of shame, authenticity, and emotional depth. They discuss the importance of releasing shame to embrace one's true self, the necessity of inner child healing, and how the experiences of shame can transform into gifts. They also touch on the challenges of self-expression and the steps one can take to begin this journey, emphasizing the role of community and support in the process.

Takeaways

• Self-expression requires authenticity over performance
• Self-awareness and vulnerability foster deeper connections
• Self-censorship often begins in childhood
• Authenticity attracts abundance in relationships
• Our greatest gifts can emerge from past shame
• Community support is vital for healing
• Small steps toward self-expression create lasting change
• Shame can protect but also limit growth
• Inner child healing helps release past experiences
• Self-awareness initiates transformation

More about Emily:

Emily is a business coach with a decade of experience teaching clients how to make more sales through using self-expression as their guide & compass.

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Chapters

• 00:00 - Setting the Stage for Authenticity
• 03:03 - The Journey of Self-Expression
• 08:56 - The Role of Community in Self-Discovery
• 15:08 - The Power of Authentic Connections
• 24:12 - Releasing Shame and Embracing Authenticity
• 28:19 - Inner Child Healing
• 35:20 - Transforming Shame into Gifts
• 40:11 - Taking the First Steps
• 45:01 - Connecting with Emily Rose Utter

In this conversation, Kyira and Amy discuss the pressing issue of children feeling like they are falling behind in education, particularly in the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic. They explore the origins of this fear, the impact of systemic issues in education, and the importance of understanding children's behavior as a form of communication. The discussion emphasizes the need for individualized learning approaches, the detrimental effects of labeling children, and the importance of changing mindsets around education and parenting. They advocate for a more supportive and understanding educational environment that recognizes each child's unique needs and experiences. In this conversation, Amy and Kyira explore the complexities of parenting and education, emphasizing the importance of emotional regulation, curiosity, and advocacy for children. They discuss the challenges within the school system, the need for personalized approaches, and the significance of allowing children to ask questions. The conversation also touches on the necessity of grieving parental expectations and embracing mistakes as part of the learning process. Ultimately, they advocate for a shift from compliance to connection in both parenting and education.

We covered:

• Falling behind is a dominant fear-driven motivation for parents and educators.
• The impact of COVID-19
• Children's behavior should be viewed as information, not problems.
• Individualized learning is crucial for children's success.
• The term 'behind' is detrimental to children's self-esteem.
• Comparison among children leads to a loss of joy and individuality.

• Parents should advocate for their children's unique learning styles.
• Understanding the context of a child's life is essential for effective education.
• Radical reform in education is necessary to address systemic issues. Emotional regulation and sensory processing are crucial for children.
• The school system often requires a context-driven approach for struggling students.
• Encouraging children to ask 'why' fosters curiosity and understanding.

• Grieving the loss of idealized parenting expectations is important.

• Compliance in children is often rooted in parental fears and societal expectations.
• Connection is more important than compliance in parenting and education.

More about Amy:

Amy Herzog, founder of Spark Joy with Amy, is a seasoned elementary educator and creative private tutor with 25 years of experience teaching children ages 3-12 years old. Her innovative methods not only enhance knowledge, personal growth, and relational connection, but also inspire confidence, curiosity, and critical thinking skills in young learners. Amy now dedicates her expertise to coaching homeschooling moms and educators, ensuring that children love learning for life.

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• Instagram
• Public Facebook Group
• YouTube

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Chapters:

• 00:00 - Introduction and New Year Reflections
• 02:59 - Understanding the Concept of Falling Behind
• 05:58 - The Impact of COVID-19 on Education
• 08:58 - The Role of Context in Learning
• 12:03 - Behavioral Issues and Mislabeling Children
• 14:50 - The Importance of Individualized Learning
• 17:58 - Changing Mindsets Around Learning
• 21:02 - Advocating for Children in Education
• 26:57 - Understanding Emotional and Sensory Needs
• 28:47 - Encouraging Curiosity in Children
• 32:05 - Grieving Parental Expectations
• 35:52 - Fostering a Love for Learning
• 39:11 - Embracing Mistakes in Parenting
• 44:51 - Empowering Educators and Parents

Have you ever walked into a room, and it suddenly felt silent? Or caught someone’s gaze and wondered what they were thinking? Maybe you texted someone and didn’t hear back for days. What was your immediate reaction—was it personal? In today’s solo episode, host Kyira Wackett explores how our brains often make us the central hub of every story, assuming that everything is about us. We’ll dive into how this thinking distances us from our authentic selves and how to shift focus back to living in our own stories.

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Kyira Wackett and Karin Klein discuss the societal pressures surrounding college education, examining its historical context and the evolving job market. They explore how parental expectations, school systems, and counselors influence students' choices, often reinforcing the notion that college is the only path to success. The conversation emphasizes the need for a cultural shift toward valuing diverse educational and career pathways, recognizing the significance of all professions, including those that do not require a degree. Klein highlights the importance of fostering curiosity, experiential learning, and practical skills, while Wackett underscores the value of process over output in personal growth. Together, they advocate for rethinking traditional definitions of success and creating meaningful learning experiences that prepare students for the workforce beyond academics.

We covered:

• Societal and parental expectations create immense pressure for students to attend college, often reinforcing outdated definitions of success.
• Historically, college was a privilege for the affluent, but the job market has evolved to value skills, training, and maturity over degrees.
• Many students enter college without a clear purpose, while school counselors often lack resources to guide those exploring alternative paths.
• Employers are increasingly dropping degree requirements, recognizing that success comes from various educational and career routes.
• Experiential learning, community colleges, and vocational training offer valuable opportunities that should be valued equally to traditional education.
• Schools need to engage students in meaningful, relevant learning that prioritizes curiosity, personal confidence, and real-world skills.
• Parents play a crucial role in shaping their children's futures but also face societal pressure to conform to conventional success metrics.
• High expectations can lead to stress and anxiety, making it essential to prioritize students’ happiness, safety, and individuality.
• A cultural shift is necessary to redefine education, embracing diverse pathways and fostering lifelong learning beyond academics.

More about Karin:

Longtime editorial writer at the LA Times. On Aug. 13, HarperCollins is publishing my new book, "Rethinking College: A Guide to Thriving Without a Degree." It's about the need to remove the stigma and shame around not having a bachelor's degree and a guide about how to go about creating a great career and life without a four-year degree -- or perhaps getting one after learning more about life. Many real-life examples in the book.

Connect with Karin:

• Karin’s Book: “Rethinking College”
• Check out some of her articles from the LA Times
• LinkedIn

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In this episode, Kyira Wackett challenges the cultural obsession with productivity and the shame-driven pressure to do it all. She explores how to shift from a mindset of doing to one of being by prioritizing intention and connection over perfection. Listen in to learn how to protect your time, energy, and well-being by investing in yourself thoughtfully and with purpose.

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In this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett and parenting expert Suzie Forbes explore how childhood trauma impacts parenting styles and emotional regulation. Through practical strategies and personal insights, they discuss breaking free from shame cycles, building self-awareness, and creating deeper parent-child connections. Learn evidence-based approaches for emotional regulation, setting healthy boundaries, and fostering resilience in both parents and children.

We covered:

• Unresolved trauma impacts parenting decisions
• Shame and inadequacy affect parenting confidence
• Community support and seeking help are vital
• Values guide intentional parenting choices
• Self-care and emotional regulation matter
• Connection and validation foster healing
• Mindful parenting prevents trauma cycles
• Acceptance helps navigate challenges
• Wonder transforms parenting experiences
• Active listening strengthens relationships

More about Suzie:

I'm Suzie, Founder of The Wonderful Society. I am an occupational therapist (30 yrs), mental health clinician (18 yrs) and mama of 2 kids with big emotions.

✨ I help parents of kids (tines to teens) with big emotions use the power of positive psychology and neuroscience to raise healthier, happier & more helpful humans.

Connect with Suzie:

• Collaborative Book: https://leadwithloveseries.com/
• Facebook
• Instagram
• LinkedIn
• TikTok

Resources Mentioned:

• Grounding Exercise — Grounding with WONDER free mindfulness meditation tool

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Chapters:

• 00:00 - Introduction and Emotional Check-In
• 05:58 - The Impact of Shame and Fear in Parenting
• 12:01 - The Role of Community and Support
• 15:01 - Understanding Guilt vs. Shame
• 21:01 - Values-Based Living vs. Shame-Based Healing
• 32:43 - The Importance of Connection in Parenting
• 39:02 - Unpacking Values and Self-Awareness
• 46:10 - Finding Wonder in Parenting
• 51:48 - Grounding in Wonder and Next Steps

In this episode, Kyira Wackett and Angel Wilburn discuss the shame and judgment surrounding breastfeeding. They explore the pressure faced by new mothers to breastfeed and the feelings of failure that can arise when breastfeeding is not possible. They also discuss the challenges of C-sections and the impact of medication on breastfeeding. The conversation highlights the need for support, education, and open dialogue to address the shame and stigma associated with breastfeeding. This conversation explores the challenges and pressures of the breastfeeding journey, particularly in the face of medical complications and societal expectations. Angel shares her personal experience of feeling lonely and overwhelmed as she navigated the difficulties of breastfeeding after a traumatic birth experience. She highlights the importance of having a supportive partner and the impact of medical professionals on her journey. The conversation emphasizes the need for women to make the best decisions for themselves and their babies, free from judgment and pressure. It also underscores the power of connection and listening in providing support to mothers.

We covered:

• Breastfeeding is often entangled with layers of shame and judgment, casting a shadow over the experiences of new mothers.
• Mothers who are unable to breastfeed can feel like failures and experience a sense of shame.
• The pressure to breastfeed is intensified by societal expectations and the belief that it is the only way to be a 'real' mother.
• The challenges of C-sections, including the recovery process and the impact on breastfeeding, can contribute to feelings of failure and shame.
• Support, education, and open dialogue are crucial in addressing the shame and stigma surrounding breastfeeding. Breastfeeding can be a lonely and overwhelming experience, especially when faced with medical complications and societal expectations.
• Having a supportive partner can make a significant difference in a mother's breastfeeding journey.
• The attitude and behavior of medical professionals can greatly impact a mother's experience and decision-making process.
• Mothers should prioritize their own well-being and make the best decisions for themselves and their babies, free from judgment and pressure.
• Connection and listening are powerful tools in providing support to mothers.

More about Angel:

Angel is a Public Relations Specialist. She has a Master of Arts in Public Relations. Angel knows that small business owners wear many hats and believes publicists should be one of them. She works with small businesses to help them increase the visibility of their brand and get organized. She is the Founder of The Modest Company, host of The Mod Co Podcast.

Connect with Angel:

• Website
• Social Handle: @themodcosc
• LinkedIn
• Check out our episode on Angel’s Podcast where we talk about the process of learning to be a fan of ourselves

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Chapters:

• 00:00 - Introduction to the Podcast
• 00:28 - The Pressure and Shame of Breastfeeding
• 03:00 - One-Word Check-In
• 04:00 - The Shame of Not Breastfeeding
• 06:20 - Breaking the Silence Around Breastfeeding Shame
• 09:24 - Navigating Overwhelm and Judgment
• 10:23 - Understanding C-Section Stigma
• 13:07 - The Hidden Emotional Toll of Motherhood
• 18:27 - Communication Gaps in Medical Support
• 21:23 - Dealing with Low Milk Supply
• 26:35 - Finding Connection in Isolation
• 36:03 - The Critical Role of Partner Support
• 41:16 - Making Informed Decisions for You and Your Baby
• 46:18 - Advocating for Empowering Healthcare
• 49:41 - The Power of Connection and Listening

Let's talk about the crucial difference in being in the process of change and adaptation versus constantly seeing our lives as something to fix.

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In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Paige Bond explore the nuances of psychedelic assisted psychotherapy, discussing its potential benefits, the importance of intention, and the roles of medical and therapeutic teams. They address common misconceptions, the significance of dosage, and the therapeutic journey's impact on clients, particularly those labeled as treatment resistant. The discussion also delves into the emotional aspects of therapy, including shame and hope, and how these factors influence the healing process. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Paige Bond delve into the complexities of mental health treatment, particularly focusing on psychedelic-assisted therapy. They discuss the importance of motivation, the impact of medication on identity, and the challenges of navigating treatment resistance. The conversation emphasizes the need for a shift from viewing pain as a problem to be fixed, to an experience to be explored. They highlight the significance of neuroplasticity in therapy and the importance of setting intentions rather than rigid goals. Ultimately, the discussion aims to empower listeners to redefine their relationship with pain and explore new avenues for healing.

We covered:

• Psychedelic assisted psychotherapy offers deeper therapeutic experiences with careful dosage control
• Intention and safety are paramount in therapeutic settings
• Treatment resistance and shame can create barriers to seeking help
• Mental health treatment should focus on exploration rather than avoidance
• Neuroplasticity supports lasting change after therapy
• The healing journey benefits from setting intentions over rigid goals

More about Paige:

Paige Bond is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in helping individuals, couples, and ENM relationships with concerns about intimacy and relationship anxiety/insecurity. She is also the host of the Stubborn Love podcast, where every episode has actionable tips that will help you create a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling love life.

Connect with Paige:

• Paige’s 1st Episode on Untethering Shame
• Website
• Podcast
• Social Handle: @paigelmft
• Want to learn ten effective strategies to calm your jealousy in less time than it takes to finish your morning coffee ☕ ⏰? Download Now at www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download

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Chapters:

• 00:00 - Reunion and Excitement
• 02:16 - Understanding Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy
• 05:43 - The Role of Medical and Therapeutic Teams
• 09:02 - Addressing Misconceptions and Dosage Concerns
• 12:08 - Therapeutic Benefits vs. Addiction Risks
• 15:24 - Metaphors for Understanding Therapy
• 18:19 - Resistance and Hope in Treatment
• 21:24 - Shame and Treatment Resistance
• 24:07 - Exploring the Threshold for Psychedelic Therapy
• 25:14 - The Role of Motivation in Therapy
• 26:30 - Neuroplasticity and Change
• 27:53 - The Impact of Medication on Identity
• 30:47 - The Conveyor Belt of Mental Health Treatment
• 32:10 - Navigating Treatment Resistance
• 35:36 - Understanding Learned Helplessness
• 39:46 - The Complexity of Healing
• 42:59 - Reframing Pain and Distress
• 45:56 - Intentions vs. Goals in Therapy

In this episode of the Untethering Shame podcast, Kyira Wackett and Jane Pilger delve into the intricate relationship between shame and binge eating. They explore how binge eating is often misunderstood as a failure or self-sabotage, when in fact it can be a form of self-protection. Jane outlines the eight common reasons for binge eating, emphasizing the importance of compassion and understanding in addressing the root causes. The conversation also touches on the societal normalization of binge eating, the difference between subjective and objective experiences of bingeing, and the significance of community support in recovery. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Jane Pilger delve into the complexities of eating disorders, particularly binge eating, and the emotional dysregulation that often accompanies them. They discuss the cyclical nature of these disorders, the importance of understanding the underlying emotional issues, and the eight reasons that contribute to binge eating behaviors. The conversation emphasizes the significance of connection—both with oneself and with others—as a crucial element in the healing process. They explore how shame, judgment, and societal pressures can exacerbate these issues, and they offer insights into how to cultivate a healthier relationship with food and body image.

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More about Jane:

Jane helps women understand why they binge eat and how to stop. She guides women who have been struggling, often for decades, to find the missing link to go from fighting with their bodies to working with them.

Whether someone is a binge eater, doesn't trust themselves with certain foods, or just doesn't understand why they behave the way they do sometimes, she's got them. She teaches her clients how to understand their behavior, how to develop trust with themselves and how to cultivate the safety that they need to navigate life. Her approach is rooted in the science of the brain and body, trauma informed, and filled with compassion.

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