In this episode of the Untethering Shame podcast, Kyira and Sabrina Trobek delve into the intricate relationship between core beliefs, shame, and anxiety. They explore how core beliefs shape our self-perception and influence our behaviors, often leading to feelings of inadequacy. Sabrina explains the development of these beliefs, emphasizing the impact of childhood experiences and cultural norms. The conversation highlights the significance of setting boundaries, taking responsibility for our emotions, and navigating relationships that reinforce our core beliefs. Sabrina shares her four pillars of change and emphasizes the need for self-compassion and gradual growth in the journey towards emotional resilience.

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I am a registered counsellor and is the author of Not Good Enough: Understanding your Core Belief and Anxiety. I am also a clinical supervisor and public speaker with a masters in counseling psychology. Prior to becoming a counsellor, I was a teacher, vice principal and school counselor for over 20 years. I have extensive training in resolving past trauma and the impact trauma has on a person including anxiety and core belief.

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In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and David Lea explore the complexities of marital conflict, emphasizing that the root of many issues lies not in the partner but in unprocessed childhood trauma. They discuss the concept of trauma bonds, the cycle of need and resentment, and the importance of parts work in healing. The dialogue highlights the necessity of personal responsibility and the process of rupture and repair in relationships, ultimately advocating for a deeper understanding of oneself and one's partner. In this conversation, David Lea and Kyira Wackett explore the concept of 'parts work' in relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding and regulating our emotional parts during conflicts. They discuss how individual healing can enhance relational dynamics, the significance of language in communication, and the necessity of acknowledging and addressing trauma responses. The dialogue also highlights the role of both partners in initiating repair after conflicts and the ongoing journey of healing that requires patience and self-awareness.

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David Lea is the founder and CEO of Daring Deeply Coaching. He works with high-impact men and women and couples who seek answers to the deep complexities in their personal relationships. Through his trauma-informed coaching lens, David helps his clients decipher and heal the unprocessed masculine & feminine energetic wounding that’s preventing them from realizing the relationship of their dreams.

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In this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett engages in a heartfelt conversation with Lisa Boehm, a certified grief educator and author, about the profound and isolating experience of child loss. Lisa shares her personal journey of navigating grief after the sudden death of her daughter, Katie, and discusses the societal misconceptions surrounding grief. The conversation explores the complexities of living with grief, the importance of community support, and the possibility of finding joy amidst sorrow. Lisa emphasizes that grief is not a linear process and that it is possible to honor a loved one while also embracing moments of happiness. Through their dialogue, they aim to destigmatize conversations about grief and encourage others to seek support and share their experiences.

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Lisa K. Boehm’s life changed forever when her 17 year old daughter died suddenly in a car accident. She quickly discovered that our society struggles with death, loss, and grieving and has made it her mission to change that. In her book Journey to HEALING: A Mother’s Guide to Navigating Child Loss, she shares her experience with grief and her way back to a meaningful life.Now she focuses on gratitude and living intentionally as a way of honouring her daughter’s memory. Lisa is an author, speaker, and certified grief educator who shares the power of hope and human connection in her presentations, workshops, and book.

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In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Tracy Piper explore themes of authenticity, mental health, and the power of art as a means of self-expression and healing. Tracy shares her journey from feeling unseen and unworthy to embracing her identity as an artist and community builder. They discuss the importance of vulnerability, the impact of personal struggles on creativity, and the significance of finding support and connection in a world that often feels isolating. The conversation emphasizes the beauty of imperfection and the necessity of self-love and acceptance.

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THE TRACY PIPER (b. Oakland, CA, 1987) is a contemporary painter, muralist, author and art activist. Best known for her vibrant portraits and figurative acrylic paintings, Piper’s illustrative work tackles social constructs in an abstract-realist style. She has shown at SCOPE and SELECT in Miami, FL; stARTup Art Fair in San Francisco and Los Angeles, CA; SCOPE New York, NY; and exhibits internationally. In 2017 Tracy competed on the GSNTV show “Skin Wars: Fresh Paint” and emerged victorious! Tracy’s murals span both coasts with a focus on positive and inclusive messaging. Her debut book “Worthy,” along with the latest “SEEN,” “SEEN Vol. 2,” and “SEEN Vol. 3,” are available through Voss Gallery Books. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in Illustration from California College of the Arts and is represented by Voss Gallery.

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In this week's solo episode, we are about control and what it is that makes it hard for us to navigate our relationship with it.

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In this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett and guest Diane Manser delve into the emotional complexities of teaching. They discuss the often-overlooked emotional load that teachers carry, the challenges they face in the classroom, and the importance of self-awareness and emotional regulation. Diane shares her personal experiences and insights from her 19 years in education, emphasizing the need for support and understanding within the teaching community. The conversation highlights the impact of expectations, the role of self-care, and the importance of creating a supportive environment for both teachers and students.

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I am a current 18-year veteran high school English teacher. I have written and published a book about the emotional challenges of teaching and how teachers can move themselves to empowerment. I have founded a business called Teaching is Emotional, and my goal is to build a community where we can share our emotional challenges and we can learn from each other’s empowerment strategies.

I am also a mom and wife, I love reading nonfiction, I laugh easily, and feel joy and pride in my personal growth. I return to my WHY as often as possible to stay centered and focused.

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In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Andrea Barr discuss the topic of ambition. They explore their personal definitions of ambition and how it has evolved over time. They also delve into the challenges and fears associated with pursuing ambitious goals, including the fear of failure and the fear of judgment from others. They touch on the concept of premature identity foreclosure, where individuals feel pressured to choose one path and stick to it, potentially leading to unhappiness and a lack of exploration. They also discuss the importance of informing others about their ambitions and not seeking permission or approval. The conversation highlights the need to redefine ambition beyond traditional career success and to prioritize personal fulfillment and happiness. In this conversation, Kyira and Andrea discuss the importance of making intentional decisions in life and not just letting life happen to you. They emphasize the need to prioritize personal wants and values, rather than seeking approval or validation from others. They also explore the concept of ambition and how it can be redefined as a slow burn rather than a fast race. They discuss the importance of finding balance and fulfillment in different areas of life, and the value of trying new things and exploring different interests. Overall, the conversation encourages listeners to embrace their authentic selves and make choices that align with their own values and desires.

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ICF Certified Coach who helps parents figure out their work life rhythms, creating more quality time with their families while continuing to grow personally and professionally. She hosts the All Figured Out podcast, coaches clients 1:1, and hosts events online and in Vancouver, Canada.

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Punctuation is powerful. We need to be more intentional with what we use when we tell our story so we don't get stuck in a feedback cycle of negativity.

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In this episode of Untethering Shame, Kyira Wackett and Margie Breault delve into the intricate dynamics of shame and blame, exploring how these emotions intertwine and affect our lives. They discuss the importance of accountability in healing and the necessity of breaking free from the cycles of shame that can trap individuals in a narrative of suffering. Margie shares her personal journey of healing from a childhood filled with emotional abuse and the lessons learned through energy medicine. The conversation emphasizes the power of choice in reshaping our narratives and the importance of recognizing the dualities in life, such as light and dark, to foster personal growth and self-liberation. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Margie Breault explore the themes of self-awareness, anxiety, and personal growth. They discuss the importance of recognizing triggers and limitations, the role of anxiety in our lives, and the power of compassion and awareness in overcoming shame and blame. The conversation emphasizes the need for incremental change and the significance of witnessing our emotions without judgment, ultimately leading to empowerment and transformation.

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I am a foundational root teacher, flow coach, way-shower and medium. Through my own healing journey, I have (and continue) to be liberated from projections, limitations and trauma. I have found a love for learning and teaching the ancient wisdom that has been passed down to me and I share that by inviting other to light up their path.

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In this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett and guest Jennifer Walter delve into the intricate relationship between shame and self-love. They explore the societal misconceptions surrounding self-love, emphasizing that it is not merely about positive affirmations but involves deep emotional healing and confronting past traumas. The conversation highlights the challenges of self-love, particularly in the context of relationships and parenting, and the importance of setting boundaries. They discuss the impact of generational patterns on emotional regulation and the necessity of breaking free from toxic dynamics to foster genuine self-acceptance.

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Jennifer Walter is a sociologist, brand strategist, designer and host of the Scenic Route podcast. She blends curiosity, transformation and mindset work with sociological insights and creative direction to build seen and felt brands. Based in Switzerland, she communicates loud and fast in English and German. She’s all out of fucks but serving opinions daily.

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