It's time we let go of these untruths we have internalized and trust that who we are is enough.

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In this episode, Kyira Wackett and Janice Holland explore the theme of hiding and the pressure to perform in society. They discuss the origins of this pressure and how it perpetuates shame and inauthenticity. They also delve into the hidden realities we often keep to ourselves and the toll it takes on our well-being. The conversation highlights the importance of breaking free from oppressive expectations and embracing authenticity and self-acceptance. The episode emphasizes the need to untangle ourselves from shame and live our truth. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Janice Holland discuss the challenges of breaking free from performing and hiding to live authentically. They explore the fear of being seen and the discomfort of vulnerability. They emphasize the importance of radical acceptance and the willingness to sit with discomfort in order to discover one's true self. They also discuss the need for receptivity and the ability to receive support and help from others. Janice Holland offers a 90-day journey for women ready to come into their own and live authentically.

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Janice is a licensed professional counselor (LPC) Supervisor and a Certified Trauma Model Therapist. She teaches and trains therapists and coaches on how to effectively work with complex trauma and runs a trauma recovery membership called The Courageous Woman.

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In this episode, host Kyira Wackett and guest Stacey Urig explore the intricate world of shame and trauma. They discuss the different types of trauma, how it manifests, and the profound impact it has on individuals and society. Stacey shares her journey with trauma and how she found healing through therapy and hypnosis. They emphasize the importance of changing the narrative around trauma and reframing the interpretation of past experiences. The conversation offers hope and guidance for individuals seeking healing and liberation from trauma. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Stacey Uhrig discuss the work of healing and the importance of recognizing and loving all parts of ourselves. They explore the concept of parts work and how mapping out internal parts can lead to greater self-awareness and agency. They also emphasize the need for trauma-informed therapists and the importance of recognizing collective trauma. The main takeaway from the conversation is that no one is broken but rather unhealed, and everyone can heal with the right support.

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Stacey Uhrig is an experienced Coach specializing in Trauma Recovery, holding certifications in Hypnotherapy and Rapid Transformational Therapy. With over 50 years of emotional strength, resilience, and post-traumatic wisdom, she has earned the moniker "The Mindset Flipper." Stacey's expertise lies in empowering individuals to navigate life's challenges through a different lens, encouraging a mindset shift that leads to the discovery of greater purpose and, most importantly, peace. Stacey utilizes her extensive background to guide individuals toward personal empowerment and a renewed perspective on life.

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00:00 Introduction to Trauma and Healing

05:48 Stacey's Personal Journey with Trauma

17:18 The Shift in Mental Health and Trauma Understanding

23:40 Understanding Parts Work and Trauma

30:37 Defining Trauma as Emotional Wounds

36:05 The Importance of Naming and Validating Trauma

38:46 Changing the Narrative of Trauma

39:40 The Work of Healing

42:19 Learning to Love All Parts of Ourselves

43:45 Parts Work and Self-Led Healing

45:21 Taking Responsibility for Healing

47:10 Finding the Right Therapist

51:26 Recognizing Collective Trauma

52:46 Regaining Power and Agency

Loving without condition or expectation is one of the hardest aspects of healthy relationships. Sure, we know the big red flags of conditional love. That's not what we are talking about. We are talking about the little things. The "you would be so much happier if's" and the "goodness, why can't they just's..." Learning to accept people fully and then decide how you can healthily show up in that can free you up for deeper connections and even self-love and acceptance.

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In this conversation, Kyira Wackett interviews Sandra Huitt, who grew up in a cult. They discuss the challenges of leaving a cult and the process of healing and finding oneself after leaving. Sandra shares her experience of feeling othered and struggling to fit in after leaving the cult. She also talks about the difficulties of opening up to her parents about her struggles and the anger she developed towards them later on. Sandra found solace and a sense of belonging in underground raves and electronic music events. Sandra Huitt shares her experience growing up in a cult and her challenges when leaving. She discusses the struggle of finding her identity and belonging outside of the cult, as well as the difficulty of trusting herself and others. Sandra reflects on the journey of self-love and healing, and the importance of honoring her past while embracing her growth. She expresses her desire to demystify the cult experience and help others recognize the signs to avoid getting involved. The conversation highlights the complexities of navigating personal relationships and finding self-worth after leaving a cult.

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My name is Sandra Huitt and I'm a cult survivor, cycle breaker, and activist. I studied World Religion and History to check the accuracy of what I was taught as a child and I remain a passionate student in those fields as there's always more to learn. A decade of social work and pediatric counseling aligns with my belief that a rising tide lifts all boats. Vulnerability is one of my superpowers and I use it often to discuss my journey through healing to encourage others to find their path.  Traveling the world to absorb the beauty of other cultures lights me on fire and singing my heart out makes my soul happy.

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cult, leaving, healing, othering, fitting in, struggle, parents, anger, belonging, identity, trust, self-love, healing, demystify, self-worth

Join me as I reflect and celebrate all this first year of the podcast has brought to the table and talk more about year 2!

What was your biggest AHA moment? What did you learn about yourself this year? What episodes do you want to see in Year 2? Tell me all of the things in the comments below!

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In this episode, Kyira Wackett and guest Amy Holder discuss the pressure to conform to societal expectations and the pursuit of external validation. They explore the idea that checking off boxes and achieving milestones does not necessarily lead to fulfillment and happiness. They share their personal experiences and observations from working with clients who have also felt the disconnect between societal expectations and their own desires. The conversation highlights the need for self-discovery and the courage to question and redefine one's identity and purpose. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Amy Holder discuss the importance of exploring one's identity and purpose beyond societal roles and expectations. They emphasize the need to differentiate between purpose and action, and challenge the notion that certain roles define a person's worth. They also discuss the societal pressure to conform to traditional roles, such as being a parent, and the judgment and shame that can arise when individuals choose a different path. The conversation highlights the importance of curiosity, self-reflection, and embracing the evolving nature of life.

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Amy Holder is a licensed professional counselor based in Madison, WI, with over 12 years of experience in the mental health field. She runs her own private practice and works as a local private practice contractor. Amy specializes in women-focused therapy, brain-gut health, life transitions, and millennial therapy.

Her growing interest lies in storytelling and how the narratives we believe and tell ourselves shape our perceptions, relationships, and overall well-being. Deeply curious about people, Amy is passionate about engaging in meaningful conversations. She appreciates the long-form nature of podcasts, which have become an integral part of her personal growth journey.

In her mid-30s, Amy finds herself at an intriguing crossroads of self-knowledge and acceptance, yet also grappling with new, perplexing life questions. She describes this era as, "I've never been worse, but I've never been better." Despite outward success, she experiences a unique kind of shame and guilt about her lingering dissatisfaction, making this a particularly challenging period of self-discovery and growth.

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societal expectations, external validation, conformity, fulfillment, happiness, self-discovery, identity, purpose, societal roles, differentiation, worth, traditional roles, judgment, shame, curiosity, self-reflection

This week's solo episode discusses the power and importance of letting go of relationships that no longer serve you.

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In this episode, host Kyira Wackett and guest Emily Hardy delve into the 'good child' concept and its unrealistic expectations of mothers. They discuss how societal narratives lead mothers to strive for perfection, impacting their self-worth and parenting. The conversation highlights the challenges of meeting societal standards, external validation's role, and self-compassion's importance. They advocate for shifting from shame-driven to values-driven parenting and the power of modeling imperfection. Emily shares insights on mom guilt, reframing thoughts, and unlearning societal conditioning, emphasizing open conversations and seeking support for positive change in future generations.

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Emily Hardy is a motherhood support and mindset coach, host of the Worthy Mother Podcast, and believer in the power of “real talk” to change the game for moms. Emily is passionate about challenging the societal narratives around motherhood and success that contribute to feelings of mom guilt and shame for so many women - with self-compassion at the forefront! She’s a mom to 2 little boys and lives on the central coast of California.

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00:00 - Introduction to the 'Good Child' Concept and Unrealistic Expectations

06:23 - The Impact of Motherhood and Societal Conditioning

10:02 - The Burden of Responsibility and Unrealistic Expectations

16:07 - The Subtle Expectations and External Validation in Parenting

19:46 - The Importance of Context and Realistic Expectations

23:10 - Challenging Societal Expectations and Cultivating Self-Compassion

29:44 - Shifting from Shame-Driven Pressures

33:45 - Embracing Imperfection and Authenticity

38:40 - Navigating Societal Expectations

42:29 - Unlearning and Rewiring

46:55 - Creating Change for Future Generations

In this episode, host Kyira Wackett and guest Cait Pearson discuss the profound impact of loss and the expectations and pressures society imposes on the grieving process. They explore the loneliness and fear that often accompany grief, as well as the need for a safe space to process emotions. They also touch on the challenges of holding space for others while dealing with their own grief, and the importance of setting boundaries and honoring one's own needs. The conversation highlights needing a more authentic and individualized approach to grief and loss. In this conversation, Cait and Kyira discuss the challenges and expectations surrounding grief and loss. They explore the pressure to grieve in a certain way and the fear of judgment from others. They also touch on the myths and misconceptions about grief and the importance of creating space for individual grieving processes. Cait emphasizes the need to have open and honest conversations about loss and to allow ourselves to feel and express our emotions. They conclude by encouraging listeners to embrace their own journey with grief and to find the courage to be true to themselves.

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"I'm Cait Pearson, a fear mindset coach, writer, podcast host, and photographer. I believe when we get so comfortable with our fear it can actually become our courage, so in all my work I illuminate the perspective less thought about. Fear will always hand over the first story to distract us from the truth that's actually holding us hostage underneath in the subconscious."

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00:00 - Introduction to Loss and Grief

13:17 - Confronting Expectations and Shame

31:59 - Navigating Expectations and Pressure

43:28 - Creating Space for Open Conversations

53:09 - Embracing Your Own Journey

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loss, grief, expectations, pressures, loneliness, fear, holding space, boundaries, authentic, judgment, misconceptions, emotions, courage