In this episode, I’m responding to a heartfelt question from Chris, who writes:

“My wife and my mom have very different ideas about how we should raise our child and what role my mom should play in our lives. I want to respect my mom, but also build strong roots with my own family. My wife is exhausted and needs me to set better boundaries — but I’m struggling with guilt, and I don’t want to hurt my mom or make everything feel like a fight. How do I start this conversation without it becoming an attack?”

We explore the deep emotional dynamics at play when you're caught between honoring your past and protecting your present. From guilt-based conditioning and lifelong family roles to radical acceptance and values-based communication, this episode is about how to step into your identity as a partner, parent, and son without abandoning yourself or others in the process.

If you’re navigating family pressure, boundary guilt, or just trying to parent differently than how you were raised — this episode is for you.

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🧭 You can love your family and still lead from your own values. Boundaries aren’t rejection — they’re clarity, and they’re care.

#AskMeAnything #FamilyBoundaries #GuiltAndGrowth #ShameResilience #RadicalAcceptance #AdversityRising #PodcastForHealing

In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Elizabeth Kipp explore the complex relationship between shame, recovery, and self-compassion. They discuss the impact of shame on addiction, the importance of breathwork in healing, and the role of inner child work in understanding our emotional responses. The dialogue emphasizes the need for radical acceptance and the power of self-discovery in overcoming shame and fostering resilience. Elizabeth shares personal experiences and insights from her journey in recovery, highlighting the significance of compassion and the innate healing capabilities within each individual.

Takeaways:

• Shame is a significant barrier in addiction recovery.
• Turning towards shame can lead to personal freedom.
• Inner child healing is an ongoing process.
• Ancestral trauma influences our current emotional patterns.
• The question of 'enough' often stems from shame.
• Breathwork is a powerful tool for emotional regulation.
• Resistance in healing is a common experience.
• Radical acceptance is crucial for self-compassion.
• We have the power to redesign our emotional patterns.
• Self-discovery is key to empowerment in healing.

More About Elizabeth:

Elizabeth Kipp is a Stress Management and Historical Trauma Specialist who uses Trauma-Trained and Yoga-Informed Addiction Recovery Coaching, Ancestral Clearing®, Compassionate Inquiry, and Yoga to help people with their healing. Elizabeth healed from over 40 years of chronic pain, including anxiety, panic attacks, and addiction. She now guides others to unleash their healing power, find freedom from suffering, and live a thriving life. She is the best-selling author of “The Way Through Chronic Pain: Tools to Reclaim Your Healing Power.”

Connect with Elizabeth:

• ⁠Website⁠
• ⁠Facebook⁠
• ⁠Instagram⁠
• ⁠LinkedIn⁠
• ⁠YouTube⁠
• ⁠Amazon Author Page

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🎙 Got a question you've been too afraid to ask? Now’s your chance! Our new Ask Me Anything segment is here, where I answer YOUR biggest questions—about shame, boundaries, relationships, self-doubt, and everything in between. No topic is off-limits, and you can stay anonymous.

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Chapters:

• 00:00 - Introduction and Our Guest
• 03:01 - Personal Experiences with Shame
• 06:00 - Inner Child Healing
• 08:53 - Understanding Ancestral Trauma
• 12:01 - Exploring the Question of Enoughness
• 17:59 - Using Breathwork for Regulation
• 23:56 - Working Through Resistance
• 27:03 - Practicing Self-Compassion
• 32:58 - Key Takeaways and Resources

Ever catch yourself thinking, “I’m such a failure” or “I’m so fat”? These thoughts might seem harmless—or even true—but they’re often rooted in shame and distorted beliefs. And here’s the truth: the way we talk to ourselves matters.

In this solo episode, host Kyira Wackett unpacks the transformational power of shifting from “I am” to “I feel.” This simple change can help us stop identifying with our shame and start practicing compassion and curiosity instead.

If you’re ready to break the cycle of harsh inner dialogue and reconnect with your true worth, this episode offers a practical and powerful place to start.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
🧠 Why “I am” statements reinforce shame
💬 How to reframe negative self-talk without dismissing your emotions
💡 The neuroscience of language and identity
🛠 A quick, everyday tool to support your shame resilience
❤️ Why feelings deserve space—but don’t deserve control over your identity

Resources Mentioned:🔥 Download the FREE handout, "⁠⁠⁠5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day⁠⁠⁠" 🌐 Visit my ⁠website⁠📺 Watch on ⁠YouTube⁠📞 ⁠⁠Book a free 25-minute discovery call⁠⁠ to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs.

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In today’s episode, I’m answering a powerful and deeply relatable question from an anonymous listener who writes:

“How do I stop feeling guilty when I take time for myself instead of constantly being 'on' for my kids? I love being the one they turn to — but I’m exhausted, and I feel like I can’t catch a break in any role of my life. And when I do take time for myself, I either feel anxious or end up using it to catch up on everything else. I want to be present, but I also want to feel like I exist outside of being a parent. What do I do?”

We explore the roots of guilt, the cultural and personal narratives that make us feel like we have to earn our rest, and how to begin practicing radical acceptance and boundary-setting even in the thick of parenting.

Whether you're a caregiver, a parent, or someone simply trying to survive in a world that expects you to be “on” all the time — this one’s for you.

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🧠 If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who might need it. Let’s break the silence — together.

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💬 You are not just the roles you fulfill — you are a whole person. And that person deserves rest, care, and compassion.

#AskMeAnything #MomGuilt #BurnoutRecovery #ShameResilience #RadicalAcceptance #ParentingBoundaries #AdversityRising #PodcastForHealing

In this episode, Kyira Wackett and Shane Thrapp discuss neurodiversity, exploring misconceptions, diagnosis impacts, and parenting challenges. Shane shares personal insights about navigating neurodivergent parenting, dealing with imposter syndrome, and processing trauma. The conversation emphasizes support, acceptance, and celebrating individual strengths while promoting a compassionate approach to neurodiversity and personal growth.

We covered:

• Neurodiversity includes all brain types and ways of functioning
• Common misconceptions lead to stigma and unhelpful "normal" standards
• ADHD and autism diagnoses don't mean children are "broken"
• Education systems need better neurodivergent accommodation
• Parents struggle with shame and need permission to parent differently
• Late-life diagnoses bring mixed emotions and realizations
• Empathy and understanding help reshape views on neurodiversity
• Accepting grief and trauma is part of the healing process
• Professional support benefits both parents and children
• Focus on individual strengths and developmental stages
• Embrace unconventional paths and learning through failure
• Support groups provide essential community resources

More about Shane:

Shane Thrapp is a Certified ADHD Entrepreneur and Parenting Coach, and the founder of Creating Order From Chaos—a coaching and consulting business that empowers ADHD entrepreneurs and parents to harness their strengths and build fulfilling, sustainable lives. In his work, he helps entrepreneurs turn their ideas into action, leveraging their unique ADHD traits to create businesses that align with their passions. He also supports parents in navigating the challenges of raising neurodivergent children, providing guidance on emotional regulation, executive function, and fostering a strengths-based mindset.

Beyond his coaching, Shane is a dedicated advocate for ADHD awareness, serving as a public speaker, the Operations Director for the Men’s ADHD Support Group, leads their partner groups ADHD/Autism Parent Support Groups, and serves as a board member of Dueling Minds, a nonprofit dedicated to peer-to-peer AuDHD support.

His mission is to empower neurodivergent individuals to embrace their authentic selves while helping parents, educators, and businesses create environments where ADHD minds thrive.

Connect with Shane:

• Parent Website - https://www.creatingorderfromchaos.com/parenting-coach
• ADHD Parent Support Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdparentsupportgroup
• Autism Parent Support Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/autisticchildrenparentsupport
• Men’s ADHD Support Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/mensadhdsupportgroup

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Chapters:

• 00:00 - Introduction to Neurodivergence
• 02:42 - Understanding Neurodiversity and Common Misconceptions
• 06:24 - The Impact of Diagnosis on Children and Adults
• 10:14 - Supporting Neurodivergent Children
• 16:22 - Managing Parental Shame and Guilt
• 24:39 - Overcoming Imposter Syndrome in Parenting
• 30:30 - The Journey to Self-Discovery
• 34:47 - Processing Grief and Finding Acceptance
• 43:51 - Embracing Neurodiversity
• 47:35 - Community Resources and Support

In this episode, I’m answering a thoughtful and courageous question from listener Astrid, who asks:

“What can I do to remain emotionally engaged during conflicts with others, rather than detaching by convincing myself it doesn't matter or making it a purely logical debate?”

Together, we explore why we shut down in conflict, what internal protectors might be showing up, and how early experiences may have shaped our response to tension and emotional intensity. Through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), nervous system regulation, and inner child healing, we unpack how to move from detachment to presence — with compassion, not pressure.

If you’ve ever found yourself zoning out, numbing, or over-rationalizing during conflict — this one’s for you. You are not broken. You are protecting something sacred. And there is a way to come home to yourself, even in the hard conversations.

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🧠 If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who might need it. Let’s break the silence — together.

Ready to take the next step?

• Download the FREE handout, "⁠5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day⁠" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace.
• ⁠Book a free 25-minute discovery call⁠ to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs.

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✨ Your emotions matter. You are allowed to stay. You don’t have to disappear to keep the peace.

#AskMeAnything #ConflictAvoidance #InternalFamilySystems #ShameResilience #EmotionalSafety #PodcastForHealing #AdversityRising

In this episode of the Untethering Shame podcast, host Kyira Wackett engages in a profound conversation with Juliana Allen, a queer breath and somatic coach. They explore themes of self-discovery, authenticity, and the courage it takes to live unapologetically. Juliana shares her journey of coming out as a lesbian in her mid-thirties while navigating motherhood and societal expectations. The discussion delves into the impact of trauma, eating disorders, and the healing power of somatic practices. Together, they unpack the complexities of identity, shame, and the path to self-acceptance. In this conversation, Juliana Allen and Kyira Wackett explore the themes of fear, shame, and the journey of self-discovery. They discuss the importance of embracing one's authentic self, the role of children in personal growth, and the significance of breathwork and body awareness in emotional healing. The dialogue emphasizes the need for curiosity and compassion towards oneself, as well as the ongoing process of understanding and accepting one's identity.

We covered:

• Journey of self-discovery intensified during pandemic
• Acknowledging suppressed identities and societal expectations
• Healing through body reconnection and somatic practices
• The role of eating disorders in disconnection from self
• Self-forgiveness and compassion in the coming out process
• Living authentically as an act of self-love
• Building connections for self-acceptance
• Using breathwork for emotional processing
• The importance of bodily awareness
• Understanding emotions as temporary experiences
• Creating space for personal growth

More about Juliana:

Juliana (she/her) is a queer breath and somatic coach passionate about healing trauma through the body and helping others reclaim their authentic self. She came out as a lesbian in her mid-30's while having two young children and being married to a man. Since then, she has come to find her voice and live in alignment with her truth.

Connect with Juliana:

• Website
• Instagram and TikTok: @reclaimwithjuliana

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Chapters:

• 00:00 - Introduction to Self-Discovery and Authenticity
• 02:17 - Juliana's Journey of Coming Out
• 06:52 - The Catalyst for Change: COVID and Self-Realization
• 12:14 - Struggles with Eating Disorders and Identity
• 20:20 - Connecting with the Body: Somatic Practices
• 27:39 - Navigating Fear and Shame
• 31:11 - The Role of Children in Personal Growth
• 36:25 - Understanding Emotions and Healing
• 40:38 - The Power of Breathwork
• 54:51 - Creating Space for Authenticity

Feeling completely drained no matter how much rest you get? You might be experiencing burnout—but it’s not just about being overworked or overwhelmed. In this solo episode, host Kyira Wackett dives deep into the truth about burnout and reveals the hidden force driving it: shame.

We explore how shame-based expectations push us beyond our limits, tricking us into believing we need to “do it all” to be worthy. But real recovery doesn’t come from crossing another task off your list—it comes from changing how you respond to stress and stepping out of shame-driven cycles.

If you’ve ever said “I just need to get through this” and still found yourself burnt out afterwards, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to reclaim your energy, set boundaries, and start healing from the inside out.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why burnout is a symptom, not the root issue

• The connection between shame and overperformance

• How to identify when shame is driving your behaviors

• What real recovery from burnout looks like

• Practical mindset shifts to stop burnout before it starts

Resources Mentioned:
🔥 Download the FREE handout, "⁠⁠5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day⁠⁠"
🌐 Visit my website
📺 Watch on YouTube
📞 ⁠Book a free 25-minute discovery call⁠ to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs.

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In this episode, we dive into a deeply layered and vulnerable question from an anonymous listener navigating a season of transition. She writes:

"How can I begin to understand who I’m becoming in the midst of it all? How do I honor the version of me who got me here, let go of the identities or roles that no longer fit, and find a grounded sense of trust in myself, even when I feel overwhelmed, self-conscious, or unsure of what I need?"

Together, we unpack the grief of change, the complexity of ambiguous loss, and the power of integration over reinvention. We explore how to show up for yourself through evolving boundaries, radical self-love, and the slow, sacred process of becoming.

Whether you’re in your own season of identity shift or simply need permission to let go and begin again, this episode is for you.

📝 Want to submit a question for a future episode?

Nothing is off-limits (well, almost nothing).

⁠Submit⁠ anonymously or with your name — whatever feels safest for you.

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🧠 If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who might need it. Let’s break the silence — together.

Ready to take the next step?

• Download the FREE handout, "⁠5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day⁠" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace.
• ⁠Book a free 25-minute discovery call⁠ to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs.

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🌱 You are allowed to grieve the past, embrace the present, and trust your unfolding future. One breath, one boundary, one brave moment at a time.

#AskMeAnything #ShameResilience #RadicalAcceptance #AdversityRising #IdentityTransitions #EmotionalWellness #PodcastForHealing

In this episode of the Untethering Shame podcast, host Kyira Wackett and guest Markella Kaplani delve into the complexities of parenthood, particularly the loss of self that many caregivers experience. They discuss the overwhelming emotions that come with parenting, the societal pressures to be perfect, and the clash between masculine and feminine energies. The conversation emphasizes the importance of acknowledging grief in the transition to parenthood and the need for self-compassion and acceptance. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Markella Kaplani explore the complexities of parenthood, identity, and the emotional challenges that arise during this transformative journey. They discuss the importance of integrating personal values, navigating trust in relationships, and the significance of inner child work. The conversation emphasizes the role of shame in hindering personal growth and the necessity of compassion and curiosity in the healing process. They also address the identity shifts that come with parenthood and the normalization of these experiences to foster connection and understanding among parents.

We covered:

• Parenthood brings significant identity shifts and challenges
• Feeling overwhelmed while loving your children is normal
• Societal pressure creates unrealistic expectations for parents
• Grieving pre-parenthood freedom and identity is natural
• Each parenting choice involves sacrificing alternatives
• Not loving every aspect of parenthood is okay
• Self-compassion and acceptance aid mental wellbeing
• Shame can block emotional healing and relationship repair
• Embodied healing helps address stored shame
• Building community reduces parental isolation

More about Markella:

Markella has dedicated her career to assisting adults, parents, and children navigate their mental health challenges.

She holds a Master’s degree in Clinical & Counseling Psychology and has over 15 years of experience in both psychotherapeutic and educational settings.

In working with such a range of people, she’s had the opportunity to develop a comprehensive understanding of the diverse systems that constitute the human experience. As such, she possesses a holistic point of view, understanding the intricacies of interpersonal relationships and their pivotal role in mental health.

After becoming a mom herself, Markella shifted her focus to mothers and couples, recognizing the challenges that parenthood presents, ironically paired with the inordinate lack of assistance provided by our institutions and systems.

Connect with Markella:

Instagram Website

The Parent & Relationship Podcast

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RECONNECT to Yourself!

A FREE mini-course that serves as a great introduction to matrescence - the metamorphosis from woman to mother - and all the ways in which we develop. Learn how you can make all the changes you feel turn from uncomfortable to a SUPEROWER!

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Chapters:

• 00:00 - The Complexity of Parenthood and Identity Loss
• 12:49 - The Pressure of Perfectionism in Parenting
• 30:10 - Grieving the Loss of Self in Parenthood
• 40:00 - Trust and Dependence in Relationships
• 43:44 - Inner Child Work and Self-Compassion
• 49:10 - Addressing Shame and Healing Relationships
• 01:03:10 - Normalizing the Parenting Journey