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Using the "Developmental Model" to Increase Understanding & Reduce Ineffective Behaviors-Christa Marvenko-Athas


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Christa Marvenko-Athas is an AANE certified therapist,  licensed to provide therapy in Maryland.  Christa also provides coaching for neurodiverse couples and pre-marital coaching worldwide.  During this episode, Christa provides so much valuable information about how she uses the "development model" to help neurodiverse couples better understand themselves and each other.  More specifically she provides information on:

  • How we need to understand that the only person we can change is ourselves.
  • How to bring up the issue of "neurodiversity" in your relationship, when your partner is not willing to acknowledge it.
  • Dealing with grief because some things in the relationship are not going to change.
  • What it means to take a time out without walking out.
  • The negative impact of creating a parent-child dynamic in your relationship and how to change this dynamic.
  • Understanding how both partners use ineffective behaviors-- where they come from, and how to change them.
  • How to use the "initiator and inquirer" tool to improve communication.
  • What types of defense mechanisms are creating challenges.
  • Understanding and reducing triggers.
  • The importance of expressing empathy and compassion.
  • Understanding what limerance is at the beginning of a relationship.
  • If you would like to contact Christa about therapy or coaching you can e-mail her at: [email protected]

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    If you are interested in becoming an AANE certified therapist, or coach, or would like to register for the "Neurology Matters" training available through AANE for neurodiverse couples, or individuals in neurodiverse relationships, you can register at: aane.thinkific.com.  In addition, please use the discount code NeurodiverseLove25 to get 25% off the registration fee.

    If you are looking for an AANE certified therapist or coach in your area, or want to learn more about AANE, please check out their website at: www.AANE.org

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    • If you would like to learn more about neurodiverse relationships, please check out: www.neurodiverselove.com or follow Mona on Instagram @neurodiverse_love.
    • If you are interested in joining one of the free on-line peer support groups being offered for the non-autistic/NT partners, please send Mona a DM or send an e-mail to [email protected]
    • Mona is also offering support groups for Neurodiverse Couples. Please send an email to get info on the cost & meeting dates.
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