June 01, 2022

Using the Gottman Method & Other Strategies to Improve Your Relationship & Understand the Differences That Won't Change: Dr. Kathy McMahon, Founder of Couples Therapy, Inc.

54 minutes

This is another fantastic episode for both partners in a Neurodiverse Love relationship to listen to together. Dr. K. is a Board Certified Gottman Therapist and talks about the importance of knowing that Dr. John Gottman's research has shown that 69% of our challenges in romantic relationships are due to things that won't change. However, understanding ourselves and our partners better can help us learn which problems are "perpetual" and which are "solvable". She shares how important it is for both partners to know when they have reached their limits socially, emotionally or in other areas of life. Dr. K. also provides valuable strategies for managing triggers that may lead to meltdowns or burnout. She also talks about the strengths of neurodiverse relationships and how both partners will need to adapt and change and have better social and communication skills. Dr. K. also talks about how factual, clear communication can be helpful for both partners to learn and grow and how important it is for partners to respond positively to attempts to "turn toward" each other when one wants more time together. You will also learn about how all relationships have "poop in the pipes" and there are proactive, healthy ways of dealing with that. Since Dr. Gottman's research has shown that 69% of the things that bother us and cause challenges in our romantic relationships will never go away, how can you and your partner learn to value each other's strengths, accept and understand each other's differences and move beyond the immovable issues to make for a healthier relationship. Dr. K. provides some great tools for helping couples do exactly that!

You can reach Dr. K. at: www.couplestherapyinc.com

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