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Wendy Cole - "Gender is Between the Ears, and Not the Legs"


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Summary  

At age 67, Wendy Cole transitioned from male to female after a lifetime of hiding her true identity. In this candid conversation, Wendy shares the emotional cost of repression, her turning point in 2014, and how she found joy, health, and purpose by finally embracing who she is. Now a mentor and advocate, Wendy is helping others navigate their own gender journeys and working to humanize what it means to be transgender.  

Keywords  

transgender, coming out, identity, support, mental health, community, authenticity, transition, LGBTQ+, personal growth  

Takeaways  
  • Wendy transitioned male to female at age 67.
  • She felt a lifelong sense of not belonging.
  • Gender identity is formed in the brain during the second trimester.
  • Wendy faced significant societal and familial pressure to conform.
  • She repressed her identity for decades due to fear and shame.
  • The DSM's classification of LGBTQ+ identities has evolved over time.
  • Wendy found support and community later in life.
  • She emphasizes the importance of living authentically.
  • Wendy's mission is to educate others about transgender experiences.
  • It's never too late to pursue one's true identity.
Sound Bites  
  • "I was punished for breaking my glasses."
  • "I was taken to a psychiatrist."
  • "I was threatened with being committed."
  • "I couldn't take it anymore."
  • "I was doing this out of survival."
  • "I was pretty much on my own."
  • "I was going to do this for me."
  • "It's never too late to take charge."
Audio Chapters  

00:00  Wendy's Journey of Self-Discovery
11:58  The Struggles of Repression and Acceptance
22:15  Transitioning and Finding Community
32:29  Living Authentically and Educating Others  

More About Wendy Cole:   
  • http://meetwendycole.com/
  • https://wendycolegtm.net/category/podcasts/
  • Demystifying the Transgender Journey Podcast: https://wendycolegtm.net/episode-001-demystifying-this-podcast/

Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com  

YouTube Edition:    https://youtu.be/eU5v97dHNIs 

YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg  

Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cottonhttps://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com  

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