Tera, Phyllis, and Dr. Glenn dive into the deeply human instinct to stay hidden—especially when emotions like shame, sadness, or anger begin to rise. Whether it's saying “I’m fine” when we’re not, or disconnecting to avoid discomfort, the episode unpacks how hiding becomes a form of emotional protection that ultimately costs us connection. Drawing from personal stories and the Connection Codes framework, the hosts reveal how early life messages taught us to suppress emotion rather than engage with it—and how staying hidden, even from ourselves, creates internal dissonance. Through honest reflection and practical tools, they guide listeners toward emotional safety and deeper intimacy by asking the core question: “What’s firing in me right now?” If you've ever shut down, avoided vulnerability, or longed to feel more seen in your relationships, this episode offers a compassionate and powerful path back to connection.

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Chapters: 

• 00:00:00 – When You Say “I’m Fine”… But You’re Not
• 00:00:38 – Caught Hiding in the Pantry
• 00:01:38 – The Emotional Weight of Disappearing
• 00:02:34 – Wellness, Vulnerability, and Hidden Triggers
• 00:05:55 – What Hiding Really Does to the Heart
• 00:08:35 – The Silent Disconnect in Relationships
• 00:11:26 – Why Hiding Becomes a Habit
• 00:15:02 – What Happens When You Finally Speak It
• 00:24:25 – The Emotion Wheel That Changed Everything
• 00:25:20 – Saying the Thing You've Never Said
• 00:27:33 – You Deserve to Be Seen
• 00:30:48 – Finding Your Safe People
• 00:33:04 – When Judgment Shuts Us Down
• 00:38:11 – Using the Core Emotion Wheel in Real Life
• 00:43:47 – Wrapping Up: Your Next Step Toward Connection