John Brownstone and Kayla Lords team up again in episode 32. This week’s episode takes on a question from a listener: what is the difference between a Daddy and a Sir?

In this episode:

* Kayla announces her next book release: Kinky Love Notes is now available for pre-order and releases on April 14!

* John Brownstone discusses the early beginnings of Dominance and submission: Victorian era, Old Guard, and Gorean.

* Old Guard is known for being hierarchical. Leather families may be what most people are familiar with. Old Guard stems from WWII era.

* Victorian is known for being formal and “proper.” High protocol events and dinners are based on this time frame.

* Gorean is based on The Gor series by John Normal, a science-fiction/fantasy series of novels published in the 1960s. Many Master/slave relationships are built around the Gorean principles.

* Some people may think Marquis de Sade and his writings were a precursor to D/s but de Sade is best known for sadism and masochism, which doesn’t have to be a part of D/s.

* The Daddy Dom is a gentler, more nurturing type of Dominant.

* The more “typical” Sir is often stricter than a Daddy.

* Both want their submissive to grow and achieve their goals and dreams. The methods these types of Dominants use may differ.

* It is possible to acknowledge a nurturing side of your Dominance without using the term “Daddy.”

* It is also possible to acknowledge a giggly, silly side of your submission without calling yourself “babygirl” or a “little.”

* Kayla recounts the first time she called John Brownstone “Daddy.”

* John Brownstone has a clear Daddy side and a clear Dominant side. Often, the two sides co-mingle.

* The decision of whether to be a Daddy or not is personal. There is no right answer.

* Ultimately, forget the labels and formulate the relationship that is right for you and your partner.

Links from the show:

Kinky Love Notes: Amazon ♥ Smashwords

The Gor series by John Norman

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