Encountering You

When Love Languages Become Laws


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In this episode of Encountering You, Laura Williams explores how a well-known relationship tool — Love Languages— can unintentionally create disconnection when used as a rule instead of a reflection of real love.

Through the lens of Healing Our Core Issues, Laura unpacks how our love languages often reveal unmet childhood needs and how genuine connection grows through attunement, not performance.

You’ll learn:

  • Why the Love Languages framework lacks scientific grounding.
  • How love languages can become transactional or controlling.
  • Why attunement, not technique, builds secure attachment.
  • How to shift from “If you loved me…” to “When you do this, I feel close to you.”
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