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Why Do I Actively Try To Stay Sick?


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Why do we cling to the behaviors that hurt us most? In this episode, Kati Morton, LMFT, dives into the physiological and emotional complexities of eating disorder recovery, trauma responses, and the "why" behind our most difficult survival mechanisms.

We explore the "safety" found in cycles like bulimia or anorexia when living in neglectful environments, and Kati provides actionable tools for those navigating C-PTSD, DID, and intimacy after divorce.

  • The "Freeze" Response: Understanding "bed-locking" and C-PTSD.

  • Complicated Grief: Why you might feel numb when an abuser passes away.

  • The Feelings Wheel: Practical tools for naming emotions when you feel disconnected.

  • Dissociation & DID: Managing treatment while living in an unsafe home.

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      • 00:00 – Intro: Mind-body responses

      • 00:43 – ED cycles in abusive homes & Mandated Reporting

      • 07:02 – Grieving an abuser: Understanding emotional numbness

      • 12:41 – Why we "enjoy" or miss our eating disorders

      • 25:01 – Tools for naming emotions (The Feelings Wheel)

      • 32:27 – Navigating DID treatment in unsafe environments

      • 39:09 – Is "bed-locking" a normal C-PTSD response?

      • 47:09 – Shame and intimacy after divorce

      • 53:03 – When your therapist challenges your recovery

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        • Books: Why Do I Keep Doing This?, Traumatized, and Are u ok?

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