This Complex Life

Why Do We Keep Drifting Apart in Our Relationship


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It doesn’t usually happen with one big fight. Most couples who find themselves feeling distant say it crept up slowly. Busy schedules, kids, work, distractions and one day you realise you’re living more like housemates than partners.

In this episode of This Complex Life, I talk about why couples drift apart, what research tells us about disconnection, and the small everyday actions that keep love alive.

I share:

  • Why disconnection often happens without us noticing
  • How emotional bids shape the strength of your bond
  • What Gottman research shows about drifting vs closeness
  • Simple practices to rebuild connection and stop feeling like housemates
  • Why small moments of presence matter more than big gestures

🎧 Listen now to explore why drifting happens and what you can do to bring closeness back into your relationship.

Resources:

  • The Gottman Institute
  • Relationship Refresh
  • AI Affairs, Clinic Closures, and the Mental Health Cost of Early Smartphones

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