Stillness in the Storms

Why Is It so Difficult to Love Ourselves?


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Learning to love ourselves is key to finding happiness and freedom. I’ve been on this journey for years, and I still find it tough, which is a real struggle. We often hold onto our past mistakes and the things we wish we hadn't done, making self-love feel almost impossible. It’s easy to compare ourselves to others and think we have more skeletons in our closet than they do, but everyone has their own struggles. In this podcast, I dig into why it's so hard to embrace self-love and share some thoughts on how we can start being kinder to ourselves.

Do you find it difficult to love yourself? Forgive yourself? You are not alone. One of the hardest things I've found my whole life is the ability to love myself.

Why is it so difficult to love ourselves?

I answer that question on today's podcast, and I think it's something that when we really become aware of this realisation, we might start to actually cultivate that compassion that we do need to be able to love ourselves.


Loving ourselves sounds easy, right? But in reality, it's a tough journey filled with bumps and hurdles. We often find it hard to love ourselves because we remember all those mistakes we've made over the years. In this podcast, I dive into why self-love can be such a challenge. It’s not about being narcissistic or thinking we’re the best thing since sliced bread. Instead, it’s about having compassion for ourselves during those moments when we mess up or feel down. I share my own struggles with self-love, revealing that even after years of trying, it still doesn’t come easily. We discuss how our past experiences shape our ability to love ourselves and how comparing ourselves to others can make it even harder. It's a real conversation about recognizing our flaws while also trying to embrace them. We might look at others and think they have it all together, but trust me, everyone has their skeletons. The key takeaway? Go easy on yourself, because you’re human. Self-love is a journey we’re all on, together.

Takeaways:

  • Learning to love ourselves is crucial for happiness and freedom in life.
  • We often struggle with self-love because we hold onto our past mistakes and regrets.
  • Everyone has their own skeletons in the closet that make self-acceptance challenging.
  • Comparing ourselves to others can make us feel worse about our own issues and mistakes.
  • Having compassion for ourselves is key to overcoming difficulties in self-love.
  • It's important to recognize that everyone is human and deserves kindness, including ourselves.

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