Yes, please...

If you have felt like there is a lot of energy trapped inside you but you don't seem to get too much force and zest from it, maybe it is sexual energy that is not being used as intended and it is trapped instead. In this episode, Erika talks about the magic that you can release when you use your eroticism, what to do to feel your best and foster the most delicious sexual experiences. If you do the work, you will notice the changes and you will notice how this sensual, sexual woman starts coming out, she who takes in the beauty and the goodness of life and unleashes the slut that lives within allowing herself to experience the pleasure of her erotic power. 

Pleasure and eroticism are superpowers

Combined they increase your vitality and liveliness and when you allow them to flow freely in your body, mind, psyche, system, like a big fucking river and then it cascades and floods your whole life with joy and that "zest," your Erotic Power.

However there is a catch, sometimes you don't know how to harness our superpower, and it is completely normal. We have been hiding them for so long and for so many different reasons, that to bring them to the surface you need to cultivate your erotic identity step into that role and BE that person. It is not about trying to be someone you are not, it is about choosing who you want to be when it comes to eroticism and sexuality, enjoying your freedom of expression, and allowing yourself to experiment with both, day-to-day beauty and sensuality, and the wildest erotic desires and corners of your being. 

In this episode:

Why pleasure and eroticism are superpowers

The importance of having and cultivating an erotic identity

Blockages you might experience to feeling sexual and erotic

Things to shift to cultivate your eroticism and feel amazing 

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Do you feel uncomfortable or ashamed asking for what you want? Maybe you have been with a partner and really wanted to try something different but just the idea of saying "the thing" or maybe the body part, gave you an unpleasant feeling in your body and a closed throat. That is more common than you can imagine, society is not even used to naming ALL the body parts, let alone expressing desires and needs in a confident, open way. That censorship negatively impacts your pleasure and your sexuality. The good news? You can overcome that! In this episode, Erika talks about the importance of talking about sex to help you improve your sexuality, and boost your confidence and the way you communicate with the person you share your sexuality with. 

The foundations of a shameless sexuality

We grow up in a society that replaces the names of the sexual organs with "cute" words that are supposed to be easier to say and easier to hear but they are certainly not appropriate. People need to use the right words to name their bodies and deserve to get that education from an early age. Those are the foundations of a confident sexual adult.

If you are not confident thinking and talking about your own body, in a safe environment with a person you trust, for example your partner, you are closing yourself to acknowledging and embodying your wholeness, and your partner's wholeness. You are censoring a natural and exciting part of your existence. You can turn all that around and own your desires, own your expectations, your words and embody a confident shameless woman. 

Learning to reclaim all your body parts, and learning to let go of feelings of shame or disgust are the first steps to enjoying more pleasure and living your sexuality freely. 

If you are in a long-term relationship or if you enjoy sharing your sexuality, learning to TALK about sex and share your desires will also allow you to hold space for your partner (or partners) to open up and share their fantasies too. Can you imagine what could come out of that level of trust and confidence?  

In this episode:

Why is it important to re-invent and reclaim sex education

How censoring yourself affects your confidence and your sexuality

The benefits of talking more about sex

What you can do to be more open toward the sexual nature of human existence and learn to talk about it the way you talk about any other human need. 

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Women's health, well-being, vitality, and sexual energy can be boosted and cultivated through one simple, yet potent, daily practice. It takes just a few minutes but, if done regularly, the results are not only long-lasting but pleasurable evident, and enjoyable. 

In this episode, Erika explains in detail why and how the Deer Exercise, one of the best-known women's exercises from the Taoist tradition, practiced for at least 4500 years, will benefit your sexuality and your health.

The Deer exercise works through the endocrine system helping to naturally and gently balance the hormones and cycles, turning uncomfortable bottled-up sexual desire into relaxed, enjoyable sensuality, improving sexual enjoyment. It also helps with premenstrual symptoms, irregular and painful periods, lumpy breasts, and polycystic ovarian syndrome. If you don't menstruate, you will benefit as much from this practice, as it increases your overall vitality, your sensuality and sexuality, and it deepens your connection to your emotions and your physical body specifically your pussy and your sexual organs. 

You can take notes or, better yet, download or come back to this episode as much as you need to practice the deer exercise and note the changes happening day by day. 

In this episode:

The deer exercise: what is it and why you want to practice it.

The benefits and positive changes you will experience when you practice it regularly. 

The steps. How to do it, when and for how long. 

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Resources and Links

Instructions for The Deer Exercise are taken from Lisa, Bodley, Recreating Menstruation, Gnana Yoga Foundation, Melbourne, 1995

The Way of Qigong: The Art and Science of Chinese Energy Healing Paperback – March 9, 1999 by Kenneth S. Cohen.

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You experience more pleasure when you rest. If you tend to overlook the importance of rest, this is for you. When you slow down and relax you enter into a rest and digest state, your body softens, you soften, and are more receptive so you will find it easier to let in and enjoy happiness AND pleasure -both sensual and sexual.

Sounds great, right? However, most people struggle with the idea of resting because we have been told that the more we do the more we deserve. Which, at least in terms of PLEASURE, is a complete lie. You deserve pleasure, you deserve to rest and be with yourself every single day of your life.

This episode, inspired by one of Erika's clients, touches on the importance of being present in your body and making space for all the responsibilities of life but also for all the pleasures, from a grounded and conscious state of being to experiencing more pleasure and satisfaction.

"When we enter into this rest and digest relaxed body brain soft state of being we feel an almost automatic or very natural, easy access to connection with sensual energy, we feel and perceive energy in the body, it is easier to be present in the body" [15:58]

"Fuck yes to extreme relaxation and softness because it is such a bridge to sensuality and to energy, an energy phenomenon that you can experience. And when you get a little bit more knowledgeable in this or experienced with this [...] then you can start directing energy inside and playing with energy in a really fantastic way" [20:04]

In this episode:

The difference between Fight or Flight and Rest and Digest, and their impact on your pleasure.

The importance of allowing yourself to be fully present and listen to the sensations in your body and the stimuli around you.

Why and how rest allows for more pleasure and better orgasms.

How to make space for conscious, intentional, and sustainable rest in your everyday life.

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What do sex coaching and marriage coaching have in common? Other than a coach and a coachee, of course.

To have loving, respectful and enriching sexual and romantic relationships you need to "go first" and work on what YOU want to experience. In doing so, everything around you will start to shift because the way you show up shifts, your relationship with yourself shifts, and as a result, all your relationships and your life experience positive changes. Join Erika Alsborn and Maggie Reyes as they talk about the foundation of all interpersonal relationships -the Self- from their unique, yet very similar, perspectives. 

Maggie Reyes is a Life Coach and Modern Marriage Mentor who specializes in helping driven, ambitious women create the marriages of their dreams , without waiting for their partners to change or adding more work to their lives. She is the creator of The Marriage MBA Program, a 6 month mentorship in creating a successful marriage using principles from positive psychology, cognitive science and simple coaching tools that you can learn today and apply tomorrow.

Maggie is the author of the best selling "Questions for Couples Journal" and the host of the Top 100 "The Marriage Life Coach Podcast."

In this episode:

Learn about the impact that your own work and mindset shifts can bring into your romantic relationship(s) 

The importance of holding space for the things and the behaviors/treatment that you want to receive. 

What are "standards" in your relationships and why you need them. 

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Everyday sensuality is so valuable. Through this series, you will find guidance and inspiration to experience sensuality in your everyday life without anything super fancy and anything external, just by creating moments of feminine delight through your senses. 

In the second episode of the series, you will learn how to transform any meal into a supra sensual experience that will gratify ALL your senses. When you are connected to your senses, you experience pleasure, not necessarily sexual (although it can be) and as you know, pleasure is good for you, you are made for pleasure, and you don't need to limit pleasure to the bedroom, you can experience it through everyday activities. 

Being with your sensations. 

Enjoying dinner with other people and a nice conversation is heartwarming, or a lunch break scrolling through social media can help unplug your brain and give you the boost you need for the second half of your work day. However, sitting down with yourself and experiencing all the sensations that your food has to offer can be so rich and pleasurable. 

The key is to be truly present and pay attention to how the food looks, and how it smells, you can touch it, and focus on how it feels in your mouth, your lips, or even on your hands. Do it with intention and focus on the sensations, the thoughts, and the feelings that come to your mind through this experience. 

In this episode:

Learn how everyday sensuality can up level your everyday life

Learn how a daily task can help you connect with yourself through your senses

Explore the ways you can transform a regular meal into a deeply sensual experience 

Discover how you can spot the parts of yourself that need inner work, through sensual experiences

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This episode will be a game changer, so empowering and effective in so many ways, especially when it comes to experiencing more turn-on and more pleasurable sex regularly, including astounding foreplay.

Your relationship with self-pleasure and foreplay

You are responsible for your turn on and while your partner (or partners) gets to be involved in it, you own your turn-on. And if your partner is a man, it can take way, way longer for us women to get to the point where we are ready.

Putting yourself in charge of your pleasure AND your turn-on during foreplay changes the way you enter the bedroom and changes the whole experience. When you are in charge, you are no longer dependent on what your partner does or doesn't do because you receive them from a place of ownership and you get to share all the pleasure that you already feel.

"A lot of women feel so dependent on men to initiate sex, to turn us on, to take care of us sexually, this is all part of the conditioning we've received growing up and the lack of role models and all of that so when you flip that narrative and you say actually I'm responsible for my own turn on and I take the matters into my own hand you are reversing a lot of that and you start to decondition a lot of that stuff" [10:06]

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In this episode, Erika and Morgan share their experiences through the different seasons of life, including motherhood, and how embodying their own soul purpose has allowed them to help other women walk this path too.

Morgan Day Cecil has a Master's Degree in Philosophy and has spent 20-years training in mind-body-spirit methodologies for healing and transformation, including yoga, breath work, trauma-release, hypnotherapy, deep feminine psychology, energy healing, contemplative Christianity, and Tantra.

Self-reclamation is healing.

With the images of womanhood that are carved in our collective and a shared wounded feminine history, often times women find themselves with a profound disconnection between their conscious and unconscious desires and goals. But the good news is that you are allowed to shed your identity and create a new one!

You can reclaim the parts that have been deeply wounded, even if it was by other women, and start the process of healing, to show up in the world being who YOU want to be. Self-reclamation is brave work, our mothers didn't get a chance to do this, we are the front runners, so sharing the process can be really inspiring, and that's what you will find in this conversation.

A new womanhood

What you do for your soul and your healing is bigger than you. It begins in your heart and impacts the collective because we are connected to all women. When we understand this, we know it is safe to let other women do their own work, because together we are creating a new kind of womanhood, where each of us gets to embody their soul's purpose.

"Step into our future self, the woman that we decide we are becoming. It doesn't matter what happened in the past, it doesn't matter our history or what we carry from our ancestors, we are conscious beings and we get to decide in this present moment who we want to become" [35:05]

“Coming home to yourself is about learning to trust what lights you up and letting other women be on that journey too. We don’t need to police each other, you can absolutely trust another woman with her journey of coming home to herself and what lights her up ” [49:40]

"When you are connected to your soul and what she is here for, like, it doesn't matter what anyone says, there is such clarity and confidence that comes through that" [54:23]

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In this episode, Erika guides you through a sensual experience that encourages you to accept and live your pleasure as an ever-changing story. You get to just be, you get to enjoy yourself, your sensuality, and your pleasure during all of the stages of your life, all of your seasons. And you get to be present with your feelings and your sensations because pleasure is good for you. Self pleasure is good for you.

Coming home to your body and enjoying your presence is a deep and sensual experience, solitude can be a space to connect with your spiritual heart and with your physical body through pleasurable sensuality.

Remember that you don’t have a body, you ARE a body and you deserve to develop a rich loving relationship with yourself, you deserve to embrace and love the body that you are, just the way you are, it is the most wonderful place you could be living in. You deserve to embody and enjoy your wholeness.

“Commit to accepting and welcoming whatever you are experiencing as it is. You can think of your body and your pleasure as the relationship between the planet and the weather. Your body is the planet, your pleasure is the weather. The planet doesn’t complain about the weather, it accepts it. Sometimes it’s raining, sometimes it’s sunny, there’s winter, then comes spring,  there’s seasons. It just is. You can have the same no expectations, accepting, welcoming relationship to your pleasure…” [03:07]

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In this episode, Erika inspires you to amplify your pleasure by getting to know your body on a deeper level. Your whole body is a pleasure playground and it constitutes your pleasure landscape, however, there are specific areas of your body that are more sensitive, the erogenous zones, and they can give you exquisite pleasure and sensations, and even orgasm, and no, it’s not only the genitals. 

Some erogenous zones are directly associated with sexuality, but others are not, and that’s why it is so important to explore yourself fully so that you don’t overlook any pleasure source, and to you give yourself the chance to discover not only where you like to touch yourself or be touched, but also the HOW. 

“So by focusing on your whole body as a big playground for pleasure and erotic goodness you will discover new areas of your body that you may have ignored or forgotten about and/or you will increase pleasure by more directly and generously focusing on pleasuring yourself” [10:18]

“Start to really expand your pleasure landscape, draw a bigger map of pleasure in your body so that when you are solo pleasuring yourself you are not just going straight to the genitals but allowing yourself to give yourself a full body massage, or tickle your skin and breathe into the sensations and have a  non specific erogenous zones good time” [07:07]

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