Yes, please...

Today Erika is debunking one of the reasons why a lot of women are not having amazing sensual and sexual experiences, solo or partnered: The strive for perfection in sexual encounters, even if it's unconscious. If you tend to be too harsh with yourself and/or if you are in a long-term relationship, this episode is for you. 

Have you ever had the following thoughts? In order to have delicious sex and orgasms it all needs to be spontaneous and beautiful, the environment and mood must be ideal, there can't be any tension and you must get wet and horny immediately, If yes, that internal pressure on your body and pussy is blocking you from unparalleled sexual experiences and orgasms because it doesn't let you be fully present and get really intimate.   

When you are in a long term relationship, it is not uncommon to leave the sexual experiences just for "when they happen." IF they happen, there are strict expectations around them, and many times the turn on comes AFTER, but it is hardly ever maintained as a constant state of mind. Intimacy is about connecting, not perfection.

Tune in and learn how to set the ground for consistency, maintain your turn on, and eventually unlock unparalleled sexual pleasure and orgasms.   

"This need for it to be perfect and the conditions to be perfect, and the environment to be perfect. So, recogize this inside yourself and notice how that prevents you form intimacy. Intimacy with yourself, intumacy with a lover with a partner. And intimacy doesn't have to be perfect, intimacy is about connecting..." [06:09]

In this episode:

What is the big myth preventing you from experiencing sexual pleasure and orgasms.

What's the enemy of delightful sexual encounters in long-term relationships.

How to shift your mindset and "live" on the edge of having a fulfilling sexuality.  

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Why is it important to be fully present in your body? To experience more pleasure.  Pleasure is so powerful that it fuels your life force and it is also a form of self-care. Through embodiment, sensuality and sexual practices you can enhance the connection with your body, with yourself. Having the habit of practicing embodiment and self-pleasure will help you take in all the sensual and sexual experiences in life and feel vibrant, fulfilled, energized and happy.

In this episode Erika talks about PLEASURE TREATS and dives into each specific practice included in the program. If you have decided to prioritize yourself and your pleasure, this episode is for you! Tune in to learn what the practices are, why they are important and how it is that they are so powerful. 

In this episode:

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Resources and Links

Sign up for the PLEASURE TREATS here

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There are so many different kinds of pleasure, and if you want to have a really magnetic, beautiful, radiant life, you need to connect with your pleasure. In fact, pleasure is so powerful that it fuels your life force and it is also a form of self-care. In this episode Erika shares why she believes pleasure is a human right, the benefits of making pleasure a part of your lifestyle, and two juicy and remarkable events that are taking place in November-December. 

Accessing all types of pleasure in your life, helps you be fully present in your body, take in all the sensual and sexual experiences and feel vibrant, fulfilled, energized and happy.

When it comes to sexuality, most women struggle to find the time or a good reason (as if you needed one!) for self pleasure, other women don't really know how to work with their body, whatever the reason, if you haven't prioritized your own pleasure, tune in and learn about two magnificent opportunities to connect with your body, your pleasure and your life force. 

In this episode:

Why pleasure, sexual and non sexual is a human right

Why the habit of pursuing pleasure is something worth cultivating. 

Learn about Erika's free workshop "Pleasure as Self-care."

Learn about the life-changing course Pleasure Treats, an all time favorite of Erika's community.

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Sign up for the free event PLEASURE as SELF-CARE here

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02: Self-pleasure vs. Masturbation
31: Everyday Sensuality Series: Sensual touch
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06: The productivity trap blocks you from your pleasure
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16: GUIDED PRACTICE: Sensual & Loving Full Body Experience
15: Get to know your Pleasure Landscape

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Everyday sensuality is so valuable. Through this series, you will find guidance and inspiration to experience sensuality in your everyday life without anything super fancy and anything external, just by creating moments of feminine delight through your senses. 

In the third episode of the series, you will learn how touching your body can be a dazzling experience. You touch yourself every single day, you comb your hair, apply skin care, etc., most of us have completely automated these activities, but you could reconnect with your sense of touch and take up a notch your daily activities, the perception of yourself, and actually, your whole day.

Stop for a few minutes and tune in with yourself as you apply your face cream, or take a moment to caress your skin and enjoy the sensations without any goal, other than the desire to be in the present moment with yourself and in your body. Consciously direct your awareness to your body (aka yourself), who holds infinite wisdom and is craving your loving attention, and see how that changes your overall experience throughout the day.

In this episode

What is sensuality and how it will uplevel your life.

The benefits of practicing everyday sensuality and sensual touch. 

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Your body is listening to your thoughts and she desires your kind attention and your unconditional love regardless of shape, size, color and stage of life. You are your body, your body is you.

In this episode, Erika's guest, Jen Gordon -a 46-year-old goddess from Western Canada and breast cancer survivor- shares with you her healing journey. From the moment she was diagnosed with breast cancer to the present day and the loving perspective she has about life and herself after a double mastectomy and reconstruction.

Jen has begun to study Tantra since her recovery and has learned to celebrate her body and love every bit of her anatomy. Every October (breast cancer awareness month) she has made it her mission to lead a shake-and-enjoy-your-titties dance campaign on TikTok.

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Jen's TikTok

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Cancer & Breast Worship: Before a Double Mastectomy - By Jennifer Gordon

Navigating Sex After Cancer - By Jennifer Gordon

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Do you wish your day had seven more hours to fit in all the things you have to do and still have time for what you want to do like having more sex and orgasms? This episode is for you because you probably have the time, you just haven't realized. In this conversation, Erika talks with Raina about how to create a routine that feels good, so much so that you can actually be consistent with it and BE the person who does all those wonderful, pleasurable things and is highly productive at the same time.

Raina is an Online Wellness & Life Coach with a focus on consistency & routine. Based in Denver, single mom of two teen girls, and she has two fur babies who are her everything.

The trick to being consistent with your routine.

According to Raina, there is no trick but if there was one, then it would be the intention. Think about, or better yet, journal about what it's going to feel like in a year if you do [insert here the activities you desire in your life] and you may find that you have the best reason to start aligning your life and your days with that purpose: the intention to be who you want to be, and the vision to know where you are going.

Showing up for yourself in a way that feels good and making a routine that works for you, allows you to become THAT person. After a lifetime of committing to what you think you should be doing, the best strategy to start with these changes in your routine and make it sustainable, is to ask yourself, "what is step one? And define your non-negotiables.

Know what you actually want and that you deserve it.

Approaching your new life -and your new routine- from your desires, brings in positive energy and a sense of possibility. Being clear on what you WANT allows you to take the path of creation with a growth mindset. If that feels uncomfortable, perhaps it's about how deserving you think you are.

You have to know that you are indeed worthy of living that way. If you are a mother maybe you have been taught that you need to put everybody else first but if you don't feel good. Your kids see it, they feel it. They're internalizing it, they're thinking that this is the way that life should be lived. And the cycle never ends.

When you're working towards a goal, like changing your relationship with your body, experiencing more pleasure, having your first orgasm, or more sex in your long-term relationship, oftentimes, it's not spontaneous. You're not going to always feel like it. So put your pleasure practices in your calendar, tune in to this episode, and learn how to design and commit to a life of ease and happiness.

In this episode: 

What's behind a sustainable routine

How to switch stagnate energy for growth and creation mindset

How to find or make space for pleasure and pleasurable activities.

Where to start when you have decided to take the first step

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The amount of love you receive does not depend on your productivity, how much you have accomplished or how much you stretch yourself. You are deserving of love because you exist. Plant a seed of self-love with this guided practice and start recogizing unconditional love as a type of pleasure.

It is easy to forget we deserve love and pleasure because of the hustle culture and the amount of conditions we are imposed throughout our lives, if you have found yourself self-criticizing because you didn't finish your chores and yet you desire to do something else instead, this episode is a good starting point. Tune in and get comfortable because you are about to rewire your brain and your heart to soften up and start feeling more deserving, more loveable and that you are enough. You are love and you get to experience and embody true love, you are worthy.

In this episode:

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Are mothers allowed to be sexual, sexually satisfied and sexually free? Even thinking about it seems absurd, right? because all human beings deserve pleasure, all mothers deserve pleasure, but society has made us believe that a "good" mother must forget about herself, her sexuality, her needs, and her desires because now she has children. As if motherhood and sexuality were completely separate parts of a mother's life. Now, if this is feeling icky, you will benefit from this quickie, where Erika talks about pregnancy and childbirth as an extension of sexuality, to inspire you to redefine what it REALLY means to be a sexual woman and mother, and to be open to enjoy your sexuality to its fullness because you are built for it and you deserve it. 

Your pussy belongs to you, your pussy is you and she's there for both pleasure and birth. Releasing the old and outdated, paradigm of the good woman and the good mother could be one of the first steps and the beginning of a healing process leading up to a shameless and delightful sexuality.  

"Evolution did not fuck up the female body, the female sexual organs, or birth. It is how we live. It is how we think about it. It's how we approach it and use them and abuse them and shut them down through modern day living lifestyle and practices" [6:27]

In this episode: 

Ecstatic birth is possible and available to you.

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A person channeling the Slut sexual archetype is someone who takes full control over their own pleasure. Being a slut is about your relationship with joy and pleasure and your ability to be spontaneous and playful. It is about satisfaction. The slut enjoys pleasure for pleasure’s sake!! She enjoys her body and all the things she can do with it, minus the shame and guilt. So in this episode, Erika talks about the slut's energy and power, and the reasons why this type of energy is so judged and misunderstood. As well as a possible way to take your slut to her liberation and free expression. 

Archetypes.

We can thank Carl Jung for this concept, he is the one who said that the collective unconscious is contained and expressed within a series of thoughts and behaviors and all of their adjacent signs and symbols. 

In a way, the suppression of sluttiness was useful when women in the past, needed "protection" or endorsement from men and society in general. But time has passed and it is about time we release the sluts, because the slut energy is very much needed nowadays, for our pleasure and for the benefit of all the people who crosses paths with a free slut. 

Being a slut is a vibe. Being a slut is fun and pleasurable. But we are not only talking about sexual pleasure here, also dancing, singing, eating, drinking, all the things you do with your body! Your ability to enjoy yourself and allow other women to do the same, relies on the free flow of this wonderful, sexy, slutty energy!! 

Embrace and embody your inner slut! She who knows she looooves sex.

In this episode:

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Slut academy

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Slut Academy is for you. For the woman who wants to radically change her sexuality, who wants to feel sexually free, liberated and creative. You get to be sexual at any age and stage of your life. 

Forget what you have believed about being a slut! There is so much power in that word and when you reclaim it, you also reclaim yourself as a sexually empowered woman who has released the conditioning you received growing up. A slut is a woman who loves sex and pursues her erotic satisfaction and knows there's nothing to be ashamed of. 

In this episode Erika will share with you the idea behind her brand new creation, Slut Academy. A four month slut liberation and sexual identity expansion journey, that celebrates the inner slut and invites her to come out by unleashing her sexual worth and prioritizing pleasure and intimacy.

You deserve to be an unapologetic sexual woman and what's inside this episode will plant the seed of sexual growth, to help you revolutionize how you express your sexuality, the work that you do in the bedroom directly impacts how you feel and who you are outside of the bedroom because by cultivating and harnessing your sexual energy, which is your lifeforce fuel you will feel radiant as fuck. You deserve to celebrate yourself and other women in their most liberated and uncensored sexuality.

In this episode:

Why is it important to release the conditioning you have received around the word slut and the slut archetype. 

What is waiting for you and what will you experience when you reclaim your sluttiness.

What's inside Slut Academy. 

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