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If you're experiencing numbness, emotional, physical, or sexual, you are not alone, many women experience different levels of disembodiment, and the good news is that you can overcome it. In this episode, Erika's guest, Priya Datta, shares her personal experience in navigating this challenging journey. Priya has developed a deep understanding of the importance of awareness, compassion, and self-love in the healing process and today, all her knowledge is available to you, tune in! 

Priya is a women’s life coach and sound therapist. She uses trauma-informed practices, that are rooted in Tantra, to help clients shift from feeling numb, stuck, or ineffectual to feeling more fully alive. 

In a world where we're constantly bombarded with stressors and emotional triggers, it's no surprise that many of us have developed emotional numbness as a coping mechanism. This silent emotional drain can impact your relationships, career, sexuality and overall mental well-being. That's why it's crucial to recognize, understand, and take action, however, exploring the depths of your inner self to uncover what had been causing disembodiment or disconnection requires a gradual process that includes through self-awareness, embodiment, and cultivating tolerance for sensations and emotions in your daily life. Gradually reestablishing a connection with yourself is the most sustainable way to work your way through the insensibility, and out of it. 

In this episode:

Break free from emotional numbness.

Uncover your hidden protective mechanisms.

Experience long-lasting healing by embracing positive experiences.

Dive into powerful embodied healing practices and enhance your somatic resources.

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

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Links and resources: 

Connect with Priya: https://www.linkedin.com/in/priya-datta/

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After betting her friends and family her son would be born five days late, Erika experienced a somewhat unexpected, intense, orgasmic, ecstatic birth, pushing her to her limits and challenging her to surrender to her primal self and to the power and wisdom of her womb. Tune in to listen Erika's beautiful birth story. 

During her first pregnancy, Erika knew she wanted a home birth without medical assistance, a natural self-led and baby-led birth. So she prepared herself mentally, spiritually and physically trusting that in time, her body would know how to do this. The female anatomy knows how to give birth, you know how to birth your children, your body does the work for you. The difficult part can be to trust her, but she knows. And that is exactly how Erika managed to have the birth she had envisioned, trusting herself. 

After that beautiful momend, shared with her husband, she birthed not only a baby but the mother too, and today she wants you to know that the narrative around childbirth can be different from what you have been made to believe. 

In this episode:

The power of trust and bodily surrender during childbirth.

Benefits of embracing pleasure, intimacy, and sexuality in a natural home birth experience.

The positive impact of supportive partners and respectful midwives.

Honoring the sacredness of birth through personal choices and meaningful rituals.

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

Links and Resources

Read the blog:  Want to have an orgasmic birth https://www.erikaalsborn.com/blog/want-to-have-an-orgasmic-birth

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Have you heard or thought that embracing ecstatic birth through body connection and pleasure is too good to be true? What if that's a myth?

In this episode, Shayla Kamara Hay shares her journey of trauma healing and pregnancy that ended up in the discovery of a beautiful truth: a woman's body is capable of pleasure, ecstasy, and even transcendence during childbirth. 

Sheila is a MA, VITA certified trauma informed, somatic female sexuality and empowerment coach and the founder of Ecstatic Birth. She specializes in an integrative approach to sexuality and pleasure to support her clients in releasing blocks, feeling more, and opening to their fullest sexual expression- whether single, partnered, mothering or going through menopause. Sheila’s work is centered around the conviction that the free flow of sexual energy is paramount to our vitality and wellness at every stage and age. A recognized visionary in childbirth education, Sheila has brought sexuality and pleasure to the forefront of birth preparation and support. She lives in Sands Point with her husband, 3 kids, dog and cats where she enjoys being immersed in the beauty of nature and having easy access to all NYC has to offer. 

Despite having experienced a traumatic birth when her first child was born, Sheila was able to uncover a powerful pathway to positive birth experiences. What she found was something far more extraordinary than she expected, childbirth can be a powerful, pleasurable, and expansive experience. Now she shares her knowledge with other people who are seeking to change their narrative of what childbirth is.

In her Ecstatic Birth practice over the past 15 years, Sheila has empowered women, families and health care practitioners around the globe to elevate the experience of childbirth from pain to pleasure through body-based education and training programs, certifying Ecstatic Birth Practitioners™ in over 26+ countries. Sheila is a sought after speaker, advocate, teacher and writer, featured at Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts, Orgasmic Birth’s Pain to Power program, Midwifery Today, the En*theos Academy, the Birth Institute, Huffington Post, and numerous other conferences, podcasts and publications. Sheila received her BA from Yale and an MA from Columbia University. 

Tune in to listen to this conversation, but mind you, what you'll hear could change your idea of childbirth forever. 

In this episode:

The transformative power of ecstatic birth through developing a deep body connection and embracing pleasure.

The importance of sexual healing and releasing trauma during childbirth preparation.

Overcoming negative birth experiences to find closure, and even empowerment in future experiences.

Positive birth experiences contribute to a broader systemic transformation.

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

Links and Resources

Read the blog:  Want to have an orgasmic birth https://www.erikaalsborn.com/blog/want-to-have-an-orgasmic-birth

Free Masterclass https://ecstatic-birth.com/essential-keys-live/

Sheila's website: http://ecstatic-birth.com/

Sheila's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ecstaticbirth/

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Is self-pleasure part of your self-care routine? In today's episode, Erika talks about the importance of self-pleasure, aka masturbation, and provides six tips for doing it regularly and feeling good about it! Even if you are in a long-term relationship. 

There are many reasons why women may find it more challenging to engage in self-pleasure and masturbation than men, but Erika encourages you to prioritize your pleasure as it is a lifelong, youth elixir. Try it, be patient, and eventually, you'll reap the benefits.

If you're someone who struggles with the thought, or practice, of masturbation, know that it's okay and normal to have some hesitation or uncertainty around it. However, prioritizing pleasure in your life can have a significant positive impact on your overall well-being. Try experimenting with these tips and making self-pleasure a regular part of your life. And remember, the most important thing is to be present in the moment and focus on the sensations of the body. Happy self-pleasuring!

In this episode

Do women masturbate often?

The importance of self-pleasure

The 6 tips for making self-pleasure a priority and incorporating it into your life 

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

Links and Resources

Read the Blog: Self-Pleasure vs Masturbation: https://www.erikaalsborn.com/blog/self-pleasure-vs-masturbation

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In this episode, Erika talks with writer Carly Pifer, about how literary erotica can be, not only fun but also beneficial to women's sexual wellbeing by positively impacting your sexual confidence and sensual power. Join them to learn more about how erotica can help you explore and express your sexuality.

Carly is a writer with a history of exploring taboo topics, including sex and sobriety, abortion, abusive relationships, and of course real erotica. She has also helmed digital content and creative for several more vanilla interests, including Perrier (sparkling water), Burrow (couches), and Blake Lively (Gossip Girl star). With her writing and marketing experience combined, Carly has created an accessible digital magazine for the new dawn of sex-positivity—AURORE.

In the words of Carly, "AURORE is all about taking back control of “our” sexual desires, not being ashamed of our experiences, and sharing them to empower ourselves and others—it is a space to celebrate the sex we loved. All stories are meant to be positive while remaining relatable because we’re not going to pretend that sex is always “perfect” or “beautiful” Aurore is completely reader supported! Aurore is space for everyone with a focus on women’s experiences, user submitted, expertly curated, based on true stories/real fantasies. Carly works with writers to refine their stories and go deeper. Stories are chosen/commissioned to share new perspectives on sex."

Why does it work?

One of the best ways to explore your sexual desires and identity is to activate your brain, because it is your biggest erogenous zone. It is responsible for sending signals to the body to increase arousal, pleasure, and desire. To activate your brain, you need to engage in activities that stimulate your mind and body.  

The power of literature to stimulate your mind and evoke emotion and pleasure is undeniable. From journalism to poems, the written word has the ability to evoke feelings of joy, sadness and, of course, pleasure. Reading erotica is one way to create a space to explore your desires and fantasies, it can help you gain a better understanding of yourself, and it could even help you connect with your partner.

Erika has explored before the value owning your pleasure and turn-on, and how porn and literary erotica are excellent tools to have in your pleasure toolkit. Tune in and uplevel your pleasure toolkit with the power of literary erotica and porn made for women.

In this episode:

Reading literary erotica for pleasure

Erotica and porn for women

How vulnerability can turn into intimacy

Owning your sexuality and turn-on

Normalizing sex talk, sexual desires and pleasure

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

Links and Resources

AURORE website: https://readaurore.com/

AURORE Instagram:  //www.instagram.com/readaurore/

Get her book here: https://pleasepinchmehard.com/give-it-to-me/

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In this episode Erika talks about the importance of loving your pussy exactly as she is. Pussy gazing will help you change negative beliefs you may have about your pussy, allowing you to love, admire, and respect her. Feeling empowered and beautiful about your genitalia will also positively impact your sexual experiences and childbirth. 

Many women carry unconscious beliefs that their vulva is unattractive, disgusting, problematic, or weird-looking. These beliefs negatively affect sexual pleasure and overall sexual health, they need to go! And you can start changing your paradigm, today by gazing at your pussy and worshipping her. It will help you identify and change these negative beliefs and create space for experiencing more pleasure and healing. 

A positive and empowering view of your pussy will make you feel more confident and beautiful. Feeling and experiencing beauty is a spiritual practice that can help you enter into a high level of consciousness and a high vibration state which is important for embodiment and, when you are fully embodied, all the pussy-related experiences are heightened. 

If you want to experience more pleasure during sex, open up to the possibility of having a blissful birth and enhance your sexuality in general, tune in to this episode and download the free practices. Enjoy!

In this episode:

Unconscious negative beliefs about the vulva.

Why you should reclaim a loving connection with your body and particularly your pussy 

What is pussy worship and how to practice it. 

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

Follow and reach out on IG:https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

Links and Resources

Pussy Worship free audio practice: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/606c5b3c156ede08a80af515 

Embodied & Sensual free practices: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63a1d5251181890f30a54b91

More Juicy Content here:https://pico.link/erikaalsborn

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Join Erika in this week's episode where she celebrates her second pregnancy, shares with you her first pregnancy journey and extends an invitation, if you have experienced a positive and ecstatic birth, to celebrate and tell other women about your powerful story; all this in order to challenge the fear-mongering cultural narrative around childbirth.

 This episode is a celebration of this exciting stage of a woman's life, pregnancy. It is a reflection on Erika's personal journey, her ecstatic home-birth story, as well as the importance of embodiment to experience your pregnancy from within, from your womb, recognizing your connection with its power and its wisdom. 

"Celebrating is a practice that I invite you to do on a regular basis because it changes your mind focus and your perception and worldview. It elevates your brain chemicals and puts you in a state of being like high vibe."

In this episode:

Erika shares her celebrations on becoming a mother of two and the profound journey of pregnancy and motherhood

Erika's experience with her first and second pregnancy

An invitation to reclaim and share your birth stories and positive experiences to inspire other women.

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community –Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group

Follow and reach out on IG

Sign up for the fantastic Embodied & Sensual email series where you’ll receive five amazing and powerful yet super simple practices

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In this episode of Yes, Please, Lisa is here to share the story of how she redefined her sexuality after becoming a mother and facing a waning sex drive. She restructured her mindset and resuscitated her pussy and her sexuality so that she would want to have sex and BE an erotic and sexual woman again. What started as a project to rekindle her sexual life, ended up as a personal discovery journey and a way to express herself while helping other women do the same. 

Lisa is the creator of Please Pinch Me Hard, multilingual, mother of two, wife, and author of erotica that is full of empowering and unspoken truths. If you had told Lisa, having children would leave her with no sex drive and imminent divorce, she wouldn’t have believed you. If you had told her that writing a book with naughty stories would save her, she also wouldn’t have believed you. But never say never! Lisa completely restructured her lifestyle and redefined her sexuality. In the process, she began writing short, erotic stories. And now? It’s what makes her thrive and separates the woman from the mum.

Humans are sexual and we crave sex-iness.

The first step to embracing our sexual identity is to recognize that it is a normal and natural part of being human and that we all have sexual desires and needs. There is nothing wrong with wanting to explore them, however, it is no secret that our society has complicated our relationship with our bodies and with sex and sexuality. Too often, we are taught to be ashamed of our sexual desires and to keep them hidden away. This is especially true for women, who are expected to be demure. But it doesn’t have to be this way. 

When it comes to pleasure and arousal, the brain is key, but it will also be key to maintaining desire in a long-term relationship. To create a heightened level of arousal, the brain needs to be in “sex mode.” One way to get the brain into this mode is through self-seduction. This can be done through activities such as shopping for lingerie, watching porn, and reading erotica.

Now add pregnancy and motherhood on top of that.

When couples become parents, it is easy to become overwhelmed with the demands of parenting, but the relationship is still important, it is the foundation of the family so communication and intimacy should be a priority. Intimacy does not always have to lead to sex. Intimacy can be a powerful tool for couples to connect and stay close and explore your body and needs in a safe environment. 

Lastly, in this episode, you will learn why it is important to take the time to be selfish. To reconnect with your body, to explore what feels good, to pleasure yourself, and to focus on yourself, even as a mother!

In this episode:

Reclaiming the sexual identity

Rediscovering sexuality as a mother. 

Intimacy and connection with your partner

Fueling your sex drive with erotica and other stimuli.

How having time for yourself and pleasure will help you have partnered pleasure.

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

Follow and reach out on IG:https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

Links and Resources

Learn more about Slut Academy, watch wonderful testimonial videos from women in the course, and sign up here!: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy

Lisa's website: https://pleasepinchmehard.com

Lisa's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pleasepinchmehard/ 

Get her book here: https://pleasepinchmehard.com/give-it-to-me/

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Do you want to know how the body can help you connect to truth and truthfulness within your present experience and break free from old patterns of thought and behavior and live your life by design? Then you can't miss this conversation between two EMBODIED teachers, talking about the importance of connecting with your body, embracing your emotions and embody your spiritual self. 

Eva Beronius is a Self-Mastery and Transformational Teacher who helps people dismantle their old conditioning and unconscious belief systems to become the artists of their lives. She teaches group programs, leads in-person retreats, and coaches individual clients. She's the founder of the Embodied Self Mastery Community and you hear her in the Uncover YOU podcast.

The idea that we can create our own reality is a powerful one. We all have the potential to create the life we want, but it requires us to take action and to do the work and take a "going first" approach. Your old conditioning is often the result of your upbringing, environment, and experiences. It can be hard to recognize unhealthy patterns and to break free from them, but it is possible when you become aware of your thoughts, feelings, and reactions and are willing to challenge our beliefs. 

One of the most important aspects of this work is to embody your sensuality and connect to your body and emotions in a more meaningful way, so that you can tap into your vitality, aliveness, and connection with life itself.

Liberation and empowerment come from within, and involve recognizing and understanding your own power, as well as your own limitations, by engaging in practices that help you walk this path and uncover ALL your possibilities. 

In this episode:

The importance of deprogramming the mind

Why should you embrace your emotions 

The importance of understanding men and of men themselves

Collective wounding 

Observing your mind

The flow of energy and spiritual connection. 

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group

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Sign up to receive the BEST and most beautiful newsletter on the planet here

Resources and links

Learn more about Slut Academy, watch wonderful testimonial videos from women in course and sign up here!

Eva's Website: https://selfmasteryandbeyond.com/

Eva's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evaberonius/

Eva's Podcast: https://selfmasteryandbeyond.com/the-uncover-you-podcast/

Alchemy of Heartbreak course (try for free): https://selfmasteryandbeyond.com/heartbreak/

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Do you want to learn about the most powerful and transformational vortex of female sexuality, expansion, and identity liberation? Tune in and find out where can women come together to reclaim their sexuality, no.fucks.given. Whatever you want your sexual identity to be and regardless of where you are at right now, you can have it. You can become more confident, have more pleasure, become orgasmic, expand your orgasmic capacity, and have more and better sex, find your identity after having children, feel more confident in dating and all areas of your life.

If you feel held back or that there is a glass ceiling to your sexuality and the way you live it, or if you want more of all the good experiences you are already having because you know there is so much more available to you, Slut Academy is a powerful experience.

In this container, you can work on your limiting beliefs, your thought programs, your inner child and heal emotional wounds through high-value coaching and high-quality content, including practices and weekly live calls. But you also, dance, manifest, and use pussy magic to achieve the next level of sexual liberation. More importantly, you could have a lot of fun for four months in the most encouraging, kind, compassionate, and supportive community of women on the planet.

Sluts Unite!

In this episode:

How, when, and WHY Slut Academy was born

What is Slut Academy

What results have women experienced in Slut Academy

What to expect and what you get when you join Slut Academy

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group

Follow and reach out on IG

Sign up to receive the BEST and most beautiful newsletter on the planet here

Link's and resources: 

Join Slut Academy

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