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When you are radical and bold with your sexual energy, and you conduct yourself from that sexyness, you inevitably attract people’s energy, you become magnetic, but there are certain moments when you could feel nervous, scared, intimidated and, in general, unsafe with the type of attention that it is been given to you. While there is a valid reason to feel that way, you can build resilience and strength, and program your nervous system to protect yourself and your energy. 

As you start to work on your pleasure and your sexuality, and you start feeling energetically gorgeous, your behavior changes not only in the bedroom but in all areas of your life. You emanate a type of energy that is irresistibly attractive to men and women and they start to respond to how you move, how you talk, how you behave and how you carry yourself in general. If you are starting this journey, know that all this doesn’t have to be a reason for you to stop discovering, enjoying and showing up as the sexual, sensual adult woman that you are. Your transformation is magical, fun and relevant, so remember, you get to choose how you show up. 

From visualizations to personal defense, in this episode inspired by a follower, Erika shares with you six strategies to feel more confident, empowered and in control of how you react to the world around you, so that you can decide for yourself and choose how you want to be perceived and how you really want to do with and respond to the attention you get. 

“When we want to transform anything in our lives, but specifically when it comes to sexuality because it can be so connected to deep fear, deep conditioning, strong emotions like shame, etc., and fear of consequences, right? It's important to know and ask yourself, ‘am I afraid of the result or am I afraid of the journey?’. Often times it’s one out of the two” [09:43 ]

“We can operate from the same kind of smallness or power dynamic or hierarchy as if we still were that little kid, that little girl with strangers or with other adults in life as an adult. So you have to make sure that you understand that ‘I am an adult now and I set my own rules, now I get to be the adult, now I am at the top of that hierarchy, now I am the one who is deciding what the consequences are, who gets to do what and I am sovereign and autonomous’ ”[14:55]

“How do I reject a suggestion from someone that I don’t know. Why do I care so much about a stranger’s feelings that I override my own authentic feeling and I completely disregard and ignore what my body and mind, and spirit and pussy are telling me?” [18:25]

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In this episode, Julia and Erika share about their personal and professional experiences as a coach to bring you a beautifully deep and raw conversation about pleasure, sex, sex and aging, and female power. Below are a few of the things they cover in this episode.  

Sex is not only about feeling the sensations, although that is an indivisible part of it. Your body is a vessel where the universe can channel, through your sex, very powerful energy that can make an immense impact in your life and in the life of the people around you. Julia, more than a coach, is a sex magician and she believes that when you allow yourself to deepen your sexuality and enjoy your pleasure at its full expression, you get access to sexual ecstasy and you can anchor to your erotic power to create your life from that magical place. 

Being a sensual woman, a lighthouse and a channel can put you in a vulnerable position, the world and some of the other women are not going to feel comfortable with you owning your erotic power and your wholeness, because it can be deeply triggering for them; and that can be painful for you. If to this potential conflict, you add the fact that mature women also shine their light and live their sensuality, you encounter a whole other trigger for people who hold themselves back: the fact that mature women also get to shine their light, show, and enjoy their sensuality, and harness their erotic power. 

So how can you live as your sensual and erotic self, enjoy your sexuality and leverage your sexual power? In this episode Erika and Julia reflect on their own journeys as embodied teachers, to share with you a word of acceptance and surrender that could help you ease the doubts and discomfort that comes with standing on your sexual power and living your truth. 

“But eventually, like, as you get access to your sensations, and you, you're more comfortable in your body and all the things that you were talking about, and you teach, that vessel starts to open. And so then the inevitable question is, well, it's all coming in from the universe. Where's it going? You know, where do I take this? Who's going to feel it? What impact that can have and maybe that's one of the reasons why female sexuality is so controlled repress. blardy blardy blar because you No, we're all conditioned to keep our vessels tiny. And then we have no impact.”[9.25]

“Because of that, you know, that beautiful flow of energy. So, like you said that doesn’t change as you age, you can still light up a room with your eros. It’s very subtle, it’s not kind of particularly out there, but you can see people respond.” [39.24]

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07: Fuck ageism – you can age AND sexually thrive!

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 Everyday sensuality is so valuable. Through this series, you will find guidance and inspiration to experience sensuality in your everyday life without anything super fancy and without anything external, just by creating moments of feminine delight through your senses. 

In the first episode of the series, you will learn how to transform your everyday shower into a deeply sensual experience that will allow you to connect with yourself from within and literally make that moment more sensual and pleasurable, AND that connection with yourself will eventually make your life better by just being present, and nothing else.

Connecting with yourself and your senses is available to you at all times. An everyday task, like a shower, is something we usually perform in automatic, but by taking a moment to be present, feel the sensations on your body, smell yourself and your beauty products, listen to the sounds, looking at your lathered skin, all that can shift the way you start or finish your day and, ultimately how you experience your life. 

Sensuality as the gratification of the senses can transform both your everyday life and your sexuality, the key is perception, focus, and intention. So for this sensual shower, you're not going to do anything physically different, you will just shower while being profoundly present and deeply connected to your senses and see how that shifts your experience of taking a shower. Suppose you decide to make this a regular practice. In that case, everyday sensuality will shift something within allowing you to expand your capacity to be with that from within and this will take ALL your experiences to the next level. Enjoy!

"Everyday sensuality is so valuable. It is in a way the art of a feminine delight. It's what makes life better and more enjoyable. Without anything super fancy without anything external. It is an experience or within. It's an experience that is available to you at all times. And I will tell you how to do it so that you can make your life better" [03:15]

Learn how everyday sensuality can up level your everyday life

Learn how a daily task can help you connect with yourself through your senses

Explore the ways you can transform a regular shower into a deeply sensual experience and into an expression of self-love.

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Episode 11: Sensuality vs Sexuality

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When you are mindfully connected to your senses, you absorb the world around you through your sensuality. Every moment of your day can be a sensual and pleasurable experience, including your sexuality. 

In this episode we will break down and analyze these two words, to inspire you and encourage you to explore your own sexuality, sex, and sexiness from the perspective of sensuality. Regardless of size, age, color, and other stereotypical concepts, you can cultivate and embody sensuality and FEEL happy, sexy, and fulfilled in a unique and personal way.

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In this episode Michelle Panning shares her vast knowledge regarding attachment styles and relationships. Michelle is an Intimacy Alchemist. She helps women get connected to themselves so they can experience real intimacy with men. She helps single women, women in relationships, situationships and everything in between. She is a self-proclaimed trigger queen and will help you go from feeling anxious and stressed about your love life to feeling confident, worthy and secure.

Join us to discover what it means to have a certain attachment style (or several) and build relationships with individuals who have similar or different attachment styles. We'll talk about how it may look like, how it may feel, and most importantly how you can hold yourself through your relationships and your life.

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In this episode, instead of sharing with you a long, in-depth and super juicy episode, I want you to listen to a short and powerful, positive sex mantra.

Sometimes all it takes to recalibrate and come home to your own body is to take a moment to connect with yourself.  I trust this powerful message will reach the part of you that needs to hear it. 

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Yes, my love, you can actively and all by yourself, increase your experience of sexual turn-on and desire. Getting turned on is not spontaneous and it is not always easy, but it doesn’t have to be an uphill road all the time! You can create a state of being that is ready to experience more sexual turn-on AND more sexual satisfaction when you desire it. 

In this episode, I share five essential tools to focus on regularly to maintain and cultivate sexual turn-on, I guarantee you that they work, but you have to get hands-on, pun intended. 

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Ageism, in general, is so detrimental but when it comes to sexuality, it can shut you down. It can prevent you from enjoying pleasure during each and every stage of your life. It holds you back with limiting beliefs like “I am too old for…” which by the way are almost never true.

In this episode I will share with you my perspective on aging. Aging doesn’t need to be gloom and doom, in fact, your sexual life keeps getting more interesting and sassy, if you allow yourself to embody pleasure and sensuality throughout your life.

Being youthful is a type of energy and it is attractive, and you, my friend, can cultivate it through pleasure.

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In this episode, I’m aiming to inspire you to both reprioritize sexuality in your life as something important, and also reframe or change your mindset around what it means to be productive. Today, many of us have the technology we “need” to help us with our lives so that we can free up time. How do you invest that time? Self-care, including sexual self-care, is important and it directly impacts your relational well-being and your romantic relationship(s). Let’s explore how you value productivity in your life and how that affects your well-being and specifically your sexual well-being.

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Understanding your arousal states and systems can have a life-changing effect on your ability to get turned on! Arousal is really two processes that work together – providing gradually increasing stimulation for the accelerators, and getting rid of everything your brakes might respond to, which includes physical, emotional, and social risks. In this episode, we will explore these processes so that you can understand them and work with them in a powerful way.

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