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You’re not in control of your teen—and that’s actually the best news ever.

In this episode, Ben and Cortni dive deep into what happens when parents try to control their teens and why it almost always backfires. Drawing from the book Leadership and Self-Deception, they unpack the idea of “being in the box” and how it shows up in family life.

You’ll hear real stories about morning workouts, teenage excuses, and even tacos—all tied to one powerful truth: you can’t control your teen, but you can control you.

When you stop trying to manage every decision your teen makes and instead focus on your own thoughts, emotions, and actions, something amazing happens. You become a calm, confident leader. You show up as the parent you want to be. And your teen starts to respond differently—because you’re different.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, frustrated, or powerless in your parenting, this episode will help you find freedom in letting go and peace in leading with love and awareness.

🎧 Tune in to learn how to:

• Spot self-deception and get out of “the box”
• Lead your teen without trying to control them
• Build trust and influence through your example
• Bring more peace, connection, and joy into your home

It’s time to stop trying to control your teen—and start becoming the kind of parent they actually want to follow.

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Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free.

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