What if the very systems you’ve been told will set your child up for success are actually programming them for lifelong victimhood & dependence? 

In this episode, I’m talking with Dr. Tom Cowan about the deeper forces shaping parental decision-making. We dive into unschooling, natural parenting, and the socially conditioned beliefs that make parenting much harder than it needs to be. We also discuss Tom’s new book, Common Sense Child Rearing: Unconventional Wisdom for a Nourished Childhood, and why curiosity is your best ally as a parent. 

Tune in to learn how to decondition yourself from fear-based parenting, why forced learning backfires, and how you understand your child’s behavior while truly connecting with them. 

Chapters:

(00:00) Start

(03:45) Introduction to Dr. Tom Cowan’s work

(04:01) Reframing the societal belief that parenting must be difficult

(15:32) Why overcoming personal difficulties is essential for children to grow into strong individuals

(20:43) Tom Cowan explains why helicopter parenting is a recipe for raising weak children

(28:47) Children learn through osmosis and copying their parents' behavior

(32:28) Debunking the myth that children don’t remember their birth

(35:12) Why you can’t dictate the “right way” for your children to live

(38:28) How to understand your child’s behavior and truly connect with them

(45:24) Tom Cowan's approach to healing the parent-child divide

(49:49) The impact of medical interventions during pregnancy and birth on the nuclear family

(56:10) How early schooling can undermine a child’s sense of individuality

(01:02:28) Why forced learning fails to produce lasting results

(01:08:38) Curiosity is the best teacher

(01:14:14) Understanding why your child is rebelling at school

Check out Tom Cowan’s new book: Commonsense Childrearing: Unconventional Wisdom for a Nourished Childhood

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