Do you want to be a badass but can’t get out of your own way?

 

Do you want a different life but can’t seem to break on through to the other side?

 

Guest, Amy Ahlers, gives you the tools to be the fantastic, empowered woman you want to be.

 

Amy is the best selling author of Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves and Creator of Inner Mean Girl Reform School. Amy is a certified life coach, who has been in the business for 17 years, her podcast, Momma Truth is inspirational. Amy’s mission is to stop women from being hard on themselves and cultivate the courage to follow their inner wisdom.

 

Why Do Women Bully Themselves? [4:45]

 

Women are harder on themselves than anyone else is on them. The meanest girl is the voice inside our own heads. She is brutal as she compares your worst to everyone else's best, she demands perfection and tells you - you are too fat, skinny, tall, etc. Her volume needs to be turned down. 

 

At age 6 to 7, is when inner dialogue begins and when our inner mean girl is born.

 

You can not kill off your inner mean girl but you can turn down her volume!

 

The 13 Inner Mean Girl Archetypes [9:33]

 

There are 13 Inner Mean Girl archetypes. Not every inner mean girl is mean, some are very, very sneaky.

 

Is your Inner Mean Girl one of these?

 

The Comparison Queen

The Achievement Junkie

The Good Girl

The Rejection Queen

The Perfectionist

 

Find the 8 other Inner Mean Girl Archetypes in Amy’s book, Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves.

 

Draw and name your Inner Mean Girl.

 

How to Turn Down the Volume of Your Inner Mean Girl [25:36]

 

The goal of turning down your Inner Mean Girl’s voice is to find and nurture the voice of your inner wisdom.   

 

Play the Best Case/Worst Case Scenario Game:

1. a. Ask yourself, “What is the worst thing that can happen if I accept a date? How likely is it to happen?” then, “What's the best thing that can happen?” and “Is it worth the risk?”

   2.    The Wake Up Call 3-Step Process:

a. Ask yourself, “What is my inner mean girl saying?”

b. Close your eyes, take a deep breathe and ask your inner wisdom for guidance.

c. Repeat back your inner wisdom's truth while doing a physical gesture.

Your inner wisdom always tells you the truth.

Men Have Inner Meanies Too [34:36]

Men are hard on themselves too. They are just as nervous to go on a date as you are. The #1 things men are hard on themselves about is financial concerns. They don't want to be a loser.

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