Why does pain sometimes feel so damn good? And what actually makes a scene hot instead of just… well, hurt?

In this episode, I’m diving deep into the delicious world of sadism and masochism — and the three ingredients that make it work: power, attention, and surrender.

I just got back from Brisbane, where I got to do another rope scene with Deadmaxis (and yes, I asked him to show me a bit more of his mean side 😈). I also went to Miss Gen’s 10-year shibari anniversary cabaret, which was honestly breathtaking. Seeing those performances — including one by Kazami Ranki himself — gave me so much to think (and feel!) about when it comes to the psychology of pain and kink.

In this episode, I share what I discovered about:

• Why power and vulnerability create such intense erotic charge.
• How attention — not just pain — is the secret sauce behind hot S&M.
• What surrender really feels like and what makes it possible.
• Why teasing, torment, and fear can actually feel incredible.

If you’ve ever wondered how S&M can feel loving, connected, and insanely sexy all at once — this one’s for you.

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