Deep Within with Marina Triner, The Compassionate Somatic Coach

108: The Fixer / Rescuer / Helper in Relationships: My Story


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Have you ever found yourself drawn to people who are “projects”? Do you tend to over-function in relationships, always fixing, rescuing, or holding everything together?

In this vulnerable and powerful solo episode, I share my personal journey of becoming the fixer—how this survival strategy took root in my childhood, shaped my romantic and platonic relationships, and ultimately became an addiction rooted in trauma. From love addiction to burnout, I unpack the emotional cost of over-responsibility and the path I took to begin healing, feeling, and reclaiming myself.

This episode is for you if:

  • You constantly attract emotionally unavailable or chaotic partners

  • You feel responsible for other people’s healing or happiness

  • You’ve lost yourself in trying to be “the helper”

  • You're ready to stop managing relationships and start being in them

We’ll explore how early trauma teaches us to fix, why it becomes so addictive, and how to begin shifting these patterns somatically—with compassion, not shame.


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Top Episode Quotes:

“Fixing became a way to numb the pain of my childhood.”

“If you don’t show yourself, what are people going to see?”

“Being the helper isn’t love—it’s a role we play to feel safe.”

“I wasn’t in the relationship. I was managing it.”


fixer in relationships, rescuer complex, love addiction, trauma healing, cptsd recovery, nervous system regulation, somatic healing, childhood trauma, people pleasing, emotional codependency, trauma-informed healing, attachment wounds, healing relationships, helper syndrome, inner child healing


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