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The constant focus on things and people outside of your control is draining. I spent too many years of my life in this vicious cycle of external focus and validation, leaving me feeling like a fragmented, boundaryless version of myself. But all that changed with recovery. 

This week on the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I am sharing the recording of a guest appearance I did with the international recovery community, Friendly Circle Berlin. I share my story of codependency, how ACA and OA shaped my healing, why emotional sobriety is the centerpiece of my life, and five ways to keep the focus on yourself so you can create internal safety from the inside out. 

The five takeaways I go over in this episode include:

1. Shift your focus to what you can control. 
2. Practice the power of self-inquiry. 
3. Mind your own business (and seek consent).
4. Identify and own your feelings. 
5. Pour from the overflow. 

You are not shattered; you are whole. The key to lasting emotional sobriety is caring more about what you think of yourself than what others think of you. Start today by choosing integrity over people-pleasing. 

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!

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Self-care is the very first personal boundary. It's the essential line between you and burnout, between you and your old perfectionism, and between you and the belief that your self-worth depends on what you produce. Many of us intellectually understand the need for self-care, but when we see it as a non-negotiable boundary, the entire game changes. In this week's episode 326 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing jaw-dropping transformation stories from clients and revealing why self-care is the hardest, yet most sacred, boundary to set.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

• Why self-care is the most difficult boundary, especially for those prone to perfectionism and over-functioning.
• How simple shifts in self-care (like taking a full lunch break or not working weekends) create massive emotional change.
• Real-life stories of mothers who finally stopped enabling their adult sons by setting hard financial and physical boundaries.
• The ripple effect of new boundaries, leading to grounded conversations and a renewed commitment to personal truth in marriage and family.
• The central thread: Boundaries are about creating emotional safety inside yourself, not about control or punishment of others.

You don't have to stay stuck in the cycle of fixing, rescuing, and over-functioning. The moment you learn to take care of yourself first, you show up from peace, not panic, and everything else begins to align. Are you ready to treat self-care as your most sacred boundary?

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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The bulldozer cycle, in relation to people pleasing, is the concept of feeling perpetually flattened by the demands and needs of others, trapped in a hidden cycle that leads to burnout and frustration. I’ll be the first to admit that setting healthy boundaries that lead to healing is hard but choosing to stay stuck in the never-ending cycle is harder. You’ve got to pick your poison. In this week’s episode 325 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m teaching you how to go from flattened to free, escaping the bulldozer cycle. 

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

• The meaning of the “bulldozer cycle” and how it affects relationships.
• The difference between being bulldozed and being a bulldozer (even in subtle ways).
• The importance of self-awareness and responsibility in breaking unhealthy patterns.
• Practical steps for setting boundaries and regulating your nervous system.
• Inspirational questions to reflect on your own patterns of being bulldozed or bulldozing others.

You don’t have to stay flattened or bulldoze others to feel safe. With courage and the right tools, you can stand tall in your own dignity and create healthier, more authentic relationships. Ready to take the next step? Explore my resources at higherpowercc.com, or book a call to see if private coaching is right for you. 

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ 

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Too many of us get caught up in perfectionism, thinking that we have to meet every requirement before we're worthy and not to put ourselves out there until we're certain we won't fail. In my case, I was caught up in believing I was “too much” until one day, I came to the realization that the very things I thought were “too much” about me were the things that made me successful. So if you’ve ever hesitated to apply for something because you didn’t tick every single box, or if you worry that you’re “too much,” this episode is for you. 

This week, on episode 324 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about why experience matters more than credentials (and how to own yours)!

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how perfectionism and self-doubt can hold you back from pursuing opportunities and how to identify and leverage your own patterns, both positive and negative, to build a more authentic and fulfilling professional identity. 

Your patterns tell the truth about who you are. Change the ones that hold you back, highlight the ones that move you forward, and trust that you are more qualified than you think. Take the next step—reflect on your work history, own your strengths, and step confidently into new opportunities!

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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Victim mentality shows up in all areas of our lives, but when it pops up in the workplace, it can derail an entire team of people and quietly take control over the workplace. Today, I want to peel back the curtain on how the victim role can take charge, shifting the focus from what really matters and what you can do to keep your team focused and empowered.

This week’s episode 323 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how the victim role hijacks workplace meetings (and what to do instead). 

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how the victim role shows up in workplace scenarios and can take control of group dynamics, and 5 actionable steps you can take to address the situation to foster healthier, more productive workplace interactions. 

Everyone can fall into the victim role at times, but with awareness and the right tools, you can shift the energy in your team meetings and help your team thrive! For more strategies on handling tricky workplace dynamics, check out my upcoming workshop, Beyond Burnout: Setting Boundaries at Work That Stick, on September 18, 2025!

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ 

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GETTING OUT OF VICTIM MENTALITY EPISODES

Ep #3 Victim Mentality (8 min)

Ep #106 How to Overcome Victim Mentality Even If You've Been Victimized (15 min)

Ep # 126 How Understanding Your Part in Things Brings You Out of Victim Mentality (15 min)

Ep. #152 How to Stop Taking Things Personally and Come Out of Victim Mentality (14 min)

Ep. #172 Seven Steps to Coming Out of Victim Mentality (21 min)

Ep #176 What Is the Dreaded Drama Triangle and How to Get Out of It (19 min)

Ep. 223 How Building Boundaries Helps You Overcome Victim Mentality and Unrealistic Expectations

Ep. 266. How to Stop Victimizing Yourself and Reclaim Your Power (23 min)

Ep. 313 How to Go from Victim Mentality to Empowered Living – You Have Choices

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The beginning of the school year is a difficult time for teachers and parents alike. Volunteer and extra curricular requests come in, calendars fill up, and before you know it, you’ve reached your capacity and your calendar is in chaos. Today, I want to give you a head start to set yourself up for a peaceful school year, protecting your time, energy, and sanity. This week’s episode 322 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about back to school, not back to chaos: 5 scripts for sanity this fall!

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing 5 scripts to help you set boundaries around information, requests, and obligations that come in this school year, and a new metaphor for healthy boundaries: your personal “weather pattern”.

Here are the scripts:

1. Reset and transition boundaries: We’re doing a slow start to the year—adding one thing at a time
2.  Academic and volunteer boundary: I’m not available to volunteer this semester, but I wish you a successful event 
3. Communication boundary: Please contact me via email instead of text for anything school-related
4. Social and peer boundaries: I’m not discussing other people’s kids—that’s private.
5. Mental and emotional boundary: I won’t be sacrificing my sleep for school-related stress anymore.

The back-to-school season doesn’t have to be chaotic. When you practice setting boundaries, you set yourself up for a peaceful semester ahead!

Don’t forget to sign up for my Back to School, Back to Sanity boundaries workshop for parents and teachers on August 28, 2025!

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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The reason we have rules of the road is because they're social boundaries. They exist to prevent harm, to reduce accidents and to create flow.  When everyone keeps the focus on themselves, staying in their lane, following the rules, respecting others, boundaries, things run much more smoothly. These rules translate very well to social and emotional boundaries. Today, I'm going to walk you through some of the most common rules of the road and how they map onto the concept of boundaries and life.

This week’s episode 314 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why boundaries are the rules of the road for life!

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how traffic rules mirror personal boundaries, what happens when these boundaries are ignored, and what we can do to respect them.

Just like learning to drive, boundary setting takes practice—it's about awareness, not perfection. By treating your personal boundaries like the rules of the road, you can move through life with the calm, clarity, and control of a skilled driver.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

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Kelly Walker's story today is a powerful reminder that "the planets align" when we commit to our healing journey, even when it's terrifying.This week’s episode 320of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about when the planets align!

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, Kelly Walker shares her experience with a profound spiritual awakening after years of sobriety and emphasizes that sobriety alone isn't enough; spiritual living and untangling past issues are crucial.

Some of the talking points Kelly and I go over in this episode include:

• How setting boundaries is not just about saying "no," but about developing the emotional and psychological capacity to be with yourself, withstand difficult feelings, and manage pushback from others.
• Understanding the vital role of connecting with and reparenting your inner child for true healing and self-compassion.
• Incorporating practices like Kundalini yoga can facilitate deep healing by helping to move energy, promote awareness, and connect you with your body and breath.
• Embracing authenticity in relationships to honor your true desires, capacity for intimacy, and need for honesty with yourself.

If you're ready to stop feeling fragmented and start building a life of wholeness, this episode is for you. What steps can you take today to honor your inner child and set healthier boundaries?

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ 

Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

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What we believe is real becomes real in its consequences. And when our beliefs are negative, self-depricating, or otherwise limiting, they can create barriers in our lives. But when we rewire our brains and our beliefs shift, our behavior also shifts. This week’s episode 319 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why mindset matters more than you think: boundaries, recovery, and belief! 

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of defining our limiting beliefs and actionable steps you can take right now to rewire your brain away from them. 

Your mindset is your most powerful tool for transformation. What single limiting belief are you ready to challenge today? Start by identifying its opposite and begin seeking evidence for your new truth.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ 

Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

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David Bayer’s podcast A Changed Mind and his book A Changed Mind

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One of the most common themes I see in my clients (and something I have experienced myself) is that we literally feel other people’s feelings. We’re permeable to them because we don’t have a boundary. This week’s episode 318 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to go from permeable to protected- building an emotional force field. 

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how, through setting healthy boundaries, you can create an energetic force field that keeps you from absorbing other people’s emotions and protects your inner peace!

If you're tired of feeling overwhelmed by others' emotions and ready to create meaningful boundaries, this episode is your first step towards emotional freedom. Take a moment to reflect on your own emotional patterns and consider how setting healthy boundaries can transform your life, one intentional choice at a time.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!

Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ 

Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!

After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...

*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries

*Know how to communicate directly with people

*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"

*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated

*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that

*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful

*Come closer to realizing your authentic identity

Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call

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