Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

By Barb Nangle

Tired of feeling fragmented and overwhelmed? Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12-Step Recovery is your guide to creating a life of wholeness, authenticity, and healthy boundaries. Join Barb N

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Number 1: How to Stop Being a Corporate Chameleon and Set Better Boundaries at Work | Episode 368
Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 368 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about the “corporate chameleon”—the version of ourselves we create at work when we’re constantly adapting to what we think other people need, expect, or want from us. I explore how behaviors like being dependable, accommodating, helpful, and willing to go above and beyond can look like healthy professionalism while actually being driven by fear, insecurity, or the need to prove that we belong. The problem isn’t doing excellent work. It’s using our usefulness as a way to earn our place. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:How being praised for going above and beyond can make unhealthy workplace patterns difficult to recognizeThe difference between healthy adaptability and changing yourself to fit what you think the room requiresWhy taking responsibility for other people’s feelings and work can become a boundary problemHow pretending to know, refusing to ask for help, and trying to be indispensable can create a professional facadeHow to stay connected to yourself while still being dependable, collaborative, and excellent at your workRecovery taught me that I didn’t need to stop being dependable, caring, generous, or willing to take initiative. I needed to disentangle those qualities from fear and stop using excellent work as currency to purchase belonging. Ordinary professional statements: “I don’t know, but I can find out.” “I need some clarification before I proceed.” “I can help with this part, but I can’t take responsibility for the entire thing.” “I don’t have the capacity to add that unless we change another priority.” “I think that decision belongs with you.” Questions to ask yourself: What does that version of you believe she must never need, admit, say, or feel? What responsibilities are you carrying because you’re afraid of what might happen if you put them down? Where are you trying to appear confident instead of allowing yourself to learn? Where are you being helpful because you genuinely want to help, and where are you making yourself indispensable so you can feel secure? The next time you feel yourself starting to change colors, pause and ask: “What is actually true for me right now?” Healthy professionalism | The corporate chameleon pattern Adapting how you communicate | Changing what you think to match the room Helping a colleague | Carrying their responsibilities Learning what you don’t know | Pretending you already know Using discretion | Maintaining a facade Being dependable | Believing you must be indispensable Asking appropriate questions | Hiding uncertainty to avoid exposure This episode is an invitation to notice who you become when you go to work. You don’t have to become less excellent or stop contributing. The goal is to know that you already belong before you prove anything. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE Welcome to Holland by Emily Perl Kingsley CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
September 07, 202624min
Number 2: Different Doesn’t Mean Worse: How to Learn to Live Where You Are | Episode 367
Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 367 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m exploring what happens when life takes us somewhere different from where we thought we were going—and why different doesn’t automatically mean worse. Using Emily Perl Kingsley’s Welcome to Holland metaphor as a starting point, I talk about the experience of grieving the life we expected while learning to notice what is possible in the life we actually have. Whether the transition involves a child leaving home, retirement, a relationship ending, a career change, a move, or another unexpected shift, we often see what we’re losing long before we can see what we might gain. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why we so quickly equate change with lossHow uncertainty can make familiar—even unhealthy—patterns feel saferWhy unfamiliar doesn’t mean dangerous, and familiar doesn’t necessarily mean safeHow routines can help us learn to live in a new chapterWhy you can grieve what you left behind while still becoming curious about what comes nextYou can choose a new chapter and still grieve the old one. Grief isn’t evidence that you made the wrong decision, and discomfort isn’t necessarily evidence that something has gone wrong. Sometimes it’s simply what it feels like to be somewhere you haven’t learned how to live yet. This episode is an invitation to resist deciding too quickly that your new reality is worse than the one you imagined. You can plan to go to Italy, land in Holland instead, miss Italy, but still notice the tulips in Holland, and love them too. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE Welcome to Holland by Emily Perl Kingsley CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
August 31, 202615min
Number 3: Why Transitions Change How You See Yourself (and Why That’s a Good Thing) | Episode 366
Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 366 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about why some of the biggest transitions in our lives also become turning points in how we see ourselves. Transitions aren’t just about changing routines, schedules, jobs, relationships, or where we live. They can change our identity. In this episode, I reflect on several transitions in my own life—from graduate school and moving to New Haven to recovery—and what each one taught me about who I was becoming. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why transitions are really about identity, not just routinesHow a perceived lack of ability can sometimes be a mismatch of values insteadThe different ways recovery changed how I saw myselfHow boundaries reinforce the person you’re becoming and build self-trustWhy you don’t need to have a perfect plan during a transition—you need to stay connected to yourselfI also share how my upcoming transition into working part-time while continuing to run my coaching business is making me think differently about identity, routines, and what it means to become someone new. This episode is a reminder that transitions can reveal strengths you didn’t know you had, show you identities you’ve outgrown, and help you discover that something you thought you wanted may not actually be what you want. So if you’re in the middle of a transition right now, maybe the question isn’t simply, “How do I get through this?” Maybe the better question is: “Who is this transition inviting me to become?” Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
August 24, 202614min
Number 4: From Fragmented to Flow: How Letting Go Became My Business and My Life with Guest Shaun Enright | Episode 365
Send us Fan Mail This is my 365th episode! That means you could literally listen to one episode per day for an entire year! In this week’s episode 365 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m joined by Shaun Enright, who shares his experience, strength, and hope of recovery and how learning to let go changed both his life and his business. Shaun shares how he went from running a successful seven-figure business while struggling behind the scenes, to recognizing that alcohol was a problem, entering 12-step recovery, and learning to surrender control. He also explains how those lessons eventually became the foundation for the work he now does helping entrepreneurs and professionals let go of stress, fear, and the need to control everything. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Shaun’s journey from outward success and inner struggle into 12-step recoveryWhy letting go of control and surrender became such an important part of his healingHow his relationship with a higher power changed his understanding of responsibility and controlHow recovery helped him rebuild his business and create a new life centered around helping othersThe “FLOW” framework he developed to help people feel, acknowledge, choose, and let go in moments of stressShaun also shares how he went from being deeply in debt and trying to carry everything himself to rebuilding his finances, creating a new business, and building a family life he describes as wonderful. This episode is ultimately about hope. Shaun has lived through the difficult parts he talks about, and his story is a reminder that even when you can't see a way forward, change is possible. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE Shaun Enright, Coach and Podcaster, Founder and CEO of Zenright Life. Shaun helps founder-led service businesses turn selling into a calm, consistent growth system—so revenue becomes predictable without pressure, gimmicks, or chasing. Listen to Shaun’s podcast “Drop the Stress, Not the Ball” Follow Shaun on LinkedIn On Instagram On Facebook on his Zenright Living page Other links we discussed: NLP - Neuro-linguistic Programming info David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D. is the person who created the Levels of Vibration by Type of Emotion graphic Shaun and I discussed. CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
August 18, 202641min
Number 5: Why Making Decisions Feels So Unsafe and How to Trust Yourself Anyway | Episode 362
Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 362 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about why so many people struggle to make decisions—and why the real issue often isn’t a lack of information. It’s a lack of internal safety. Many of us spend hours weighing options, asking for advice, researching every possibility, and trying to predict the outcome before making a choice. But no decision-making method can guarantee that no one will be disappointed, that you'll never regret your choice, or that life will unfold exactly as you hope. This episode explores what it means to trust yourself even when certainty isn’t possible. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why decision-making is often an internal safety issue rather than a lack of informationThe difference between reflection and ruminationHow self-trust means staying on your own side after making a decisionWhy you're allowed to change your mind as new information becomes availablePractical questions to help you make decisions without abandoning yourselfI also revisit several ideas from Episode 171 on decision-making and explain how my understanding of self-trust has evolved over the years. This episode is a reminder that the goal isn't to make the perfect decision. The goal is to become someone who can stay connected to yourself through uncertainty, learn from what unfolds, and make adjustments when needed. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
July 27, 202622min