Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

By Barb Nangle

Tired of feeling fragmented and overwhelmed? Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12-Step Recovery is your guide to creating a life of wholeness, authenticity, and healthy boundaries. Join Barb N

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Number 1: One Last Hit with Austin Rampt | Episode 370
Send us Fan Mail In this week's episode 370 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm talking with Austin Rampt about addiction, recovery, shame, vulnerability, and the deep human need for connection. Austin shares his incredible journey from believing he had to achieve to be worthy of love, through years of addiction and relapse, to finally learning that he didn't have to perform, hide, or become someone else to belong. Some of the talking points we go over in this episode include:How Austin learned early in life to connect achievement with worthiness, and how that belief followed him into addiction, business, relationships, and even sobriety.Why knowing the language of recovery isn't the same as doing the work, especially when no one is watching.The moment Austin began questioning his belief that he had to earn love, and how vulnerability led to the connection he'd been seeking all along.How taking ownership of the parts of his story he once considered unforgivable allowed him to separate who he is from what he's done.Why self-approval, honest connection, and letting go of control are such important parts of recovery and emotional freedom.You don't have to keep proving your worth, hiding the messy parts of yourself, or becoming who you think other people want you to be. Austin's story is a powerful reminder that the very thing we're often most afraid to do, let people really see us, can be the thing that finally gives us the connection we've been looking for. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don't forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE CONNECT WITH AUSTIN RAMPT: Podcast: https://onelasthitbook.com/podcast/ Book: https://onelasthitbook.com Sobriety Talk - The Best Sobriety Podcasts, Ranked by the Recovery Community: https://sobrietytalk.com/ Linkedin Facebook Instagram CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb! Book an Unshakable You Readiness Call
September 21, 202649min
Number 2: The Real Reason You Back Down After Setting a Boundary at Work | Episode 369
Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 369 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about why workplace boundaries often collapse—not because we don’t know what to say, but because of what happens inside us after we say it. Knowing how to set a boundary and being able to stay with it through discomfort are two completely different skills. I explore the sequence that can happen when we set a boundary: external pressure, an internal reaction such as guilt, fear, or self-doubt, and finally the urge to back down in order to make the discomfort go away. I also share a personal experience from my work life that helped me understand how easily I could abandon what I knew about my own capacity when someone else needed something from me. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why another person’s disappointment or pushback can feel like relational dangerHow boundary collapse can provide immediate relief while weakening self-trust over timeThe difference between responding to new information and changing your decision simply to make discomfort stopA practical process of pausing, orienting yourself to the present, and naming what is trueHow to identify what is yours, what isn’t yours, what support you need, and the next smallest safe actionThis episode is a reminder that you don’t have to become comfortable with someone else’s disappointment before you can hold a boundary. The goal isn’t to guarantee that another person will like your boundary—it’s to remain present long enough to make a conscious decision instead of letting anxiety make the decision for you. Because a boundary isn’t only the words you say to another person. It also includes what you do inside yourself after you say it. You don’t break a boundary because you’re weak; sometimes it simply doesn’t yet feel safe inside you to hold it. And that safety can be built. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
September 14, 202627min
Number 3: How to Stop Being a Corporate Chameleon and Set Better Boundaries at Work | Episode 368
Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 368 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about the “corporate chameleon”—the version of ourselves we create at work when we’re constantly adapting to what we think other people need, expect, or want from us. I explore how behaviors like being dependable, accommodating, helpful, and willing to go above and beyond can look like healthy professionalism while actually being driven by fear, insecurity, or the need to prove that we belong. The problem isn’t doing excellent work. It’s using our usefulness as a way to earn our place. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:How being praised for going above and beyond can make unhealthy workplace patterns difficult to recognizeThe difference between healthy adaptability and changing yourself to fit what you think the room requiresWhy taking responsibility for other people’s feelings and work can become a boundary problemHow pretending to know, refusing to ask for help, and trying to be indispensable can create a professional facadeHow to stay connected to yourself while still being dependable, collaborative, and excellent at your workRecovery taught me that I didn’t need to stop being dependable, caring, generous, or willing to take initiative. I needed to disentangle those qualities from fear and stop using excellent work as currency to purchase belonging. Ordinary professional statements: “I don’t know, but I can find out.” “I need some clarification before I proceed.” “I can help with this part, but I can’t take responsibility for the entire thing.” “I don’t have the capacity to add that unless we change another priority.” “I think that decision belongs with you.” Questions to ask yourself: What does that version of you believe she must never need, admit, say, or feel? What responsibilities are you carrying because you’re afraid of what might happen if you put them down? Where are you trying to appear confident instead of allowing yourself to learn? Where are you being helpful because you genuinely want to help, and where are you making yourself indispensable so you can feel secure? The next time you feel yourself starting to change colors, pause and ask: “What is actually true for me right now?” Healthy professionalism | The corporate chameleon pattern Adapting how you communicate | Changing what you think to match the room Helping a colleague | Carrying their responsibilities Learning what you don’t know | Pretending you already know Using discretion | Maintaining a facade Being dependable | Believing you must be indispensable Asking appropriate questions | Hiding uncertainty to avoid exposure This episode is an invitation to notice who you become when you go to work. You don’t have to become less excellent or stop contributing. The goal is to know that you already belong before you prove anything. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE Welcome to Holland by Emily Perl Kingsley CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
September 07, 202624min
Number 4: Different Doesn’t Mean Worse: How to Learn to Live Where You Are | Episode 367
Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 367 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m exploring what happens when life takes us somewhere different from where we thought we were going—and why different doesn’t automatically mean worse. Using Emily Perl Kingsley’s Welcome to Holland metaphor as a starting point, I talk about the experience of grieving the life we expected while learning to notice what is possible in the life we actually have. Whether the transition involves a child leaving home, retirement, a relationship ending, a career change, a move, or another unexpected shift, we often see what we’re losing long before we can see what we might gain. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why we so quickly equate change with lossHow uncertainty can make familiar—even unhealthy—patterns feel saferWhy unfamiliar doesn’t mean dangerous, and familiar doesn’t necessarily mean safeHow routines can help us learn to live in a new chapterWhy you can grieve what you left behind while still becoming curious about what comes nextYou can choose a new chapter and still grieve the old one. Grief isn’t evidence that you made the wrong decision, and discomfort isn’t necessarily evidence that something has gone wrong. Sometimes it’s simply what it feels like to be somewhere you haven’t learned how to live yet. This episode is an invitation to resist deciding too quickly that your new reality is worse than the one you imagined. You can plan to go to Italy, land in Holland instead, miss Italy, but still notice the tulips in Holland, and love them too. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE Welcome to Holland by Emily Perl Kingsley CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
August 31, 202615min
Number 5: Why Transitions Change How You See Yourself (and Why That’s a Good Thing) | Episode 366
Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode 366 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about why some of the biggest transitions in our lives also become turning points in how we see ourselves. Transitions aren’t just about changing routines, schedules, jobs, relationships, or where we live. They can change our identity. In this episode, I reflect on several transitions in my own life—from graduate school and moving to New Haven to recovery—and what each one taught me about who I was becoming. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why transitions are really about identity, not just routinesHow a perceived lack of ability can sometimes be a mismatch of values insteadThe different ways recovery changed how I saw myselfHow boundaries reinforce the person you’re becoming and build self-trustWhy you don’t need to have a perfect plan during a transition—you need to stay connected to yourselfI also share how my upcoming transition into working part-time while continuing to run my coaching business is making me think differently about identity, routines, and what it means to become someone new. This episode is a reminder that transitions can reveal strengths you didn’t know you had, show you identities you’ve outgrown, and help you discover that something you thought you wanted may not actually be what you want. So if you’re in the middle of a transition right now, maybe the question isn’t simply, “How do I get through this?” Maybe the better question is: “Who is this transition inviting me to become?” Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at Fragmented to Whole Podcast New to my work: START HERE CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Linkedin Work with Barb! Book a “Say No Without Guilt” Session
August 24, 202614min